I am single but want to have a baby

@drshav (205)
Philippines
April 4, 2010 12:11pm CST
I'm in my late 30's and not in a relationship. As they say when you reach the age of 30's your biological clock starts ticking and this makes me worry. I badly wanted to have a baby but the problem is where can I find a decent man to father my child? No strings attached in other words. I just want a baby. I know this is kind of desperate but this is all I can think of right now. If only I can afford artificial insemination, I would definitely go for it. Can you give me an advice. Thanks a lot!
13 responses
@setsuna26 (2751)
• Philippines
5 Apr 10
Wow! what can i say? im shocked i never thought that my friend is thinking about this so seriously, honestly , sometimes the right person for us comes in a very strange way i still believe this person is very much possible to happen in you my friend.Dont give up and keep your faith alive sooner or later you will be able to find the right one for you and you will be happy for the rest of your life.God has plans for all of us and he will make his move when he knows that your ready
@drshav (205)
• Philippines
5 Apr 10
Thank you for those nice words. I am still positive about everything, I do hope that the right person will come.
@samson1967 (7414)
• India
4 Apr 10
I will be glad to give you a healthy and wise baby without any strings attached. Please revert with your opinion.
@drshav (205)
• Philippines
4 Apr 10
Thanks for the offer.
@fluffysue (1482)
• United States
9 May 11
I'm wondering how this worked out for you, and what you decided to do. I've been thinking about this lately myself. Although my economic situation is not the greatest at the moment, so I am thinking it will be at least a year before I can consider it. The cost of childcare is a huge consideration. I don't know how much it is where you are, but here it can be $1000 a month to have a child in a daycare center. That is a huge deterrent for me.
@reckon21 (3479)
• Philippines
18 Apr 10
I understand your need for a baby but somehow your post is really weird and shocking. I used to believe that all women want to have a happy family that is consist of loving and responsible husband. Healthy and beautiful kids. But you are different because you only want a baby and nothing else. You are young and you can still have a baby and please don't be in a hurry. Everything has a proper time and place and I'm sure you will meet someone who will love you truly and provide you a healthy and adorable baby. Don't rush things out and always be positive and broadminded about things that can make you happy.
@zim1fW (285)
• Philippines
18 Apr 10
Look for decent people who are still young enough to have not thought about marriage or relationships seriously, and may want to help you with what you need. At this point, issues on fidelity are not yet strong. Second to third year in college might fit this profile. To be honest, that would be a difficult search because there is not club for people like this unless myLotters will have one. :D
@Misled (1)
27 May 10
I can help you, If you want to more - just respond and I'll let you know.
@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
9 Apr 10
do not worry much about that for now... i know you want to have a baby at your age... but i think you will have to wait for the time to come that you have a partner, husband and so that your baby will have a family.
• Philippines
17 Apr 10
Then if you want to have a baby then you have to get married. Try to think the consequences when having a baby without a father., he or she will look for his / her father when she/he grow older. find time to look for a partner with you..It is really good to have this so called daddy for your child.
• Philippines
9 Apr 10
this reminds me of jennifer lopez's new movie,the back-up plan and jennifer aniston's movie,the switch.both characters are almost in their later twenties/early thirties and planned to have babies even without the presence of a boyfriend.if you would like to have a baby and cannot go for an artificial insemination,find a willing donor.as long as you talk about the ground rules before procreating,this will save for future issues.
@Jotomy (6322)
• India
6 Apr 10
Please get married and have a child otherwise you have to face somany problems, rather you may be inviting problems. If not Best to adopt a child, there are many orphans are there, help them, give them love and brought up them. Good luck, have a nice future
@aramudsu (26)
• Australia
17 Apr 10
Its really nice to have a baby at your age. But think of the kid.... Once it grows up it has to face lot of social problems... The kid always need both male and female role model... Would suggest you sit and think on this before deciding... If still you are confused on taking decision, contact me i will try to help you..
• Philippines
14 Apr 10
I understand how you feel right especially with your age right now.But I cannot say that it is a right thing to do. May I ask? How is your life style? Do you have time going out with your friends? Is it your choice not to have a boyfriend? I have a sister who got married at her late 30s,on times that she was not married yet she never had that idea of having a baby without being married. And right now she is married having 2 kids and she is happy with her family. What I am trying to say to you is that, it is not too late yet. You can still find a man who will be your husband and build a family with him.
@mokkka (881)
• Bulgaria
17 Apr 10
If you feel ready to have a baby I can't see what is the problem.There are so many women who are single but still raise children.As you are 30 it isn't still late to fing a husband but if you wait him longer it would then be more difficult for you to have a baby.You may later find a man who will help you with you child.