How would you like to be calmed by somebody when you're angry?

When I am angry, I would like to be alone and let it out by myself. I don't want anyone to tell me to calm down, because the more that I would be really upset. I would like people around me to respect my feeling anger as same as they respect my feeling of happiness. They're both natural feelings/emotions of every person, they both deserve a respect. Though, generally anger or being upset is perceived as bad all the time. But for me, in some cases, it's just one natural form of reacting to a certain situation, a feeling that needs expression also, to avoid keeping it that would cause some stress later on. But of course, my husband could help me calm down, by being here all the time to listen to my expression of anger and the story of whatever gets me upset. He would never tell me though to calm down, because he himself doesn't want to be told so. We both respect our feelings. happy mylotting!

I like to calm somebody instead of be calm by somebody , because that`s part of my character i think , i don`t like to see somebody angry or sad so i always tries to make them feel better and forget the reason for being in their condition.

I would hate it. I've had other people try to calm me in situations where I was a bit out of control, but it drove me crazy. It's not like someone can stop me from feeling what I feel with just words, they don't understand what you're thinking. I prefer people just let me blow off some steam.

If I am very angry, it's best not to talk to me for some time. Not days or weeks... Just an hour or half an hour? Let me calm down first. I can calm down if no ones irritating me who keeps saying... "are you alright?"... When they say that to me. I always think... "I appreciate your kindness but I am very angry right now so will you back off. If you don't want to get hurt, it's best to stay away from me for sometime." Sometimes, instead of thinking... i say it. Excluding the "I appreciate your kindness" line. ... I know... I'm mean. I can't help it. When I am really angry, the best thing to do is leave me alone. That's just the way I am. My friends know that. SO when they see me angry... they really back off. They've seen me angry and to be honest... I am a person who is hard to deal with when my angry personality comes out. well, that's me. It can't be helped.

Those who knows me knows how to calm me down. When i am angry, it usually is best for me to keep quite. So just take me to a quite place or spot and let my anger subside. Then in a few minutes i will be okey. Onether way is to keep me occupied in other things.

Ah well, support you

if im angry i just let myself to deal with it and not let anyone to involve it or they will be the one to get my madness. Sometimes, i would rather be quite and dont bother to talk and i dont want anyone to talk to me while im still angry. the only thing that can take it off is of course my favorite food. ice cream is also the best.

Usually I wouldn't. When I get really angry, somebody saying anything to me will just make me even more mad.

i think i wouldn't too. when i'm angry or getting to be angry, i just want to let myself alone.because when ur tension is highing u can't help hurting others. even if ur best friend.

I guess just like your situation, it depends on who that person will be and how they'd approach you. Some people will try to calm you down but telling you "it's going to be ok" or "relax" and whatnot and it doesn't have any effect. But when it's someone you're really comfortable with and has a great influence in your life, I believe it's so easy to be "tamed" by those people. So even if you don't mean to calm down, it's just going to go with the flow even without you realizing it.