Do you tell your parents how much you care for them?

@setsuna26 (2751)
Philippines
April 5, 2010 1:13am CST
Sometimes it helps alot to tell someone that you care for them. Hearing someone telling you that you care for them makes you feel so light and feels so good too.What more if you will be hearing something like this from your own son or daughter. Now the question again, do you tell your parents how much they mean and how much you love them? or you just cant say it but you just express it with your actions?
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@indahfth (11161)
• Indonesia
6 Apr 10
I was never revealed, but I always tried to show with action. My parents would know that I care. without my express they'd understand. I was the most difficult to express feelings, so I'm more pleased with the give action. I feel it is more meaningful than just a greeting.
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@indahfth (11161)
• Indonesia
6 Apr 10
I will try to express to my parents. is not easy, but I'll try.
@setsuna26 (2751)
• Philippines
6 Apr 10
I agree its difficult to just say it as it is, and its also wonderful that you were able to express your feelings through actions. But i believe it is much more satisfying if you were able to say it and express it as well. That way your parents will be feeling complete. Thank you for sharing your experience and thoughts with me hope to see more of your ideas in the coming days my friend have a great day
@setsuna26 (2751)
• Philippines
6 Apr 10
Im just so glad that i have someone like you. I mean just the fact that you want to try it and tell your parents is so sweet already. Thank you very much for heeding my request my friend and God bless indeed!
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• China
5 Apr 10
Well,I am so shame to say I never tell to my parents that I care for them so far,maybe I wouldn't never say it out.But I do care them very much even though I didn't say it out.It's difficult for me to express my emotion to those who I really care.I just hope they can feel it.I know I'm not a good daughter,but I am trying to be.
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• China
5 Apr 10
It's too difficult for me at the present.
@setsuna26 (2751)
• Philippines
5 Apr 10
Im not asking you to do it right away my amber, maybe God will find a way on how you will be able to do it sometime.Thank you for sharing your precious time with me again my amber. Have a great day and enjoy mylotting!
@setsuna26 (2751)
• Philippines
5 Apr 10
Just the fact that your trying to be a good daughter matters so much already,you should try it sometime, nothin to worry theres nothing to lose at all. After saying such kind words im pretty sure even if your parents wont say anything deep in their hearts they will be glad and happy to know that their daughter loves them so. Good day my amber
@ANTIQUELADY (36440)
• United States
5 Apr 10
bOTH MY PARENTS ARE DECEASED BUT I WILL TELL U I WOULD NEVER GET TIRED OF HEARING MY SONS say i love u. Since things are not so good right now w/either one of my sons it would be wonderful to hear. Happy days to u.
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@ANTIQUELADY (36440)
• United States
5 Apr 10
U are such a kind sweet young man, thanks for your prayer. I need all those i van get. I know how proud your mom has to be of u. Never stop telling her u love her, i know how much that means to a mom. Happy days to u.
@ckyera (17332)
• Philippines
6 Apr 10
hello setsuna, right now, i am trying to be more expressive with my feeling to my parents. but i admit that i have hard times telling it to them face to face or through oral conversation... what i usually do is to express my feelings through writings, and i 'm glad that they appreciate it. and besides i think even without saying a word, they very well know that i care for them and that i love them more than anything else... and you know even if its through letters only, they have a tendency of becoming too emotional...so what more if i tell it to them face to face... i still believe that action speaks louder than words and i know that they feel how much i care for them...
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@setsuna26 (2751)
• Philippines
6 Apr 10
Im at least glad that your giving your effort to show them how much you care by expressing your feelings. But then again it wont hurt to try sometime to tell them how much you feel too. Yes action speaks louder than words but action coupled with words is the best way to show how much you care for your parents. When you gather your strength try to tell them directly it will just take a few seconds to say i love you. Thanks for joining in this discussion my friend
• United States
5 Apr 10
I tell both my parents that I love them. Being a guy, sometimes it is harder for a guy to say I love you to one's parents because guys are supposed to be macho. I have learned that it is always important to say I love you to your parents and try and show that you love your parents by obeying them. Often enough I fail at obeying my parents and constantly disobey them, which hurts them a lot. I know my parents are proud of me. I hope that in the future I be successful enough to give them honor and help them out financially, as they helped me through the years.
