I'm too home sick!
By Jevendiran
@Jevendiran (778)
India
April 4, 2010 5:58am CST
I'm doing my engineering degree in a town far away from my home town. I have to stay in hostel. It takes around 12 hours for me go home. So I go home only once in a month and sometimes once in two months. I have been with my parents since my childhood and this is the first time I've been sent to hostel. I'm an emotional and affectionate person. Once I start liking someone, I can't be without them. Then think of my present condition! I miss my parents and friends so much. I feel so lonely and sad. How can I get out of this? Don't say "Spend more time with your new friends". It's difficult. Because, they often go somewhere outside but I'm not of that sort. The only place I've gone in the new city is temple! I had never gone to any other places outside my hostel!
4 responses
@dawnald (85135)
• Shingle Springs, California
5 Apr 10
In addition to your studies and your new friends, can you call and/or text your family more often? Maybe that will help?
@Jevendiran (778)
• India
6 Apr 10
That is what I'm doing now to managae this situation. Sometimes it helps. But sometimes it induces my emotions. Somehow I'm managing my situation. Hope it'll be alright soon!
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@EvrWonder (3571)
• Canada
4 Apr 10
I can understand how you feel. It must be somewhat lonely to say the least but may I suggest to focus on your future and realize that time with your family and friends will be again near. Just stay focused on the reason for your being there right now. It isn't for the rest of your life either.
Just focus on what you are doing there so to do your very best. When you do get to leave to go back home after your training you will have awesome marks to boast about!
For now stay focused. Sink your mind into deeper studies to keep occupied. Write letters to your family and friends when the feelings of missing them get grand. Be good to you and comfort yourself with a warm beverage or some snack you really enjoy while you write a letter.
First and foremost, prioritize!
Do not waver from the reasons that you are there in the first place. Just do it, remain strong and you will be thankful that you did in the end.
Perhaps you will look back and then realize that it wasn't so bad after all. Maybe even that perhaps you were being a bit too sensitive considering more important things like educations and maturity.
You can get through this and is only a temporary separation. Be strong.
@Jevendiran (778)
• India
6 Apr 10
You seem to be my best friend! 
What you say is absolutely right! I can understand what you mean. I'll try to focus on my personal development and come out with flying colours!
What you say is absolutely right! I can understand what you mean. I'll try to focus on my personal development and come out with flying colours!@EvrWonder (3571)
• Canada
7 Apr 10
Now you're talking! Good for you. Happiness is a state of mind. Change your focus and attitude and your whole outlook will change.
Also, I find that sometimes when I am feeling like my mood is declining or if I am feeling like I am getting restless, I take a brisk few block walk. When I return, I feel refreshed and can see things from a whole new light.
Keep up the good work and remember it is only temporary. You will be reunited in no time so meanwhile enjoy each day and live life to the fullest, no matter where you are or who you or with, or in this case without.
I have a feeling you are going to do great in your studies as long as you stay focused and enthusiastic about them. learning is awesome. One asset that no one can ever take away from you. Plus knowledge is power. Gain as much as you can when ever you can. Opportunities sometimes only present themselves once. So, Go For It and Have Fun!
@arakawaii (270)
• Philippines
4 Apr 10
I know how it feels, lots of friends I have been there before and if you ask me how they get over the home sickness?, no definite answer, they just say that you'll get used to it later on and try to adopt the new environment you have and try to find something that interest you in that new place...
@Jevendiran (778)
• India
6 Apr 10
That's absolutely right! I feel better now compared to my mindset few months back! Now I'm able to accustom to the new environment and new people. I'm able to move on...
@Ynodhady (95)
• Indonesia
5 Apr 10
i think if it is the first time you are in a new Place or you are Far way from ur house, or seldom see with your parents and your friends. it will make u don't like being at any new place that have never visited. so it need The adjustment with Your new environment. it take Much time to adjust oneself to new invironment that we are not Habitual of Ours. be patience!!! i also have the same experience of you. when i get the further Education. there is not choice for me. i have to leave my village and have to far away with my parents. and then the present i can Enjoy even though iam being at Far away. may u be the successfull what u have done.. evrything need the sacrifice...
@Jevendiran (778)
• India
6 Apr 10
You're right! This is a new place and new environment for me. In fact, even the attitude of people here is entirely different from thos in my town. In my place, people are more affectionate and have brotherly attitude. But here, no one cares for other people. They treat each other as if they were from some alien world! This makes it difficult to get used up to this environment. But now I'm a bit better. I've got good friends. I'm able to move on!
