Repeated SORRIES, is this worth believing?
By dragonangel
@dragonangel (551)
April 6, 2010 12:00pm CST
We are trained to say sorry whenever we do something wrong.We are also trained to accept the act and to forgive the person.But when it comes to the point that the apologies are too many to contain, do you think this is still worth believing? Do you think it has the power to be accepted and to just be forgotten?I wonder what you would do if someone asks forgiveness to you over and over with the same mistake?
7 responses
@dragonangel (551)
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6 Apr 10
You know,there are times when i consider myself stupid for being so forgiving aphrina.I wish sooner i could make my stand and really pin point the fact of how monotonous it is to hear apologies for the same mistakes.
@dragonangel (551)
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6 Apr 10
It can be stupid when you continuously forgives someone who in some way or another doesn't really mean his apology and as a result never correct his so to say admitted mistakes.I want to believe that there is really the point that one should say ENOUGH OF IT!
@megamatt (14292)
• United States
7 Apr 10
The word "sorry" is something that loses meaning when used way too often. I mean, people use it but only a fraction of the people mean it. Yet, we feel obligated to say it because it is the right thing to do. It is one of those things where we do what is right and not what we truly mean, so we can relieve a weight on your conscious.
As for believing it, it depends. Giving the person the benefit of the doubt is good but there is no benefit of being a fool about that. That I do not doubt at all. Plus if the person makes the same mistake, then they are obviously not sorry or they have a very short memory. It is either one or the other and I am not really sure what is worse. Still once is a mistake, twice is foolishness, but when you keep going on and one, the word sorry loses impact and sorry is not enough.
@dragonangel (551)
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7 Apr 10
Yes megamatt,probably they aren't really sorry at all.It's just a lip service.This will eventually lead someone to doubt his/her credibility.
@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
11 May 10
If the same mistake is being committed with any type of change at all I'd begin to wonder if the person really was sorry and start telling them that I do not accept the apology and for them to prove that they really mean it. Hopefully this would make them act and understand that what they are doing is not right or unhealthy for them or others around them.
@MeganK (88)
• United States
6 Apr 10
It all depends on what is said around the "sorry" and the emotions of the person giving the apology. I think that an apology is usually worth believing, and if it isn't then you can definitely tell the difference. If someone has made the same mistake over and over again, and keeps saying sorry, then their apologies shouldn't be accepted any longer. If they were truly sorry for their actions and the way they made you feel, then they would avoid making that mistake again at all costs.
@dragonangel (551)
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7 Apr 10
Exactly MeganK.What's the point of saying sorry when after a while there you are repeating the same mistake again and over and over even. That would mean that those people are just playing with someones feeling.
@unique16 (1531)
• United States
6 Apr 10
Hello dragonangel,
I would be highlys suspicious of that person constantly saying they are sorry unless the are handicap or emtionally unstable then they cannot help themselves or understand the problem. Sometimes it how the person grew up in the family if they all do it then it was taught to the family.
Thanks and have a great day
Sincelrey Unique16
@dragonangel (551)
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6 Apr 10
Yes, it's really hard to believe someone anymore when it's repeatedly said.It just seems so boring and it just sucks and is defeaning to the ear.It's just like when they said "sorry" it isn't really meant by heart.Right?
@netcoder (275)
• Philippines
9 Apr 10
it become a habit for them already and if we keep on accepting their sorry then it makes them feel that its alright to make mistakes since we accept sorry, so twice is enough and if theres another follows then better let them realize that what they do is no longer acceptable. it will make them wake up their mind and stop doing the same mistakes again and again.
@frontvisions101 (16043)
• Philippines
6 Apr 10
I don't know. Maybe. I think if someone asks for forgiveness, we have to give it. If God can forgive, then so can we. Even if it's not believable we still have to forgive but we have to clear to them that it's getting repetitive and ask for the reason why they keep doing it.