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@setsuna26 (2751)
• Philippines
5 Apr 10
Thats exactly what im trying to point out, sometimes we tend to forget that its important to tell these people how much we care for them. First we will never know until when they will be with us. Second it wont hurt your machismo or your identity if you will tell your parents how much you care for them. Its more than just paying your respect saying i love you to your parents is showing your gratitude as well, without them there is no you. Thank you for sharing your thoughts and opinion eddyspaghetti
5 Apr 10
wow! I like your response there buddy! Being macho is the thing! Then again, i know even if one can't say it. One way or the other, there will be an effort in order to express the message of CARE to anyone specially your parents. ;-P
@ginoduds (50)
5 Apr 10
Huhu ;-( Sad to say NO. On the other hand happy to say also eventhough i may not able to say it but the good thing is that i am showing them how much they mean to me and how much i care for them too! Like they say. Action speaks louder than words. ayt?! ;-P
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• China
5 Apr 10
I agree with you.It's so difficult to say it out to our parents.So we can just say"speak louder than words"
@setsuna26 (2751)
• Philippines
5 Apr 10
It is true my friend action speaks louder than words. But the thing is showing of your affection and your love to them by telling them is one thing.Parents silently patiently are waiting for us their sons and daughters to say those simple words to them. As simple as they may seem i wonder what keeps us from saying them to our parents? You should try it sometime, im sure it will have a huge impact in you afterwards
@annierose (19554)
• Philippines
5 Apr 10
hi setsuna, I find it hard to express in words my love and care for my family. I feel that I will melt right away in front of them when I say it. However, even though I cannot express in in words, I always show it on my actions. I know there are lots of ways to show your care and love in actions rather than words. Words sometimes can be misleading but actions are not. For example, I can minute by minute tell them that I love them but it can only be true words but not in actions. However there are also some people who can do what they say and not just give a senseless talk. In my case, I show them that I care for them and love them by being with them especially if they need someone to talk with. I help them especially in household chores. I listen to them and never say any hurting words. I believe those are ways for them to know how much I appreciate them.
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@setsuna26 (2751)
• Philippines
5 Apr 10
Thank you very much annierose for that honest comment of yours. I have to admit its pretty hard to just say it infront of them,specially if your not used to it. And im so happy to know that your able to show your feelings by means of your actions too. Who knows one of these days you will be able to tell them in person how much you feel bout them too. Thank you for being honest and for joining in this topic hoping to see more of you next time
• Philippines
6 Apr 10
I am not really an expressive person and I tend to not to say it directly with them but my action would tell it to them directly that i do care for them ans so love them that i would not mind to indulge my time in caring for them like it is a payback time since they already care for me when they are still strong and now they are at the older age, it is my pleasure as a sign of compliments to look after their welfare as well.
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@setsuna26 (2751)
• Philippines
6 Apr 10
Thats just so sweet of you , the fact that your taking care of your parents this time only shows your love and understanding, but why dont you try sometime to tell them directly how much you care? It will surely make them feel fulfilled and satisfied.It wont hurt to at least tell them that. Give it a try sometime and then tell me how does it feel too. Again you have my thanks for sharing your story and your thoughts about this topic Have a great day!
• Tianjin, China
6 Apr 10
I never say it to my parents,i can't open my mouth,if i say to them,they will surprise ,i think. Chinese people is shy to say that. But i love them very much ,my and my sister have been married. we call them everyday ,chat with them, about what they do ,and so on. i think that they know how we love them.and we know how they love us too.
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@setsuna26 (2751)
• Philippines
6 Apr 10
I understand even if your not a chinese and you tell me that your having a hard time telling your parents your feelings i will be able to understand you as well. Merely expressing your feelings through your actions is acceptable already. But sometime why not try to go an extra mile? like tell them that you love them for a change! And see its effect on you and them as well. Thanks for sharing and Godbless!
