Confused

You are in big trouble girl. I was also in the same situation trying to avoid and forget the guy who ruined my womanhood and insulted my dignity. But guess what after I found out he cheat and fool me, I have the courage to avoid him by simply avoiding his text message or any means of conversation. If I saw his message I immediately delete it and if he calls I immediately turn if off. But guess what I no longer could not avoid him when he travelled thousand miles just to say sorry and asked for forgiveness. At first all I could think was "Is he really sincere of what he is doing?" but of course I did not give it that easily, he keeps on sending letters and cards to prove his sincerity. In short I accepted him again in the long run, after all he is very reason why my hearts keep on beating The difference with us girl, I am not in the relation when I try to communicate with my boyfriend. But if i were you, avoid him and never give him the chance to ruin your life again. Good luck

If only you don't have a boyfriend... if only you aren't committed and has no one to be hurt... I will suggest to go back and be together again with your ex... Bu t the thing is you are with somebody... Can you stand to hurt his feelings eLsMarie? Can you say that if you leave your current boyfriend for your ex you would be happy really?? Is your love for your current boyfriend not enought to fight your confusion? Actually eLsmarie, It is unfair for your current boyfriend... Even if you are not yet with your ex... your not doing anything yet... in your mind you are cheating on him already... And that makes you more confuse and guilty... because your thoughts are with your ex... I think you must weight things eLsmarie before deciding... before making any moves... Do you think if you broke up with your boyfriend and went back to your ex-- would make you happier? Do you think your ex would be a better boyfriend now? And would not do what he did to you before? Remember, he just went out from a relationship.. a relationship that had hurted him...

You should first ask yourself is your ex worth it? Do you love him truly or this is all simply because a little flash of memories. Consider that if anyone hurts you one time he will hurt you again. Think in the long run, do you want to spend your life with this person?

Hey my girl. I am in a similar situation. The only difference is I am not talking about my ex-boyfriend here, but my ex-husband. I got married to him when I was naive at 23. I was madly in love with him and he claimed that he loved me too . He then lied and cheated on me. He thought I was so in love with him that I would never dare to leave him. He was wrong. I left him after 2 years of our marriage. He kept trying to communicate with me. Initially, I used to tell him that I don't want to talk to him. Finally, I started avoiding him completely and I even blocked him in my emails and messengers. I have no place in my life for people who keep lying and cheating. My dear, it is up to you to ensure that you don't let him hurt you again. Please learn from your past and stay far away from him. He is nothing but trouble. God give you the strength

WOW... your current boyfriend is so pathetic... just taken for granted...... well, hate lass like that.... you should put your feet on his shoes... better tell him the truth the earlier....

Never think of the past again. You chose to be with someone else now and that's where your stand should be

I think we humans sabotage our selves too often.. maybe that's what I'm thinking is going on with you.. but hey, I could be wrong..

Hello elsmarie, I guess KARMA can really hit him hard after what he did to you but be aware that he might use you to cover his pain from his current girlfriend's terrible mistake. Well, it's one heck of a temptation there, but don't let yourself start teh flame or it will fire back at you.better yet, be civil and avoid talks about him trying to go back to you

For me you don't confused to help him unless you have still the feeling's in him so erase that feeling so that your not confused.

i was into that situation too but think first why he broke your heart.. usually happy feelings and memories keeps coming back especially when we think of our ex but we also have to keep in mind why we we're hurt in the first place..

My interpretation is that your current boyfriend is not that serious to you and expects that you and him will break up soon. I don't really mean to say it but you have to see very well whether he's the guy better than your ex. If your present likes to go out and your ex wants to go in what would you do. I think your present already expects your break up only that he's not that disrespectful enough to say it. And so the only thing to do now is to ask your boyfriend if he wants your relation or not. Explain too that your ex wanna come back to you. I estimate that he would understand. Its just my opinion not necessarily to true. Good luck anyway.

well if you are so concerned with your ex, why on earth are you in a relationship with some other guy!? i would say that you have to sit down and think as later you don't want to break your current boyfriend's heart! its not a game you know! just cause you are concerned about your ex don't feel sad for him. he ditched you to be with another girl. which means he loved her and not you right!? so now why he wants to get you back instead of trying to get his love back!?? he seems to be fickle minded too. think things over through everyone's point of view and do the right thing my dear!

since you love him you can try to help him forget about it.. about try to consider your feelings first.. if you're going to help him and be close to him again..you might fall in love again..and this time, it might be harder for you to stay away..

i know it's not that easy to let go but sometimes you just have to in order for you to grow as a person. i suggest that you focus on what matters. don't waste your time thinking about someone who might already be happy with somebody else. move on and who knows true love will find you :) good luck!