Is Long-Distance Relationship has a Happy Ending?
@jkcounterpuncher (125)
Philippines
April 6, 2010 3:16am CST
Maybe this topic is very much common nowadays. With too many available social networking websites, we tend to meet someone and build relationship in a way that can be mutual. Lucky enough for some this relationship blooms and go in a deeper way. But for others, this might be a joke as there people in a certain social networking sites, chatrooms, and the likes are fakes, as a relationship is impossible to happen. But for those who is experiencing such kind of relationship is battling to hold on to each companies promises or should I say agreement and trusts. Well, real people is like gold-digging activity, hard to find but when you found one, it's something to be treasured. If happens you build this kind of relationship, do you believe there is a so-called "happy ending"?
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@mjmiles (49)
• Philippines
6 Apr 10
I have always been a firm believer that there is no such thing as happy endings. It only happens in movies.
In every relationship, long-distance or not, wouldn't end if you are both happy with it. It did end, for whatever reasons perhaps, but surely its not because you are both happy.
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@jkcounterpuncher (125)
• Philippines
7 Apr 10
If there is no happy endings, how do you feel right now? Aren't you happy? Happiness comes from different form, whether it is from relationship, for what you have achieved in life or career, from spiritual aspects, etc. Behind that is the satisfaction. No one can guarantee what a certain thing would end up. But we're already guaranteed to be happy. It's up for us on how we deal with it. As for relationship, the feeling of being satisfied with the one you love, long- or short-distance, is an example of happiness. And it's hard to explain on how do you feel it. A simple smile drawn in your face is the simplest kind of happiness would you ever feel, it brings eternal flame. Nice point of view, like it!
@chipesterkhan (2925)
• Philippines
6 Apr 10
in my case, it hasn't really worked out well.
It always ended with them finding other people
and now my girlfriend and i are about to be separated by distance but i'm still willing to go through it again
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@jkcounterpuncher (125)
• Philippines
6 Apr 10
Oh, how sad to hear that. Maybe there's other way to salvage your relationship. If you want and willing to do it as you love your girlfriend, please do so. I can't imagine how will accept to be separated by a distance, that really hurts. But if you think it's not too late yet, then do something. Good luck!
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@geniustiger (1694)
• Philippines
6 Apr 10
Some instances happen that it is a happy ending.
It depends upon the relationships of each lover.
How they manage,care, showers and handle.
But I know some it works for them. I think it is also
luck of each one to have it successful.
It matters also how they could relate with each other
in talking in sites . Different styles and observations
and how you can do this in real situation but it is
really true.
@jkcounterpuncher (125)
• Philippines
6 Apr 10
If love don't fits, then happy ending would never ever happened. In my point of view, simple or should I say basic things plays a big role on how relationships succeed, whether it is long-distance or short-distance. Whatever differences it may be, I has nothing to do as long as love is present and it is strongly practiced. Nowadays, modern people has change is view about what love is, do they? Thanks.
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@sjvenden27 (1840)
• United States
6 Apr 10
Yes a long-distance relationship can work! There has to be a layer of trust that is built up between the two of you, and if there are any genuine concerns about the relationship; they are communicated, and discussed with an open line of communication.. How do I know this?? Well my boy friend is a truck driver.. He is out on the road weeks at a time... It would be easy for either one of us to stray.. It is easier for him then me, but that's my opinion... I am home with the kids... anyways... that was getting off point
A relationship has a make it or break it point... regardless of the distance.. been through quite a few over the past two years.. and the main factor during all of those times was a lack of communication; on both sides.. Not just one.. They say that a relationship should equal 100 percent... 50/50 well that may seem right... but its not... In order to have a true relationship you have to be willing to give all of yourself to that person and that person willing to give all of them self to you; equaling two hundred percent.. Does this mean that you no longer have a life outside of the relationship with friends, family, etc... no not at all.. just your willingness to be open about everything.. Yes I would love to say that is easy but its not.. We are still working on that factor... I know that I still keep things from him and he does with me too.. but there is an understanding that in order to keep this thing going we have to learn what each other's buttons are, and DONT push them... and respect that sometimes its best to walk away, or hang up the phone in the middle of a conversation because nothing is being hear either way... which leads to hurt feelings and resentment..