5 Apr 10
Hello setsuna! We might believe that action speaks louder than words, though, spoken words of care and much more love would mean so much to the ears of the person which it is directed upon. Spoken words like this endearment is just like the sweetest taste ever experienced or a nice breeze under the scorching sun, or might be a spring of cold water while walking at a desert.Oh!i could indeed go on and on citing examples of how it feels when hearing those words. And realizing this fact,how could I bear not to let my parents experience such happiness by telling them this special moving word.Though we also have to consider that mere utterance of this word will be void when not coupled with visible and felt actions too because a word meant is also an action being carried out.For this discussion I would say YES!
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@setsuna26 (2751)
• Philippines
5 Apr 10
This is the kind of answer im longing for since i started this discussion and im so thankful to you dragonangel for giving me this beautiful answer. And showing me that more of us still show their love and appreciation to our parents .It wont hurt us to say i love you to someone who gave birth to us, for someone who carried us for 9 months for someone who practically gave their lives just to raise us, maybe there are some cases that their parents are not as caring and loving as others but the fact that they let you out of this world, that is enough reason for you to thank them and tell them you love them.Thank you for the time that you gave me for your kind comment and may God bless you and your family, hope to see more of your work here in mylot.
@umit_umit (1984)
• India
5 Apr 10
well by hug,love giving good things from the market!respect what else one can offer to the giver of the life!they only want this from the kids!!
@setsuna26 (2751)
• Philippines
5 Apr 10
Yeah im sure your parents will be very much proud of you.Actually when i hear stories just like yours right now im feeling so good too. Because i know someone out there is happy because of what your doing. Keep it up and im sure good karma and God will bless you with so much more blessing . Thank you very much for sharing your part of the story
@windpain (25)
• Philippines
6 Apr 10
I'm a man of action, literally. I know, i've never said the words to them for a year now. And it's sad. But I really don't know why it is so hard for me to speak words of endearment. All that I do is to express it with my actions. I buy them gifts... I pray for them... I wish someday I could say those words...
@setsuna26 (2751)
• Philippines
6 Apr 10
Yes for now you might be having problems telling them directly but im pretty sure in time you will be able to tell them how much you care too. Time will tell and when that time comes im pretty sure you will be very proud of yourself too. ;)Dont forget to inform me when that day comes .Thanks for sharing your views hey feel free to join with my other topics too have a great day!
@lady1993 (27225)
• Philippines
6 Apr 10
I'm not really good at telling my parents how i really feel about them, i just make them letters and i show them by actions...
@setsuna26 (2751)
• Philippines
6 Apr 10
Most of us are like that, we are having problems saying them directly how we feel, but hey im glad that your able to show them your feelings even by letters or at least expressing in your own way, that for me is enough to say that you truly love your parents. Sometime you should at least try to say to them how much you care so that they will be much more happier try it sometime it wont hurt to try at all. Thanks for sharing your point my friend
@xGuilt (26)
• Philippines
5 Apr 10
i say it to them , and show it through unusual acts. acts that i don't do much. because i believe in the fact that we completely forget showing them appreciation until it's too late for them to know or feel our love.
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@setsuna26 (2751)
• Philippines
5 Apr 10
Im glad that there are still alot of you guys who believe that we need to somehow tell them directly how we feel . Saying you love your parents specially if they really love you too is what makes them feel appreciated although you can also express your feelings,but when you do it both it makes our parents even happier.Its not to late yet tell them you love them until you have time, or else be sorry when their not with you anymore. Thanks your comment xguilt and hope to see more of you in my coming topics as well
@dloveli (4366)
• United States
5 Apr 10
I am the black sheep. So I dont really talk to them much. I am a parent though. I tell them I love them and how important they are to me EVERYDAY! Parents are the reason there children behave differently. If we nurture them, they will have a good foundation to build a great personality. Life is too short to pick favorites or isolate our children. If only all parents would do this. dl
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@setsuna26 (2751)
• Philippines
5 Apr 10
And i can feel that your a good parent. Hands down to you my friend, yes i wish the same thing too, that parents will guide and mold their children the way your guiding yours. Well im hoping there will still be time for you to be able to say those kind words as well to your parents no matter how they raised you. Lets all leave the planning to God. Thank you for your kind respond and participation its greatly appreiated!
