Do You Feel Like Your Family Puts Too Much Pressure on You to Succeed?

YA do what ya have to do its you that has to put up with yourself might not be your family but you that thinks it is your family doing it but in truth its yourself thinking you havent done what you should have to get what ya want. Main thing its up to you how to go about doing things like looking for work or going to schol for more training

They used to, when I was in my teens and twenties. But I knew everything, they were just stupid. I wish I'd listened to them. Of course, if I had I would probably not have my two wonderful sons and not be the person I am now. If I had, though, I probably would have married that wonderful young man who was my first love and who still has a little corner of my heart, I would have been a better adjusted person and realized more of my potential. But that's life. And it's been a good one. It just would have been better if I'd listened to my elders' encouragement. A low self opinion of myself prevented that, I think.

what my family want is for me to have good life and so they want me to finished my education first having bf and they were so strict that time. but when i graduated and started to have work they already let me decide what i want, i even live alone away from them. as long as they saw me happy and contented then theres no problem to them.

So far my family has always loved me and supported whatever I do, and I'm thankful for that. These days though a good, stable job is very hard to come by, so I guess I understand why some parents or families will want their children to succeed. I think that the lowering of expectations that you see is more a matter of adapting to the current situation (ie, no other job to be had) rather than a giving up on one's dreams. Of course, most people have great dreams for themselves but you have to roll with reality as well. When times get better and more opportunities open up that's when it's weird to aim low when higher opportunities can be had. I think that your family should know that as well. Personally, I think that the common standards by which most people define 'success' are overrated. The money you have in the bank or the number of cars or houses or stocks you own may make you successful, but at what cost? And does it really make you happy? I think we each have to find our own meaning of success, and strive to live for it. Your family may not agree with your definition of success, but I think in their heart of hearts they will secretly support whatever gives you happiness and fulfillment.

Not only my family, I do it too. I put much pressure in myself to succeed, because my target is to be succeed of course. But I have to say that part of it was a will to show to my mother that I have future instead of what she thinks, that I have no future. The pressure of my family the most part is my mother, that always ask me if I'm studying or working on some job. But really... I kind of ignore it, I know what I want for my life and they just can forget me.