picking and choosing

United States
April 7, 2010 9:14am CST
we've been having trouble within our family. all the cousins and even my son will leave out my daughter when it comes to get together. and the two neices always treat my daughter bad, my one nephew was living with us, and i keep asking him how can he sit here knowing that his cousin is hurt and get upset by his actions. he just said i dont like making people mad at me. but he can sit in this house and watch her hurt always. plus the family still hang out with the guy who tried to rape my daughter, and on easter our one neice just pretty much threw in my daughter face how cool and fun this dude is to hang out with. and my daughter finally blew up so my daughter said she was moving out of the house so she dont have to be near her cousin and have nothing to do with the rest of the family and she feels bad that this whole thing is even causing me and my wife to fight over this. so i told my nephew ok you have to go and i am picking my daughter over him. i am told by family memeber its wrong for me to pick and choose. i tell them i am picking my daughter over him and anyone else. i dont care she have no one in the family to hang out with on either side of the famlies. so you do think its wrong i pick and choose my daughter over a nephew who had no place to go.
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• United States
7 Apr 10
Wrong? Hell no. Your daughter only has you to look out for her. What is wrong with these people throwing a rapist in her face. If they had any sense at all they wouldnt be hang out with him either. That is like saying its ok what he did to your daughter. Your family is not looking out for her and no one should be made to pick and choose. As a parent your first responiablity is to your daughter. Why cant your nephew go to his own parents?
• United States
7 Apr 10
yeah what is worst they are saying we know the true story. and i am like you all are jerks, think he is going to tell you the truth.. but when i talk bad about him my son and nephew would defend him. are you F kidding me.. told the boys they need to fight harder for her and not him.. but it get better. when this happen was last year. after this happen my daughter and nephew was house sitting and he wanted this boy to come and stay over, she told my nephew no and that he did try something with her. and then the guy came over here and walked around here like nothing happen and my nephew didnt tell him to leave because he think it wasnt his place too. we didnt know about this yet. when we left that is when we found out and came right back home and threw the boy a$$ out of my house and asked my nephew why didnt he tell he wasnt allow in or told him to leave. oh its not my place to do it or say anything. that seem to be lot of family memeber excuses its not there place to say anything. but i will say my one sister in law do tell these kids they are wrong and tell her boys they will be nice and behave. this is so sad how this family is
@EvrWonder (3574)
• Canada
7 Apr 10
I would be adamant in telling all of the kids to grow up! Of course you should take your daughters best interest over your nephews. She is immediate family and is your daughter. I would not give any of them any sort of special treatment either, especially in front of the others. I find the behavior that you described as sad but completely immature and disrespectful. Teach by example. Children live what they learn. I wish for you that things pan out and that everyone can at least accept if not learn to live in harmony. If it were me, my daughter would be my number one priority.