How do you deal with the death of a loved one?
@honeydew82174 (1720)
United States
April 6, 2010 12:28pm CST
My grandpa died a few days ago. He was like my parent. I work in the health care field and have seen many die. It is much worse when its someone you love and care about. I feel so bad for my grandmas loss that I cant even express how terriable she must feel. They have been married for over 50 years. Anyone got any ideas on how to keep grandma busy now? It's got to be the lonest feeling ever.
4 responses
@LadyMarissa (12148)
• United States
7 Apr 10
It's NOT easy to do!!! My Mom passed away about a year & a half ago. She & my Dad were married for 65 years & including dating they were together for over 70 years. I go over & cook for him twice a week & usually stay for 3-4 hours. I've just tried to let him deal with his grief at his own pace & let him know I'm there if he needs me.It was really hard for him during the first 6 months. You might want to watch for signs of depression. That was the problem when he gave us the hardest time. His doctor gave him antidepressants & he began to level off. No matter what emotion he expressed, I assured him it was OK as he needed to work through his grief in his own way.I worried for a while that he might not survive it, but he seems to be doing better now thank God!!! You might want to find activities that will keep her busy so she doesn't have time to dwell on her grief. Don't get offended when she says rude things to you as she really isn't directing them at you. She's just releasing frustrations!!!
@honeydew82174 (1720)
• United States
7 Apr 10
You hit that right on the head. Grandma is crabby and wants to sleep all the time and hide in her room. She use to play on the computer, read books, sew and do crafty things but the last month grandpa was here she hide in her room. I think it was hard to see him like that. I think depression is setting in. I guess you can only do what you can do and hope for the best. I think I'll have to talk to her about some meds.
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@1hopefulman (45123)
• Canada
7 Apr 10
Hi honeydew82174! My condolences on the loss of your grandfather. Your grandmother will need the love and support of the family and friends at this time. A big piece of her life has just been taken away. The loss of a loved one is a heavy load to carry. God bless!
@maanrodriguez (604)
• Philippines
6 Apr 10
my deepest condolences to you and your family. losing a loved one is tough. I lost one of my uncles three years back and it still hurts sometimes. although it does get lesser each year, allow granda time to heal. dont worry, it will come.
@setsuna26 (2751)
• Philippines
6 Apr 10
My condolences for what happened to your grandpa, i think you should help your grandma realize that dying is a part of life too.Everybody will have its turn, and it just so happen that its your good grandpa's turn right now. Try to tell her that your grandpa is now resting well with God and that she should not be that sad at all because thats not what your grandpa wants. Try to make her see the beauty of life with or without some loved ones and that she still have you and the rest of the family to love and to care as well. Again i feel sorry for the loss and i know how hard it is but in time every would will heal ;) Godbless 