If you are looking/involued in a relationship that is online (never met in person/talked on the phone more then a couple times) be careful... Yes there are genuine people out there looking for their soul mate or other half.. but there are people out there that think online dating is just a game to play with peoples' minds... trust your gut if there is something fishy going on that you feel in the pit of your stomach, chances are you are probably right..
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@jkcounterpuncher (125)
• Philippines
6 Apr 10
You just proved it that it works. Though, the hardships that we can experience from it is already given in any kind of relationship. Yes, it is a test but let's not forget the lessons that we can get from it because that would make us a better person. As long as trust, loyalty, respect, of course, love and communication is always practiced, there could never any doubt that happy ending might not happened.
The person involved plays a vital role here as it will depend on him/her on how to apply all those major factors that every relationship must have. As on online, there will be a high percentage of fake person, but there still real or genuine that you can count on. And you're right, guts must be used wisely or if you're brave enough, take a risk... Thanks, this is great!
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@airakumar (1553)
• India
6 Apr 10
Yes, definitely, I think so. Many long distance relationship has a happy ending. When you start a long distance relationship you must be realistic of things happening in your life. Long Distance relationships are a true test to a couple’s commitment and personal limits. It takes a great amount of effort to maintain and often people involved in them, realize that they evolve into a state of emotion that they never found themselves in before. With the distance working to keep you and your sweetie apart, your defense is keeping all lines of communication open. It doesn’t matter how you do it as long as you do it. Every long distance couple should find ways to communicate that make both partners comfortable and happy.
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@jkcounterpuncher (125)
• Philippines
6 Apr 10
I think this goes down to on how you would want to invest on this kind of relationship. This is a serious matter once you get involved in as you will invest not just your time, but the emotional aspects. And you're right, it is a give-and-take relationship. No matter how far the distance is, as long as the communication is constant, it is no difference from short-distance relationships. Having said that, you are aware of what's happening on both parties. The happy ending comes when two people are willing to invest all the necessary things...for happiness... Thanks!
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@jkcounterpuncher (125)
• Philippines
6 Apr 10
Lucky for you and you handled it right. Your testimony just proved it that there's no barrier can stop from finding true happiness. Great!
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@1anurag1 (3576)
• India
6 Apr 10
i think in exceptional cases they have happy ending.
as in real time relation people measure this in term of monetary and in long distance relationship they just try to measure this more in different parameters.
for many this is merely a way to pass their time. so how can be they successful in most cases.
@jkcounterpuncher (125)
• Philippines
6 Apr 10
Of course, we can't ignore those things that might happen along the way, right? Aside from the long-distance, it's one of those tests that you will faced. It depends on you on how you handle it or if you are willing to take a risk... That's nice!
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@anurag3786 (6267)
• India
7 Apr 10
I think yes that long distance relationship has happy ending because in that relationship no any confusion between both.. persons.. and have a great understanding for each other.. so it goes a happy ending.. have a nice day and keep mylotting always..
@jkcounterpuncher (125)
• Philippines
7 Apr 10
Straight to the point indeed. Although, no one can guarantee if such relationship would end up as that, there's always a limitation. But, then again, the very basic aspect of it is that, it depends on the two person on how they would handle this kind of situation, how will they keep the fire burning...Thanks!
@eloveriz2004 (499)
• Philippines
7 Apr 10
I have experienced having a long-distance relationship and sad to say, it didn't work. I went through terrible heartaches and moving on wasn't so easy because I was hoping that our love story will have a happy ending. It turned out so opposite to my expectations.
@jkcounterpuncher (125)
• Philippines
7 Apr 10
This is a learning process for those having with this kind of relationship. You took a risk but then failed and hurt. But what you gained is something that you can have for the rest of your life, and that is the lessons learned cause that will make you a better person. Maybe you just fall into a person that can't handle this kind of situation and that's what separates them from you... God bless...
@kucluk (33)
• Indonesia
7 Apr 10
i do believe because it happen to me. we know each other at chatting room, and have the same aim. so we meet in reality life and still have the same aim after that. for 1 year i have a long distance relationship before i decided to merried him and now we got 2 children
@jkcounterpuncher (125)
• Philippines
7 Apr 10
That indeed, one of the success stories that long-distance relationship end up with happy ending... God bless...
@jkcounterpuncher (125)
• Philippines
7 Apr 10
They end up happy together because they not just trust but because they are truly found themselves into one another. That's destiny... And for those who just doing for past time and amusement are those people that who is not willing to get into this kind of relationship... Thanks...
