Are you fond of giving gifts?

@setsuna26 (2410)
Philippines
April 10, 2010 9:21am CST
When some of my friends celebrate their birthdays or just about any occasion i can see some of our friends giving gifts, well as for me its not my thingy to give gifts, not that i dont want to but i just dont feel like it. For me when i give them my pure and honest friendship thats the best gift that i can offer more than any material thing. How bout you? do you like giving gifts to some of the special persons in your life?
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@hofferp (4737)
• United States
10 Apr 10
I'm pretty bad about gift giving, even sending cards for that matter. Most of my family and friends have everything, so it's really hard finding something that they'd really appreciate. So, if I do anything special, it's flowers and a card.
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@setsuna26 (2410)
• Philippines
10 Apr 10
We have the same problem its not that we dont want to give them something its just that most of the times we dont know what to give them.Its either they already have that item or they just dont need it thats why most of the times, im not able to give anything at all, which makes me feel guilty most of the time
@hofferp (4737)
• United States
10 Apr 10
Yeah, I feel bad too, but why give them a gift you know they don't need or probably want... I was finally able to find something for my sister for her birthday in January that she really uses...an electronic book reader. She loves it and that makes me feel good. But I'm already worried about Christmas... My Mom's birthday is in a week and a half and she's already said she doesn't want anything, but now I'm scratching my head...what do I get Mom. I may have to go back to my old standby -- flowers and a card.
@setsuna26 (2410)
• Philippines
10 Apr 10
You got that right, its useless if we will just be giving them something they wont be able to use that much at all. As for me my moms birthday is over already and as expected i failed to give her any at all but hey at least i kissed her hugged her tight and then told her that i love her very much and that shes the best mom in the world for me
• Philippines
10 Apr 10
I used to give gifts before when I was younger. Not necessarily expensive ones, but at least something that could interest the recipient, or just simply to touch his/her heart, as the saying goes "it's the thought that counts". But lately, I just do simple greetings, at least letting them know they're being thought of, especially on their special occasions. What is important is, I am always here for them, and not stopping loving them.
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@setsuna26 (2410)
• Philippines
10 Apr 10
Yes gifts need not to be expensive at all for as long as the sender is pretty much sincere with what he or she is giving then im pretty much sure the recepient will be able to appreciate the said gift too.Too bad for me even if its really cheap im still having a hard time lookin or at least thinking about a gift to give to a friend or someone special
• Philippines
10 Apr 10
you know assinertata for me when you greet me and join me in getting out and going to somewhere is already a special gift to me, you know every moment i have with my friend i treat it as specially gift from them and from God, because God give me this people who really help me and accept me as to who am I, gift doesn't matter to me, until you are with me you will always be a gift :)
• United States
11 Apr 10
I've always noticed that if a person is a true friend, then they know their friends likes, dislikes, joys, sorrows, and everything else about them. With that knowledge, it is easy to buy or make an appropriate gift. But, if one claims to be a true friend but hasn't taken the time to know what makes their friends special, it's easier to make excuses than make the effort to buy or make a gift.
@tessah (6621)
• United States
13 Apr 10
how very arrogant and self centered to beleive that yer mere presence in these peoples lives is all the gift they deserve from you.
