What's the good thing to do if you suffer great burden in life?

Philippines
April 9, 2010 1:52am CST
My sister was having a burden in her life when it terms of finances situation. It is been a long time she did her best to recover the problem till this time not yet solved. In your own ideas and views , whats the good thing to do to have this settled and how could you have this as not heavy to your carriage in life. Everything in her best was done still not finished to struggles all of these pains? Do you have a good idea there to share? As me also have haed time to think what's the best thing to do as also have own trials to face? Did you noticed this in your life even once? How you have tackled and overcomes this circumstances? Almost all of the things she done. She always pray to God and have faith to make this one solved soon. I wanna hear your voice about this situation and be glad to know it. Thanks and enjoy your sharing here.
5 responses
@thanks1961 (7035)
• India
6 May 10
A similar case is with me also. I have helped a friend with a huge amount by taking a loan from bank and he run away. Now suffering same situation how your sister is facing. Less income and more expenses. Borrowings from friends and relative are done but made no solution. The burden is increasing day by day. A permanent solution cannot be reached a huge amount should come in hand. It is not so easy. your sister's type of commitment is not sure. I don't know the magnitude of the burden. Here what I suggest is that from my experience is that make an agreement with the other party that a regular minimum amount can be paid out. This should match with your income and should not affect her daily life. If it is a small amount, can approach a financial institution and approach for a personal loan and payout personal burden and payback the bank loan slowly. If you borrow from your surroundings, you need to pay back in time otherwise your name will get spoiled. Just praying will not make any results. You need to act and think what all the ways you can come out of it. Some extra work or part time job, etc. Or if you have some fixed assets like gold property etc, just sell out and pay out your debts. These assets can buy later also, once you are settled. But selling your assets should not affect you heavily. Also, if it is works out then only you should go for it. Or else, you can ask your entire family for a help and if they all are willing, make a part contribution and pay out your debts and later on, once you are stable, slowly do the payments to your family members. All are only certain recommendations and options only. It is not necessary that it will work out exactly as it is, because it is money matter. Now a days no one will come out for a help. There is a saying that 'help only those who have, otherwise you will not get back' - You can try similar options. But think considering all aspects and try for a better solution. Hope you will resolve with your problems soon. Best of luck. Thank-s
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• Philippines
13 May 10
thanks1961 hello! You have a very nice username so far here, the name itself quiet fine and good to hear. Since I hear the different options to do I will tell my sister about it. But so glad that you impart what you have experienced and learned in your own and out from it we also know out from you. Thank you and happy day to you. It's my big pleasure to learn about it.
• Philippines
17 May 10
thanks so much...
• India
13 May 10
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@jobmoone (442)
• Philippines
9 Apr 10
Just how big is the problem?Is it object or is it being subjective? what I mean maybe her ownself is having a problem. You know pain is good in times of this kind of situation because it will show where the problem is. We cannot cure that problem if we can't locate its roots. If we do it is time to prevent it before it come up again. And wrongdoings is a process to refrain from it. It can't be easily resolve unless its roots had been taken out. Every one need stong one like living in God ways and not just depending on it, its about living with it. I hope this adds up. God bless
• Philippines
9 Apr 10
Ah Sorry its all about her bad debts forget to detailed all about this things. Thanks for being one of the mylotters to comment. Its my big pleasure to read your thoughts. She can't prevent it now for it is already rooted. Then at this moment in time still fighting to come up and resolve the problem. I can see to her that she almost lost her hope and don't know what to do. She don't know where to start and end oh.
@pratheep87 (1227)
• India
9 Apr 10
Just to handle great burden in life think peacefully with confidence on you. Also have some good friends to help you and motivate you. All the best
• Philippines
9 Apr 10
Olah there pratheep87! You know dear it is easy to say to have it peacefully. But the one that suffered most got confusion what's the best thing to do. Yes I know there are friends of her, they can advice and talks . Remember each family we have has also different undertakings so it really so sad to imagine. Okay sometimes we can relieved if they also add some jokes on it but when all are gone it will go back again to her mind.I am praying that she can have strong faith to the Lord that she can solve it through the proper time accrording to his will and glory.
• Philippines
14 Apr 10
Thanks so much for your fruity advice kalpine. I will tell to my sister about what you said. She will be gald to hear this things. To start like a baby bird how to fly and after how many weeks master to fly away. Nice to hear this saying from you. It can be transferred to her this views of yours.
• Kenya
14 Apr 10
Start doing little things that give you confidence. You can start like a bird and you cannot luck a mother bird to stand by you. Now start with little things and teach yourself how to fly, or to crawl like a child. A child learns to crawl first before it can learn to walk unsteadily then steadily at last. Become a small achiever first on the problem that you are facing. Then you will become a high achiever and a problem solver.
@CJscott (4187)
• Portage La Prairie, Manitoba
14 Apr 10
What is she doing in her life that is right? What makes that right? What would be ideal? What is missing that if it were in place could take her ideal and make it real? What will it take to put in place what is missing, and make her ideal real? Sit down, and pray to the Lord your God, in the name of Jesus Christ, with Faith that you will receive an answer, and intentions of acting on the answer you receive, and give thanks for the blessings you have, and ask for help in overcoming your adversities. Together, those are the two most powerful actions, I know of to solve any problem in life, love or work. With Appreciation.
• Philippines
14 Apr 10
This is the best thing to do to kneel down and pray to the Lord. Talk to God and tell about what am I suffering. Thanks for the brotherhood advice I really appreciate it. There's no other way to think but there is Almighty Father that answer all of these things. Thanks for sometimes we are in a situation we forgot what is the good thing to do. Now I am awake of it. Thanks for waking me up here.
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@kalpine2 (90)
• Kenya
14 Apr 10
The best way to do it is by absorbing the problem and take it in. Be like water, it takes anything in except a dagger. You should find the weaknesses of the problem then you find a root of destroying it. You attack it the way it has attacked you. That's the best way to look at things.
• Philippines
14 Apr 10
Well taken now my dear, and happy mylotting! Welcome to the world of posting and commenting here. Have a beautiful day to you!