do you have a hard time saying sorry?

Philippines
April 20, 2010 7:21pm CST
you know to be honest with all of you guys its so hard for sometimes to say sorry to someone that i hurt with my words, i really don't know why but maybe it is because of my ego and pride. It takes me 1 day before i ask for forgiveness and say sorry to someone how about you do you say sorry immediately when you hurt someone or you do anything wrong to him/her?
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27 responses
• Philippines
21 Apr 10
Sometimes i can say sorry easily but sometimes it's hard for me to even utter a word about it. You're definitely right. It's all about the ego. We should learn to tone it down a little and be considerate of other people's feelings.
• Philippines
21 Apr 10
i really want to eliminate this ego but its really hard, i think it is very much normal to a guy, you see guy have a very high ego, and i'm still looking for the solution, i really want to lessen it or even eliminate it totally thanks for your response have a good day
• Philippines
21 Apr 10
You can't eliminate your ego. It's a part of who you are. All you can do is think of the other's situation and hope you can muster the courage to tell them you're sorry. That's it.
• Philippines
21 Apr 10
maybe your right, but i think courage maybe the best solution, thanks for your opinion and sharing what you know that can help me, thank you so much my friend
@nixxi76 (3191)
• Canada
21 Apr 10
As I was turning into my adult years a friend told me something which was wise. She said.. "Never do anything or say something you'll be sorry for" as soon as she told me that I thought about it and I must say that it was the wisest thing I've ever heard. To prevent yourself from saying something that you're going to be sorry for later.. never say something when you feel angry.. that's where counting to ten helps me. When I have to apologize for something I feel ashamed so I try my hardest not to make rashed decisions when I'm angry. She also said never do anything that will make you feel ashamed later as well, and don't ever say anything about a person unless you are able to say it to their face. Basically saying don't talk behind others backs. Have a good evening!
@nixxi76 (3191)
• Canada
22 Apr 10
It is indeed a very normal reaction but you have to start somewhere with self control and other people must know you thrive off of arguementive issues and just want to get a rise out of it. They do with me anyway.. especually when it comes to work. I can count at least ten arguements I can easily get into but I just have to leave the room and cool down then make a decision after I"m calm.
• Philippines
22 Apr 10
i get your point and your friend is exactly correct but you see when a human is angry sometimes we cannot avoid to say something wrong it is a very normal reaction to human being
@kaylachan (56244)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
21 Apr 10
It depends on the situation in which I would have to speak those words. If I know right then and there I am at fault and instantly regret an action, I'll be the first to appoligize. However, if I'm not in a proper mind set, then it's better for all parties involved that I don't say something right away. I usually need to calm down and re-think the entire situation, try to figure out where I may be wrong, but... never the less if I am actually at fault eventually I will say sorry.
• Philippines
22 Apr 10
being calm can also helps you to think what you've done wrong but it is also important that you look on both sides just be fair and say sorry if it is really your fault and if not try to explain your side never say sorry to the things that you haven't done because when you do so it is like accepting that you really do the mistakes
• India
21 Apr 10
ya ,you are correct to i too will be with some of my friends ...
• India
21 Apr 10
i would like to say something in this topic ..the word "sorry" is a magic word in English and so it can be used any where and at any time and it is not wrong in saying..but if we did not like some one and then we did not love to see him as he has hurt us in the past and so we will not like to talk with him then we have to catch him as soon as possible and if we loose the time then we will not ever find him anymore ..so it is good to leave out pride and join him as a friend..and that is the true friendship..
• Philippines
22 Apr 10
you know i am experiencing this thing at this very moment, you know i have my friend that i keep my distance off, i really don't know why i keep distance to him even if we are much very close during our first meeting in university but now i'm so shy talking to him i don't know maybe because i did something wrong to him but i already say "sorry" but still i feel that we really have a big gap already and our closeness will not be back
• Philippines
22 Apr 10
yeah i can do that i say sorry when im doing bad to myfriends and also to my family and my love one. but sometimes i forgot to say sorry because im pressured to saying that im guilty to what i did. even its not to me but for her its bad however i can't say sorry with her. sometimes i hard to give the word sorry with my love one because im have a higher pride that it really bad and this is the cause of our trouble. but now i realize that i need to say sorry because its very important to one relationship. well take care always and be happy with saying sorry to your enemy. good luck.
• Philippines
23 Apr 10
sometimes pride really stop us from saying sorry but we need to fight our pride so that we can build a good relationship with our love ones, and yes saying sorry is so hard specially when we've done a big mistakes but still we should say it as start of asking for forgiveness
• United States
22 Apr 10
It can be very hard to say your sorry when you say something hurtful to someone. There are different circumstances that can make people snap. For example I have someone very close to me that makes me so angry that I say things that I should not but when your provoked it just happens.
• Philippines
22 Apr 10
yes its very hard i really hate myself when one of my friend get mad at me, we didn't talk for 1 month but i say sorry already to him but i'm so shy to face him so i keep my distance with him
21 Apr 10
Sorry is the hardest word to say, but often best said as quickly as possible.