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@setsuna26 (2410)
• Philippines
13 Apr 10
Before you judge the my character pls feel free to read some of the comments that i just answered as well,im not being arrogant by saying my mere presence is what they need or because i dont want to give perse.The reason why i dont like giving gifts is because im having a hard time trying to find the right kind of gift to give to a friend or to someone special to me i like the thought of giving gifts but to some extent since im not fond of shopping at all i dont get to buy them what they like most of the time i end up having nothin to give them.One of the users said ask for what they like,so now i know what to do,i admit having problems when it comes to giving gifts most of the time and i honestly admit that, but theres a reason why im not able to give gifts as much as you people do, for you to jump into conclusion that im arrogant and self centered is way too judgmental i just wish you at least asked why im doing so.As i said try to read some of the discussions for you to understand more. Anyways thanks for the effort and for joining in the discussion have a great day
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@tessah (6621)
• United States
13 Apr 10
i read YOUR discussion fully where you clearly stated " but i just dont feel like it. For me when i give them my pure and honest friendship thats the best gift that i can offer more than any material thing" to me, and to prolly plenty of others.. that is outright saying the best thing you can give to those you love.. is yerself, and THAT is arrogant, selfish, selfcentered and rather .. slimy. ;shrugs;
@setsuna26 (2410)
• Philippines
14 Apr 10
Im not just talking about my topic content at all im talking about the replies and discussions that we are talking about here, i wonder why you just have to contain yourself with that certain statement alone and not consider my other replies to those people who commented.Although your entitled for your own opinion, lets just leave it that way.That im selfish and selfcentered and rather slimy, thank you
@iv4emani (35)
• Bulgaria
11 Apr 10
hi.Everyone loves to receive gifts.Not so much the size of the gift itself asan important gesture.Try on occasion/birthday,new year/I do small symbolic gifts.The mere fact that someone has thought you is pretty.I love to make and receive gifts.
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@setsuna26 (2410)
• Philippines
12 Apr 10
How i wish im just like you... I mean that i can make my own gifts and then just give them away, or at least to know what kind of gifts i will be giving my friends with. For me thats a major issue, i mean i just cant find a way to know what is it that my friends need thats why sometimes i end up not being able to give anything at all. I really want to know how to deal with this problem of mine, i want to share my part too by giving gifts but im pretty bad when it comes to choosing and not to mention shopping ...sometimes my girlfriend is helping me out but shes not around all the time too
• Bulgaria
27 Apr 10
Hi.Gifts are by people who make them.Well you know your best and you know what they like.I have a freind that loves flowers and holiday gift indoor flower to grow.If a smoker ashtray with lighter.There are so many small things you can do the job.Of course if you can prepare itself will be something more original.is an important gesture.
@Sir_bobby88 (8243)
• Singapore
10 Apr 10
Yes i always think of gift for them at their birthday .
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@setsuna26 (2410)
• Philippines
10 Apr 10
I envy you alot because when it comes to thinkin bout giving gifts im always pretty bad at that department. Its often i dont know what to give or i just dont feel like going out just to buy for the gift .Sometimes it even makes me feel bad not to be able to give something to my friends
• United States
11 Apr 10
There are always gift cards in varying monetary amounts, so the person can pick their own gift. But, usually, friends just want to know you think of them and don't care WHAT you give so much as that you thought them important enough in your life to try.
3 Nov 10
I like buying people things, especially my Wife and Children. Sometimes when I know my mums having a rough time (she as to put up with my dad) I tend to buy her flowers or something as a pick me up. It's rewarding in it's own way seeing other people and I've never really been obsessed with buying thing for myself despite liking too. I also look forward to certain peoples birthdays but my wife is very hard to buy for, as you never know what to get her.
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@setsuna26 (2410)
• Philippines
11 Nov 10
Thank you so much joey for giving me an idea about what to give my mom whenever shes not feeling that good at all. Im thinking about buying her some flowers too. Well i know for sure she will be annoyed first and ask me what for but for starters i think i can go with that kind of action and try to take it step at a time until she will learn how to appreciate my small sweet way as her son. Thanks for sharing and have a great day
@galileo2008 (1146)
• Philippines
23 Apr 10
Not really. I am not really fond of giving something fancy to my friends or to anyone closed to me, I would rather spend the moment with them, and enjoy whatever time we have. Giving my time to my loved ones in the midst of my busy day is something special that I can give to them. nothing can ever replace time.
