Grieving Process

i'm so sorry to hear about what happen to your hubby... i think the most important thing that you need to do now is learn to accept the reality that your hubby is already gone and make peace with yourself... it will make your grieving process much more easier if you can grip the reality and learn to let go as well... you also need support from your closest family and friends to give you the moral support and strength that you will need during this difficult time... and time is the best medicine to heal your grieve... keep on praying, keep your hope in Him and i hope you will feel better soon... best of luck... take care and have a nice day...

Please accept my heartfelt sympathies for the sad demise of your husband. Time is a great healer. Pray for him; think of the memorable moments you both had spent together. Stop feeling bitter towards life. Accept it that it was something inevitable. God plucks only those fruit, which have turned ripe and sweet. God needs their sweetness for creating the new world. Please do not question God why he did it. You would soon get over it.

Please accept my heartfelt condolences.It is an irreparable loss and can never be recouped.But time is a great healer.Try to think positive towards life.I know it is very difficult to do so but cherish the moments you have spent together.Try to spend more time with the family and involve yourself in routine work or things which interest you.

I am truly sorry for your loss. I know what a difficult time this must be for you and family members too. I lost my husband four years ago to cancer. I was my husband's primary caregiver too. We all have different ways of dealing with our grief. All I can promise you is that each day does get better. Just take one day at a time and remember your husband will always be with you in your heart. My children and I planted a tree outside for my husband. Sometimes a small gesture like that eases the pain somewhat. Take care. Your mylot friends are here for you!

Oh my! My heart goes out with you. Please accept my deepest condolences. Losing a loved one is not easy. Yet, knowing that he has already found his peace and no longer in pain, is a great consolation. Be happy for him. Be happy for the times you took care of him and let your love flow in him. Be thankful for the times you were together and for the many blessings God has shared with you through him. There is no way that those memories be gone. In fact, you have to hold on to those memories to lessen your pain and to start living again. Live like he wants you to live, enjoy life as he would want you to. Smile like he always want to see you. Be happy for him. You need to talk your pains out with God. Tell Him how you hurt. Tell Him how you are suffering. Miracles can happen because God is always listening. In the end, you will make it thru. You will survive the loss because deep in you, you know you are strong. Life will manifest itself and in the end, you will find yourself a winner. You have taken the first step. Telling us here in mylot is already a big step. Write your pains out! That's the only way to heal. God Bless You.

we feel very sorry for what happened.condolence to you and to your family. this is really a tough stage for you and your family. specially its just one week since he's gone. it will be helpful if you will think that he is much better now,he is now with the lord.and all his suffering has come to an end.your husband wont like to see you suffering like this, maybe he wants you to be happy and move on. also pray always,ask him to help you cope with this very difficult situation. Godbless

First, I want to say that I'm sorry to hear you lost your husband. Even when we're caretakers and maybe see it coming, it's still hard to bear! I haven't lost a husband, but when my Father passed it was so hard on me. We worked together on our farm here, and rode horses together, and even though he was my Dad, he was my friend too. I was his primary caregiver, and he was sick for so many years. One thing I did was to create a memory album, just for him. I put in pictures of happier times, before he was ill. And, I wrote down happy memories of some of the stuff we did together. There's pictures from his youth, his young days married, etc. In the back of the album I put the cards and letters I received when he passed, as well as the newspaper clippings. It took a lot of the stress off knowing he was still in my mind and I was doing something that would be a tribute for years to come. I don't know whether this would help you, we are all different in our grieving processes. I know that now, when I look through that album, I smile and remember the happier times we had, and know too that future generations would love knowing about him and all the wonderful things he did throughout his lifetime. God Bless! Joy

beckish i have been there and do know the horrible feeling, and I got some advice from a fellow worker, a research librarian who said, Patsie, just take it one day at a time, just baby steps, and know we all love you. so that did help and it sounded so simplistic but this did help also if you have any beloved kin who can stay with you as being along ritht then is just awful. myson moved in with me and we shared the rent and it was so good not to have an empty apartment.I had never gone through it either so was new to me and after they said he was doing better the next day he had another worse heart attack and blink he was gone. I had told him I loved him the day before but he was unconscious the next day and never regained consciousness so could not say goodbye to him.But make it through each day one day at a time. and do not be alone as much as you can be with anyone,aloneness does you in. and do know we mylotters also understand, beckish.you can cry on my shoulder if you need to.okay?.

My dear I understand you. It is really painful to lose a loved one especially a husband and it would be very difficult to get through the grief. Just the mere thought of losing my husband could make me cry how much more with you who really lost him. But dear while grief and sorrow is a natural reaction. Staying in that situation would not be healthy. I suggest you just have to accept the reality and then let go. First ask God to help you live yourself anew. If He allowed this thing to happen to you then He will also teach you how to overcome the depression. Trust God, He never make mistakes and we just have to trust all His plans for our life. Engage in activities that you most enjoy and will make you busy. If you have kids then be thankful you still have them and spend quality time with them instead of spending your time in grieving. Communicate with friends and spend good times with them. I am not an expert but I believe depression comes to people who allow depression to rule them. Be strong my dear and you can't do it alone you need God. You can find the strength you need in God alone. Took time to pray and read His Word. Delight yourself also in the Lord and soon you will get the desire of your heart. God bless!

I'm so sorry for your loss. It is one of the hardest things to go through especially being his caregiver too. It will take time to go throught the grieving process. For me writing my thoughts and feelings down on paper is therapy for me. You should maybe write down in a journal what is was like from the beginning of your life with your husband all the way to when you found out he was sick. To being his caretaker and then his last days. I also would have a family member hang out with you to help you go through this. Go out to lunch, go buy yourself something you need. This person can eventually help you go through your husbands things if you plan are packing his stuff and or giving it away someday. Think of the good times with him and maybe watch your favorite movie that you both liked. I would even say talk to him that might just help. When I can't sleep I usually read, watch a movie and pray. You need to eat to keep yourself healthy. I think your appetite will come back, its only been a week. Give it time. If you have any type of hobbies get back into them if not find something you would like to do such as gardening or knitting. I personally like o make scented candles. I will be praying for you to get through this grieving process and may God Bless you.

I feel so sorry for you for your loss.I know it is hard at the moment,but they do sat that time heels.My dad passed away 2 years ago and i am still missing him like crazy.I am married and i would also be devistated if something like that happened to my husband.All i can say is think on the terms that they are not suffering now aswell as now they are at peace and nothing else can hurt them.

I am so sorry to hear that. Please accept my condolences. I know it is hard. No words can ever ease the pain. But, in time, it will mellow. Do not be alone in a room. Don't give anxiety and depression a chance to set in. Always be with people you can talk to. Be busy with a thing you love to do.

Hello beckish. I don't have any tips or any first hand experience. I just wanted to pop in here to say my condolences. And that hopefully, the kind words that you get here from the myLot community somehow helps in the the 'healing process'. And maybe making the day you start living again come sooner.

I want to comfort you in a way I know, I will include you in my prayer tonight that God will give you more strength and slowly ease your pain away. I pray that He will lead you the way where you can slowly get back the life you once had. I know it is very difficult because things won't be the same again and that someone is missing, but trust everything to God,think that your husband is now resting in peace and that he cannot anymore feel any suffering. Talk to some friends, let them stay with you. and being here in mylot will somehow lessen the depression and anxiety you are experiencing right now. Pray a lot.