@sunnycool (12714)
• India
5 Apr 10
Nope i would never tell them how much i care for them,rather i would prefer showing my love and concern i have for them,when time comes they would be really glad to have me.There are many ways to exhibit your love apart from telling them directly in other words being expressive---that would be Odd too if i tell them that i love them a lot of a sudden.so i prefer keeping my feelings to myself.great day.
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@setsuna26 (2751)
• Philippines
5 Apr 10
Most of the people whom i know preffer experessing their love too,but studies show the effect of telling someone you love them is as good as expressing your love to your parents.I was once asked by a priest how come i dont do the said action. I said id rather express it its easier for me,but that doesnt mean i dont love them, the priest answered back your parents wont be with you for along time and the feelin of assurance that you will give if you tell them you love them will be priceless.Then again he asked me whats keeping you from telling them you love them?i said im not used to it , he told me why dont you try?and then he told me when you have your own kids and you grow up you will find out for yourself how good it is for you to feel and hear your son or daughter saying i love you. Thanks for sharing your thoughts and your ideas to me my friend
• India
5 Apr 10
I do not tell anything like that to my parents,but I am sure that they know that I care them a lot. Yesterday I took my mother to a marriage function.She was not interested .We took her by force as I knew she will enjoy every moments there. Now,she is very happy.She is telling everyone that she managed to meet a lot of her relatives and friends only because I took her for that function. She is 80+. You need not tell your parents these things,you can make them feel it.....
@setsuna26 (2751)
• Philippines
5 Apr 10
Maybe expressing them will be good but im telling you reassuring your love to someone is one great deed. Whats keeping you from saying you love someone who gave birth to you? although its your ways and means i just think everything will be much more meaningful if they are expressed in words too but just by actions.Sometimes families break because of misundertandings, they try to express what they feel but since nobody took the initiative to say those kinds of kind words they end up hurting each other more.It will just take as much as 5 seconds to utter such words and yet most of us tend to ignore it . Try it sometime and you will be amazed of what love can do for all of you. Thank you for participating my friend have a nice day
• India
5 Apr 10
Thank you .I will certainly tell her that I love her so much.Still I think the action not the words are more important.
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@setsuna26 (2751)
• Philippines
5 Apr 10
Both are important my friend after telling her such good words im sure both of you will be happy. And im so thankful that you will try at least nothin to lose actually you will even gain more love coming from your parents
• Philippines
5 Apr 10
Hello setsuna my friend! well as the saying goes "Action Speaks louder than voice"..Almost everyone now,express our love to our parents & love ones by showing it on through our actions...but of course it is much appreciated & very good to hear it directly from them...& I may not able to say it all the time but i tried to convey it to them especially to my mom how much she means to me & how much love i have for her & how much i am grateful that she is my mother.
@setsuna26 (2751)
• Philippines
5 Apr 10
Thats just so sweet of you.No wonder your a friend of mine in this site. As they say birds with the same feather flocks together .Hahahaha, yeah its really a feat when we tell our parents how much we care for them. Not just by expressing but also telling them how much they mean to us. Hope to see you more one of these days and enjoy your day
• Philippines
5 Apr 10
i really don't express it but deep inside in my heart it is there, i love my parents so much specially my mother because she is the one working for the family!
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@setsuna26 (2751)
• Philippines
5 Apr 10
You should try sometime to express or at least tell her how much you feel for her or how much you love her. It will be so good to hear from someone whom you love too, when they tell you that they love you as well. Its more like you've been charged with love batteries when that happens . And even if your not rich, its as if theres nothing more you can ask for when you know there are alot of people whom really love you
• Philippines
5 Apr 10
I am not that showy of my feelings towards my parents. i think it's so corny. i do tell them i love them by texting them. when im about to go home late.. i text them 'i will be late.. im sorry, ilove you."
5 Apr 10
You don't have to be shy in telling them those special words sOnny. Go ahead and let them hear it straight from you.They'll really be just glad.
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@setsuna26 (2751)
• Philippines
5 Apr 10
At first yes it is indeed corny lol i believe your from the philippines ;)with the word corny tagged thats why. Well im still glad that you somehow manage to tell them how you feel for them. I mean even through texts. Sometime gather your strength to tell them in person how much you care.You'll never know when will be the last time that you will be able to tell them such kind words. Hey thanks for dropping by and sharing your ideas