change occur when we decide

Hi 7th, Yes. Change must come from within. It's a personal choice. nobody can ever dictate us to change. we can only do so much to inspire, encourage and even challenge someone to change. but we can never force a person to change. i am happy that you realize this soon. let's hope and pray that mom will make good in making a choice and that's for her to do some changes as far as what she can do is concerned...to keep her mobile!

Hope is like a light that shine on your path and keep you away from darkness, if you lose hope of whatever you are fighting for, you will lose the will to reach your goal for a better future ahead for yourself; those you love and care for. Change will come when one decide it is time for change, it will come automatically and one shouldn't try to force it upon anybody for the sake of change. Having say that, it is quite important to give time for the nature to run its course and anybody to decide for him or herself.

hi! i just read your other discussion. i'm sorry to hear about your mom's condition. i know how hard it can be not only for the patient but to the family as well. my uncle has diabetes and heart condition also. recently he was informed that he would be needing a dialysis. it was so ironic, that here i am with a herbal product center and i could not encourage my uncle to try what i'm promoting to other people. yes, the decision has to start from within... for change to occur. i could very well understand my uncle. he's been taking several medicines and he doesn't want to add another capsule more. he said he's having a hard time taking the medicines coz it's difficult to swallow. so... me being me... i made a different approach. i started with the ampalaya tea, then immune system booster and detoxifier. at first it's a no go. but after learning how much the dialysis would cost him and his family... versus taking the herbal supplements... well he was convinced to give it a try. and so far... he's responding good. and going for the third week of "treatment". we do hope for positive changes and improvements by next week when he is scheduled for another check-up. you are right, 52 is so young not get a full life together with her grandkids. and you need to keep things positive and look for alternative approach that could make her convinced and decide to get better. talk to her. and talk to her some more. be a little more patient and understanding. ask her what she wants in lieu of the theraphy. maybe she wants a softer and gradual approach... something that she can handle. give her something to look forward to. enough to give her the strength to become better. i do hope your mom gets better. tc

Your right my friend. It is ultimatlely up to her. Change does occur when we strive for it and there is really nothing that anyone else can do to change that. Supporting her and suggesting things that you think might work would be the best in my opinion. Take care.

that is true but sometimes if you really wanna change a person, you really have to hit them in the guts and hope that their ego gets shaken as well. i have a little bit of the same situation with my older brother. i didn't have a job then. he's the only one in our family who has a job but he refused to contribute to the family. so i talked to him about it. i said to him that my mom was the one who brought him up. why won't he even help with the bills. our debt was increasing so we really needed his help. thankfully he realized that. he had a change of heart.