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@setsuna26 (2410)
• Philippines
24 Apr 10
Thats what i do when i dont have anything to give them like a gift. I give them most of my time for me to be able to compensate the lack of gift. I believe that giving your precious time to close friends is one sign of love and care for them. We are often busy with so many things in life but when we give a part of our time with people close to us then it just means these people are really important to us
@pratheep87 (1228)
• India
23 Apr 10
yes i fond of giving gift and also accepting gifts. I mostly gift my close friends on their birthday and my most gift would be brand new shirts for their birthday as a gift. Cheers
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@setsuna26 (2410)
• Philippines
24 Apr 10
Not to mention it gives us a great feeling of satisfaction once the people whom we gave our gifts appreciate the gift that we gave them.But most of the time im also having problems with thinking bout the kind of gift that i will be giving someone.Ive learned from this discussion of mine that i just have to ask them bout what they want so that it wont be that hard for me to give and buy gifts .
• India
20 Apr 10
I always give gifts to my friends for any party they celebrate. I feel it will surely give them pleasure whenever they see that gift and remember us always.
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@setsuna26 (2410)
• Philippines
24 Apr 10
Its always good to give gifts to friends especially if you have the means , its just that sometimes no matter how we try to come up with a good idea we just cant find the right item to give them. At least now i know how to ask some friends of what kind of stuff they want as their present. Thanks for joining
@p3ks626 (6548)
• Philippines
11 Apr 10
I am fond of baking something if one of my friends is celebrating their birthday. I really like to bake and my friends like what I bake so I bake for them too. I am not fond of giving gifts like material things but when I give something, its always food and they actually like it that way.
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@setsuna26 (2410)
• Philippines
12 Apr 10
Thats so sweet of you, baking something indeed is so good, too bad im a bad cook or whatsoever, girls can be really good when it comes to these kinds of stuff thats why i let my girlfriend help me out sometime too. But when it comes to my own effort? i am terribly bad with these stuff. I dont know but i keep on having the same bad feeling every now and then. Thanks for sharing your thoughts and opinion about this my friend
• United Kingdom
11 Apr 10
I think that it's nice to give gifts but there's only one problem which is it costs money! Things are very difficult financially so I guess I have to be careful when it comes to giving gifts and so forth. I suppose it is a nice gesture but once you have given a gift you start to feel obligated that you should always give a gift in the future! I'm open minded about the whole thing though. I think that gift giving makes someone very happy who is on the receiving end, I know that I would be very happy and chuffed if I received a gift! I think that it can be very expensive though if you have quite a big family as, once you give a gift to one member of the family you have to give gifts to all members of the family, it would be wrong to leave anyone out and would create tension in the future I think. Andrew
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@setsuna26 (2410)
• Philippines
12 Apr 10
Yeah i understand as well, even if we all want to give gifts if we dont have the means to do so thats a huge problem as well.On my part i dont find it as an obligation to give lol but my problem is i really dont know what to give. Im not fond of shopping or anything thats why its another burden too.Sometimes i want to make my own gift as well but then again the same problem occurs what to give them .Thanks for sharing your views and opinion my friend i really appreciate it
• Philippines
11 Apr 10
Yes. I'm very fond of giving gifts. Aside from giving them my pure and honest friendship, I think giving something to your friend makes them feel very special. :)
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@setsuna26 (2410)
• Philippines
12 Apr 10
I know ;) and i find giving gifts very special too, darn it too bad im a clumsy person when it comes to givin one because i dont know what to give at all. Its like im clueless of what to give someone, i want to give them something usefull but the thing is im having a hard time trying to figure out what i should give them. This is my problem ever since and up until now i dont know what to do bout it lol
@stanley777 (7250)
• Philippines
11 Apr 10
I think so.. i like to give gifts to my wife and children and to my other relatives [if they ask or if there's a n ocassion]..
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@setsuna26 (2410)
• Philippines
12 Apr 10
I really do believe giving gifts is a good way of saying thank you for something that they've done to us sometimes for me its a burden, lol not the giving of gifts but choosing the right kind of gifts to give away. Thats what im hoping i will be able to change and i really want to give people the kind of stuff that they want but im terribly bad when it comes to choosing the right kind of stuff
@newtalent (1114)
• United States
11 Apr 10
friendship is the best the best thing you can give a person , I agree with that. Sometimes giving something that is a of materialistic or monetary can be just as good to people to show you care and thank you for being my friend when you do not do that on a regular basis.
