I Hate You!!!

@amaine (2037)
Philippines
April 7, 2010 9:49am CST
I know, this might sound a little bit harsh, but have you ever said this to someone that you really love, and afterwards said sorry because you didn't mean it? Honestly, I don't buy some people's sorry when they say "I hate you" at all. You are mad, that's given. But, I don't think it is enough reason to tell someone that you hate them and don't mean it, right? That is just my personal opinion, but how about you? Have you ever told someone you hate them, but don't really mean it at all? I'd like to hear your thoughts and opinions on this.
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@syankee525 (6276)
• United States
7 Apr 10
ive said this to people that i love and it totally hurt them. i felt really bad about it and went back to say sorry to them. i can remember when i first got bipolar i said this to my wife for no reason, no idea why i said it. she knew it was from the bipolar that i said it. i did tell her i hated everyone and hated her more..
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@amaine (2037)
• Philippines
7 Apr 10
You really have a loving wife :) Having a bipolar condition might an exception to this one - since you really can't control it or anything. But at least your wife understood, right? I really appreciate you sharing your experience. I hope I haven't offended you in any way at all.
• Hong Kong
8 Apr 10
Hello syankee525, Once you know it is all from the bipolar, things becomes much more clear, and you both can solve all problems, as it is only the bipolar causes the problems, so cure the bipolar. I think it is very brave to say sorry to others and admit you did it wrong. You are very brave.
• United States
8 Apr 10
you are never cure from it, you just learn to control it. but i still have my time with it..
@voldrox (7199)
• India
7 Apr 10
Hi amaine, If i happen to say those words, it is going to come out pretty strong from my mouth .. I would stop, reconsider myself once or maybe more, no matter how angry i get i just can't say i hate you.! That would be so hurting, after all the love i showed i just can't be so mean to them unless their is something really really very big that has happened, it is hard for me to say that, i just can't.! i won't..
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@amaine (2037)
• Philippines
7 Apr 10
Thanks Voldrox for this inspiring statement. I know right? Just the mere fact telling someone that you hate them - it can tear their hearts apart, or even their world. Although just three words, they are so powerful. I think why some people just say this is because they just utter words without thinking what would others feel about it. It's just really sad.
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@voldrox (7199)
• India
8 Apr 10
Hi amaine, HATE ... [i]replace them with LOVE... it is just as powerful.!
@EvrWonder (3574)
• Canada
7 Apr 10
In my younger years I did find myself saying that to someone but it only took once to realize that hey! that's not really me. To utter those words is really harsh, indeed. Words are very powerful. The word hate alone can have some serious repercussions and is most negative. I choose not to entertain the language much less think the thoughts. Sure there are some people that I dislike or choose not to befriend, there are foods and activities that I also dislike but rarely do I use that descriptive word "hate". I find it way too harsh. Even hearing it pierces my heart.
@EvrWonder (3574)
• Canada
8 Apr 10
Most Welcome amaine, it's my pleasure. Personally, I feel that it is a matter of maturity as to those who choose not to entertain such descriptions, by choosing that word. It has not been tough at all to not use that word actually. It is just that the feeling I get wen I hear that word really bothers me because, like you say it is such a big word. I think it is more a matter of respect for myself. Thank you for your comment.
@amaine (2037)
• Philippines
7 Apr 10
Wow, that must be really tough of you and really brave of you to get rid of that word. It's good to hear that there are still some people who get to realize that "hate" is such a big word that can't be just uttered just because you wanted to. Thank you for sharing your experience with this one.
• United States
7 Apr 10
I havent, but my teenage son said this to me once. It hurt me very deeply. I knew he was just upset and didn't truly mean it. He did tell me he was sorry and we talked about it. I told him he couldn't go around saying mean things that he didnt mean. You can say a million good things and people always remember the one mean thing you said. Now he waits until he has cooled down to speak. lesson learned.
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@amaine (2037)
• Philippines
7 Apr 10
there are some instances that your teenagers may just say things that they really don't know what it means. At least he learned his lesson. Totally agree - even though you have been so good to a person, one single thing that could hurt them, that is the only thing that could stick to their heads.
@akuler (3534)
• Malaysia
7 Apr 10
Hi amaine, I do not think that I ever say this words to anybody before but I think I have heard it from someone. I can remember the reason she said that to me but I am sure I did something wrong to her. She is my ex-girlfriend actually. I think those words usually uttered by women. When their boyfriend or husband did something wrong and upsetting them, this words usually come from their mouth. Even though it is hard to accept it, but usually they did not mean it. They will come back to their men when everything is cooled down.
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@amaine (2037)
• Philippines
7 Apr 10
Ah yeah. Women most often say it - but, that's what I don't understand about it. Why do we have to say "I hate you" when we can just say "I'm very upset with what you've done!" It doesn't make sense does it?
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• Philippines
7 Apr 10
Well, for me I never encounter an incidence that I said I hate you, then later on say I'm sorry.
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@amaine (2037)
• Philippines
7 Apr 10
Sure, thanks for responding!
@quita88 (3716)
• United States
7 Apr 10
I am older and have learned to hold my tongue. I have said I hate you too many times and more than likely have never been forgiven. Hateful words cut deep and to the bone no less. I chose to be carfull of what I say and to whom and that way I'm always on the safe side. Still there are some people I'd like to see just disappear ! LOL But I'll never tell them this to their faces--- It's a matter of Karma--what goes around comes around. Later and take care.
• Philippines
8 Apr 10
I said this many times to my husband.. and i meant it!!
• Hong Kong
8 Apr 10
hahahaha, me too! I said it to my hubby so many times, but I don't mean it.
• Philippines
8 Apr 10
well in my case i really mean it..my hubby is very childish and lazy.. sometimes i felt i am the MAN in our family.. it's get frustrating sometimes..