I'm in a Mood Tonight
By kprofgames
@kprofgames (3089)
United States
April 6, 2010 5:47pm CST
A dear friend of mine just had to pack up her stepson and send him off to his fathers. Note, the father left her for another woman and left ALL 4 of his children with my friend.
She as been this boys mother for so many years that he has no memories of his bio mother. His dad left the entire family because of some mid life crsis that he felt he had to leave his wife and live with a younger woman. Just saying, his wife is 26 years old and his current - whatever - is 16.
She refuses to turn him in for being with a minor. She didn't want child support or spouse support but when it came down to it she had to do it to support her children.
This woman lives for her family and in the back of my head I'm thinking what MAN goes through a mid life crises at age 27???
I feel deeply for her and have cried on the phone with her about this. He's not coming back and if he did, would she really want him - after a year of being gone with some teeny bopper that dropped out of high school and knew he was married with a pregnant wife?
I think I'm just venting more than anything, but if this were your friend, how much more support could you give without picking up that phone and turning this waste of oxeygen in for what he's done.
What would you do? Turn him in or let it go out of respect for your friends wishes? I'm struggling here.
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@sparkofinsanity (20471)
• Regina, Saskatchewan
7 Apr 10
First of all, I don't believe for one minute a 27 year old man had a midlife crisis. If he is with a 16 year old, he's either a budding pedophile or has a twisted view of appropriate behaviour. To leave a pregnant wife his own age for a high school kid is outrageous. So I personally would have no sympathy for him. And you can bet your bottom dollar that his kids being left behind was the best thing for them. Can you imagine them being raised daily with the kind of example he sets, especially where women are concerned? Being with a minor is not against the law for nothing. In your shoes, I think I would turn the creep in. Or at least make a report to Children's Aid. Then support your friend to the wall to make sure she keeps custody of those kids. Good luck and let us know how it turns out.
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@sparkofinsanity (20471)
• Regina, Saskatchewan
7 Apr 10
Well it explains why the 16 year old girl is screwed up! If Social Services won't do anything, then it's time to call the cops. Sorry, but what other avenue of recourse does your friend have? File for divorce maybe and cite the living arrangements of the husband as unfit for the company of his kids............
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@kprofgames (3089)
• United States
7 Apr 10
True that, but before her and her worthless husband even knew the boy was abused - he was sent to foster care instead of dad - for a year and a half. They didn't even know what happened to him as a toddler and then poof he disappeared. There are some SERIOUS issued down here with the legal system and child care issues Sparky. The children aren't the best interest most of the time.
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@kprofgames (3089)
• United States
7 Apr 10
What pisses me off. Is this teener boppers mom called it in and all Social Services asked was what 'sleeping' arrangements where. Apparently the teens DAD says all okay as long as he pays the bills. How screwed up is that?
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@Hatley (163772)
• Garden Grove, California
7 Apr 10
kproggames If I were you I would turn him in so fast it would make your head spin with it. I would not stop to bother with your friend as this wouuld ultimately help her more than just going along with her, He is a jerk and a player,he should never have married, as players do not last with any one woman,he lusts and satisfies his lusts then get jaded and trades the older woman for a younger, what will he do next, try a six year old,yuck this man makes me feel sick to my tummy.twenty six is not mid aged crisis he is just a fool who did this to a nice woman who deserves much better. He deserves the teeny bopper who is probably a bubble brain just like he is.
@kprofgames (3089)
• United States
7 Apr 10
Well said Hatley! I've tossed it all over and even if wanted too, he has taken the boy and left the state. My friend has family where he is headed so I hope something good will come out of it all.
She has found a lot of inner strength and realized that she is worth more than anything this worthless POS has given to her. I admire her for her strength and being able to hold her head high and move forward.
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@cream97 (29085)
• United States
7 Apr 10
Hi, kprofgames. Well if it was me, I would respect my friends wishes and if she said that it was okay what I do, I would turn this guy in. It is sad that he has a pregnant wife at home, while he is out their chasing a child!!! He just don't know what he wants out of life and he is not yet ready to soar his royal oats! How can he leave all four of his children on his wife like that. He is such a disgrace and sorry excuse for a father and a husband!
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@kprofgames (3089)
• United States
7 Apr 10
That's where I'm at too. I'm respecting her wishes, but in terms of the divorce I'm trying to convince her she needs to bring all this information up if he wants to try and take the kids from her.
It will never happen - he walked out on his family a year ago but he's playing mind games with her that he will get all the children except the baby - now get this - because he said he wasn't going to pay her child support to raise them. He wants the boys because he thinks he wont have to pay any child support to her then. He is one Class A Loser!
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@honeydew82174 (1720)
• United States
6 Apr 10
Oh my! That poor woman. He should be ashamed of himself 16. At 16 you still can even think for yourself wtf is he thinking. That is not healthy for his son and teaching him wrong. I would talk to the woman and tell her to turn the creep in and get the boy back. What kind of parent can this man be if he thinks that is okay. It's about the kid now.
@sparkofinsanity (20471)
• Regina, Saskatchewan
7 Apr 10
Exactly. It's about the kid(s) now..............
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@kprofgames (3089)
• United States
7 Apr 10
I agree honeydew, it is about the children and she has done everything for them to make sure they are okay. Last night was a hard night for all of them, especially the younger boys because they don't understand why their big brother has to leave. Such a sad excuse of a man.
@doglady112 (604)
• Canada
7 Apr 10
I'd turn him in, I think it's sick what he's doing. But I think that I have a friend whose just the same and I find that I have to stay away from her. I find her very bad to be around except for when she's talking about her church . But if she's talking to me about my relationship with my husband. She's really cruel, I guess it's because she's not happy in her own relationship.
@kprofgames (3089)
• United States
7 Apr 10
Sorry to hear that. Sounds like she isn't a friend at all just some person you know but really try to avoid.
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@basqui (3888)
• Philippines
7 Apr 10
Well, you should turn him in not only for having a minor in such relationship but also for leaving your friend and their children. It's abandonment of responsibility and some countries have law that protects women and children from such cases.
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@kprofgames (3089)
• United States
7 Apr 10
This will help her in her divorce case. He left and then left the state and her and her children had to fend for themselves. I give her credit though, she's in job training (because she has been a stay at home mom since all the children were born) and she is putting her life back together.
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@kprofgames (3089)
• United States
7 Apr 10
I admire her greatly because she is finding a lot of inner strength here, more then she ever thought she had.
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@kprofgames (3089)
• United States
7 Apr 10
Yes he left her when she was expecting the last one. She has 3 children and raised the stepson since he was a small boy.