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@setsuna26 (2410)
• Philippines
12 Apr 10
Yeah theres nothing more better than giving your true friendship to anybody, that will give them the feeling of security and that no money or gift can ever replace. Its just that once in a while i want to give them gifts too its just that im having problems when it comes to choosing the right kind to give lol .Thanks for participating my friend
• India
11 Apr 10
i prefer to celebrate my friends birthday differently rather than to giving gifts ti them. i think of different new ways to celebrate the birthdays everytime.
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@setsuna26 (2410)
• Philippines
12 Apr 10
So its more like, youd rather spend more time with them than to give them gifts when its their special day? Actually thats what ive been doin in the past years lol, its not that i dont find it right its just that sometimes i want to give them some gifts too, too bad im not that good when it comes to finding the right kind of gift for them lol . Have a great day and thanks for sharing your opinion
@saphrina (31738)
• South Africa
11 Apr 10
Yes, i just love spoiling my friends. Especially on their birthdays. TATA.
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@setsuna26 (2410)
• Philippines
11 Apr 10
Wow your friends are very lucky to have you. I mean because you spoil them most of the time. I want to do the same thing as well but im afraid im pretty bad when it comes to choosing the right kind of gift for just bout anybody lol.Thank goodness i have my girlfriend to help me out but most of the time im not with her to choose the right kind of gift to give
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• India
11 Apr 10
I used to love to give gifts to everybody when i was a kid.I even gave out my own toys to friends.Even now i love gifting, but only to my boyfriend and best friends. But when it comes to my boyfriend, Im always confused about choosing a gift.
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@setsuna26 (2410)
• Philippines
11 Apr 10
Yeah i think giving away of gifts is one way of expressing how much you care for someone, it gives them the feeling that they are important to us. Too bad im not good when it comes to picking the right gifts for anybody at all. Thats why im trying hard as much as possible to ask so many peoples opinion about this topic. Thanks for sharing and have a great day
@monkeylong (3146)
• Guangzhou, China
11 Apr 10
Yeah, as far as I am concerned, I think I am a little fond of give the gifts to those who I love most. For me, I seldom give the gifts to my friends. But when my best ones ,expecially my girl need something, then I think I will give her a present.
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@setsuna26 (2410)
• Philippines
11 Apr 10
Cool, hey the thing is are you not having a hard time choosing the right kind of gift to give them? i mean on my part im really having a hard time trying to pick the right gift for them most of the time .But i like giving gifts too it just so happen that its hard for me to pick the right one lol
• Philippines
11 Apr 10
nope im not fond of giving gifts. i dont know why. but i love receiving gifts from others.hehehe.maybe its time for me to be fond on giving gifts as the bible says its better to give than to receive
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@setsuna26 (2410)
• Philippines
11 Apr 10
You got that right, its not too late yet you should somehow learn that its really better to give than to receive.But unfortunately for me thats my problem, i mean im pretty bad when it comes to giving out stuff or gifts to people whom i care the much, i dont know what to give them most of the time. But hey that doesnt mean dont like giving out anymore its just that its hard for me to choose..Thanks for your honesty and for your comment too
• Philippines
10 Apr 10
Hi setsuna, Well, if I had the money to buy all my friends and loved ones gifts, why not? But because I'm lacking of financial resources, I prefer to give gifts which are more personalized and made by myself. I'm always on the computer and fond of taking pictures, so I make birthday cards with my friend's pictures on it and add a personal message. Or I would make a collage or a scrapbook. They always appreciate if it is made from the heart. I believe that it's the thought that counts, not the price of a gift.
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@setsuna26 (2410)
• Philippines
10 Apr 10
Thats so sweet of you it is said that when a gift is given specially personalized one its much more treasured than that of just buying something. Girls are very much into these kinds of stuff , where in as for us guys most of us dont bother or dont have the time to personalize things unless we are romantic indeed . Thanks for sharing your opinion and hope to see more of your thoughts in the coming days too