Shocked & Appalled
By tessah
@tessah (6617)
United States
April 10, 2010 10:58am CST
while i can understand this mothers (and i use that term very very lightly here) frustrations with a hard to handle child.. if he really was at all, from reports she was horribly abusive to him, so liar might not be that far fetched either.. to do this to a young child is mind boggling
http://www.aolnews.com/world/article/us-mother-torry-ann-hansen-ships-adopted-son-back-to-russia/19433604?icid=main|htmlws-main-n|dl1|link5|http%3A%2F%2Fwww.aolnews.com%2Fworld%2Farticle%2Fus-mother-torry-ann-hansen-ships-adopted-son-back-to-russia%2F19433604
dont bother with proper channels.. dont ensure the boys safety. just dump him on a plane to moscow and hire a total stanger to see he gets to where you want him to deliver the note "i dont want to parent this child"
why isnt this woman under arrest? does this not constitute child endangerment? abandonment? SOMEthing?
with all the people thatd make loving parents whose arms are still empty.. there was no need for this to happen to this child.
thoughts? especially from parents who have adopted a child
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4 responses
@KrayZLady76 (66)
• United States
10 Apr 10
This boy already had a tough start to life by being put up for adoption and then this lady comes around saying that she will be his mother. Things were possibly going to start getting better for him but because she could not handle his bad behavior she decides to send him packing at the ripe old age of 7! He couldn't possible be acting out because he was Russian and in a different country could he? He couldn't be acting out because maybe she wasn't spending enough time with him? He couldn't possible be acting out because he is 7 and that's what 7 year old boys do? There is a reason this "mother", to say lightly, couldn't have children of her own. If she can't handle him then she should NOT be allowed to have any children especially after she did this to him. I'm not saying all adoptive parents are bad and that they can't have kids because they are bad people. There are really kind, caring adoptive parents who treat these kids like their own and those are the people who really deserve to be parents. There are adoptive parents in my family so I understand to some extent how these kids and parents feel.
@tessah (6617)
• United States
11 Apr 10
she did have a son of her own..
and yes, these children left in orphanages have a very hard time adjusting to all of the changes. different country, language, culture, and a slew of other problems. my ex brother in law and his wife adopted a little girl from china a couple years back.. and they had a horrific time with her adjustments. one of which was night terrors. after going from being in an orphanage from the age of three months to 18 months. with HUNDREDS of other children.. even sharing a crib. she couldnt adjust immediately to sleeping alone. but with patience, and alot of time and energy.. this little girl has become one of the most loving and sweet children ive ever known.
alot of adoptive parents of older or problem/abused children, beleive that the kids are going to be SOO grateful to have parents that theye going to be idealistic children. and that so isnt the case at all.
@reckon21 (3479)
• Philippines
11 Apr 10
It's hard being a mother that's what my mother always say to us when we were young and she even leave us for another man. Still I understand my mother but she would never do that to us. Like abandoning a child and send him back to Moscow is such a big mistake. She should have bring the boy somewhere like an orphanage something like that.
Thanks God nothing happens with the boy. He is okay but I'm sure he wont be the same again neglected by another parent. Children from orphanages badly needed a mothers love and affection and to be deserted that way is really not a nice experience at all.
@OpinionatedLady (5966)
• United States
10 Apr 10
Though I do not agree with this action it is better I guess then dumping him the side of a bridge like that jerk in NJ did with his 4 month old baby.
@FrugalMommy (1438)
• United States
10 Apr 10
It's like my mom always said: 'Mother's only half a word.' She was talking about her mother-in-law, who insisted on being called 'Mother,' but it sure does apply to that lady if you ask me.
I agree that she needs to be charged with something. It sounds like she didn't even bother seeking help for any problems she had with the adopted son. The note's terrible! And hiring a complete stranger to accompany him to the authorities in Moscow?! The guy could have been a child trafficker for all she knew!
Way to cause an international incident, lady. She may have just screwed everything up for hundreds of American families that would love to give homes to orphans from Russia.
