relationship based on physical appearance won't last
By careguarden
@careguarden (5670)
Philippines
7 responses
@MagicalBubbles (5103)
• Canada
16 Apr 10
It seems to work well for my brother. He's with his girlfriend only for her looks, blonde, tall and flashy. They seem to get along and he's been with her for nearly 10 years now. So maybe it works for some!! lol
@careguarden (5670)
• Philippines
17 Apr 10
Well maybe in works to some, or perhaps they learn to love each other in a more deeper way. Since its proven work in your brother. But mostly it didn't work in reality. As what happens to divineathena's parents. Anyway thank you for sharing with us MagicalBubles and divineathena
@divineathena (1746)
• United States
17 Apr 10
You reminded me of my dad. He has been putting up with mom just for the sake of her looks. Otherwise, they are just not compatible. While my mom is antisocial, my dad is social. While my mom gets annoyed easily, my dad stays calm at all times. There are thousands of unsolved issues between them. But actually, he married her when things were backward. That is, they had arranged marriage. And now my mom believes being with him was a mistake.
@divineathena (1746)
• United States
18 Apr 10
Hi careguarden,
You know what? I feel that for a period of time people think they can just compromise or that somehow the clashes of personalities would fade. So they decide to stick to each other. Real problem starts surfacing after many years when the person realizes "enough is enough". My parents have been married for 30 years. Unfortunately, there are only a few happy moments between them.
@basqui (3888)
• Philippines
17 Apr 10
Yeah, it's lust not love. But if those people learn to love their partners traits and get closer to each other then they could have a chance to last. Having more quality time with partners could patch up more things that the appearance cannot show physically. Even if partners lose their physical beauty then the other may still love them because they learned to appreciate thing deeper than the outside beauty.
@careguarden (5670)
• Philippines
20 Apr 10
Absolutely, it's lust not love. However there are some instances where both learn to love and appreciate each other so later it turns into love, that usually happens if both of them value and respect each other. Anyway thank you for sharing with us and enjoy your day!
@drkraven (521)
• Romania
16 Apr 10
well they should last less than a relationshipt that is based on feelings, friendship and all. Those deteriorate too but not so fast at getting bored of how good your partner looks since there are alot of good looking people all around us. Beeing atracted to eachother in a big way cannot last long that s human nature.
@careguarden (5670)
• Philippines
17 Apr 10
Yeah, there are lots of people who are good looking and mostly people get deceived by looks so in the end relationship fall apart. Looks will change in time and so feelings will goes along with it since its build primarily on physical appearance. Anyway thank you for sharing with us and enjoy your weekends!
@thersdae_me (327)
• Philippines
17 Apr 10
Yes, I think a relationship that's primarily built on physical attractiveness will not stay long compared to one that is based on love. Physical looks fade in time and under different circumstances.
It is also true, though, that most relationships usually start with physical attraction. Then, love begins to develop as you get to know the person better and/or you get to spend more time with him/her which makes that person more and more close to your heart until you finally chose him/her among the others.
When this happens, you can no longer say that the relationship was based on physical attration but was initiated by it only and gradually developed into a much deeper feeling. :)
@careguarden (5670)
• Philippines
17 Apr 10
Yeah, you're right, relationship starts with physical attraction that could later turn into love for those who luckily learn to appreciate, love and accept the persons inner beauty. But for those who fail, it ends the relationship.Anyway thank you for sharing with us and enjoy your day!
@careguarden (5670)
• Philippines
17 Apr 10
Yeah, absolutely you're right, there are many people who fall trap into physical appearance so they immediately jump into a relationship barely knowing the person, so in the end it brought them into misery and pain. Relationship is complicated and it should be based on love, inner feelings and not just outer, in order for it to last longer. Anyway thank you for sharing with us and enjoy your day!
@divineathena (1746)
• United States
17 Apr 10
Hi there,
I see that physical attractiveness is needed in the beginning of the relationship. First impression counts after all, but whether the relationship will be a happy or a bad one depends on personalities of the two people involved. Those who understand that peace is important tend to leave a person they are not happy with. But also there are those who end up compromising. So that is how the relationship goes on for the long haul.
