do you give something and asked another thing in return?....
By anitarei321
@anitarei321 (548)
Japan
April 15, 2010 12:57pm CST
I like to help people give thing if they need or even some present to make friend happy i don`t hope anything in return may be i just wish that they are happy with thing that i give and what i have to give is really something that they need it or help them in many thing,some friend is giving cause they want something in return,one of my friend give me a lot thing the thing that i don`t need it or even want it he keep giving me a lot thing at last i know that he want to be my boyfriend well i don`t like that cause i don`t have any feeling to him and another friend was give me something before she asked to borrow my money and a lot bad moment about giving that i can not tell so...do you give thing for a reasons and want another thing in return or not?
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10 responses
@mavieserrano728 (670)
• Philippines
15 Apr 10
When You give, it means that you are willing and you should not be expecting the same favor or any favors in return. If you're friend is giving you things which you really don't need then you already know that they are expecting something in return then it should come a point that you have to learn to say no. You have all the power to do so because he's not your boyfriend yet. And money matters? Learn to say NO, even if it connotes something at least it was not intentional, you're just saving some dignity for yourself.
@mavieserrano728 (670)
• Philippines
17 Apr 10
I really don't agree because if it happens all over again, then you should already learn to say no. Experience should encourage you to day no if you don;t want to feel that you are being used. I mean , i would not be sharing this if it weren't based from what I have experienced. I mean, you can try and always think that you don;t deserve such right?
@ayanjo2006 (53)
• Philippines
16 Apr 10
I give because I want too! And not because I want to ask something in return.. If you really want to give such thing don't think that you need ti give in order to have something in return..
@anitarei321 (548)
• Japan
16 Apr 10
that what i am trying to say to myself like word if your right hand is giving don`t let your left hand to see it:)
@kquiming (2997)
• Philippines
15 Apr 10
Sometimes yes sometimes no. I mean sometimes I can't help it but to ask for something in return, because as a human being, I have needs to. But when it comes to relationships and being courted by a guy, I HATE IT WHEN HE'S TRYING TO BUY ME with things and favors. Well I usually say it straight to a guy if his chances with me are low (or none at all) - so it's up to them if they still wanna continue giving the favors and things, just don't be telling me I didn't give a warning - that some gifts are just never returned, not the way they expect me to.
@eric_lin (19)
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16 Apr 10
sometimes yes sometimes no , yep ,men are sophisticated animals with multiple personality
@langjipingzong (981)
• China
16 Apr 10
Hi,there.When I give something to others I jsut want to help them.I don't want to make a exchange.I don't know why there some people would do this.As for me,I am glad to do them a favour.I don't expect their return.
@caiye786 (95)
• China
16 Apr 10
Sometimes of course not ,if you give some coins to beggars ,will you want to gain something from then ?they even have nothing physical but "thank you ".but in my family ,my parents raises me up ,he gives me clothes to wear ,food,and pay for my school fee,though it's sense of duty to raise their daughter up ,they always reminds of paying back to them when i grow up .I will ,but i am a little sad .
@Saranggola (956)
• Philippines
16 Apr 10
Of course I don't. I help out of good heart and not for hidden motives.
@incredibleDNA (1742)
• Philippines
15 Apr 10
Well, it's a different thing for me.. If I give something to someone special to me, I always expect them to appreciate me.. It's not that I'm waiting for any material things to be given but it's the appreciation and the attention that I want to be given back to me..
@randylovesdar (4932)
• United States
15 Apr 10
I never ask for anything in return when I help or give things to others. I help others whenever they need it and I know that my reward is seeing them happy.
@kalpine2 (90)
• Kenya
16 Apr 10
Give me one thing I want from you and it is you're body for pleasure. can you do that if you see a man really needs what is in your body. can you help him
@acey76 (1276)
• Philippines
16 Apr 10
me i just give ......i don't expect anything in return..it has been said that it is better to give than to receive.. coz. its a good feeling when you see people yiu have given gifts or favors...their smile and thank you's is enough for me