• Philippines
22 Apr 10
i absolutely agree that the one of the hardest word to say is "sorry" specially when you hurt by your action or word the people who are very much important to you well lets try our best to say this word as soon as possible so that it will not become so big that will cause to total gap between you and the person you hurt
@Masmasika (1921)
• Philippines
21 Apr 10
That depends on who the person I am saying sorry to and the situation. I f I know that I hurt someone I say sorry immediately. If I know that I have done the right thing, even if I hurt someone, I don;t say sorry. Saying sorry is nor hard if you only accept your mistake.
• Philippines
22 Apr 10
you know accepting mistake is so hard but we really must learn to accept our mistakes because it will bring peace in our feelings and we will be able to establish good relationship with others
• Philippines
21 Apr 10
Most of the time my way to tell sorry is not by whispering or saying the word sorry. Most of the time I do it n terms of action which speak more words that i am really sincere when it comes to the point that i would just remain silence and avoid arguments and just be kind trying to understand each person have different attitudes and one could not just please other people unless they are accepted immediately.
• Philippines
22 Apr 10
sometimes being quiet to any situation can help lessen the effect of the problem, but try also to say sorry and mix it with action so that he/she will really know that you really are sincere in asking for forgiveness
• Philippines
21 Apr 10
Hello! As for me, it really gives me a hard time saying sorry all the time because of my pride but it usually depends on the situation. And most of the time, I don't really say sorry. And that's another reason why it is so hard for me to do. It hurts me so much because it means I've made a mistake, I never want to make a mistake. I always defend what I did until people see it's right even when it's wrong.
• Philippines
22 Apr 10
you know making mistake is just normal to us human, don't be afraid to say sorry specially when it is really you fault, saying sorry can free you from worries and sadness just try to defeat your pride because it will not bring you to anything good
@ebuscat (5935)
• Philippines
21 Apr 10
For me I don't say sorry specially they get abuse in me there attitude but when time to say there's no time in place.
• Philippines
22 Apr 10
sometimes when we are the one making the moves to say sorry even if it is not our fault that is the time that they are abusing us, well for me if i really know its my fault then i will find a way to say sorry but if not i don't think i will say sorry
@monkeylong (3139)
• Guangzhou, China
21 Apr 10
As far as I am concerned, I think I am a little like that I usually it is so hard for me to say sorry to the one who we have hurt. We may usually feel it is a shame or something else in our heart. Just do not want to say sorry to the person. But do you know that the it is so important to learn to say thank you and sorry ,which can help me to do a lot in our daily life?I think we must try our best to learn that.
• Philippines
22 Apr 10
yes we really must try our best to say this important word "sorry" because it really lightens our feeling and we also become happy when the person we hurt already forgive us, but sometimes i am having a hard time saying sorry to the person i hurt
@megamatt (14292)
• United States
21 Apr 10
One of the hardest things to do is to admit that we were wrong about something. Saying sorry most certain falls under this category. Plus, there is always a matter of saying sorry at the proper time. I mean, if you say sorry at the wrong time, then it might come across as insincere and like you do not mean it. Emotions are running high and thus people will still be upset. I think saying sorry right away is a bit premature. Because, you have not really had time to think about what had happened. Therefore, it is a bit of a hollow apology and means very little, if anything at all. Time is something that we have to take into consideration. I normally wait a day or two before I say that I am sorry. To do so right away would mean that I really have not learned anything. However, it can be hard to just swallow my pride and say that I am sorry. There are times where I had to do it and there was a good reason that I had to do it. It still does not make it easier, when we realize that we were in the wrong. Plus, there is always that fear that the person might not really accept our apology. That I think is another reason why it is hard to say that I am sorry. So, yes, its something that has to be done, but getting there cannot be fun.
• Philippines
22 Apr 10
i am also afraid of rejection that the person that i hurt may not accept my apology maybe this is one reason thats why i am having a hard time to say sorry to the person that i hurt and another thing i also wait 1 to 2 days before i say sorry or ask forgiveness to the person because i want to calm all the situation first before asking for forgiveness thanks for your very good response i learn a lot
@525quan (16)
• China
21 Apr 10
when i say some words that hurt my lover,i find it so sorry ,i hate my words ,hate my mouth.
• Philippines
22 Apr 10
we both have the same attitude sometimes we don't watch our words before we say it to the people we are talking to and because of this we find enemy's for me i have with this attitude for a long time, i will give a joke to my friend without knowing that i'm hurting them and after sometimes the news will come to me that this person that i hurt with my words get mad at me
@dawnald (85129)
• Shingle Springs, California
21 Apr 10
Depends, do I know I did wrong? Is the apology voluntary? Then no, I don't have a problem saying I'm sorry. but if somebody demands an apology, especially in a situation where I don't believe I was wrong, I have a very hard time with it...
• Philippines
21 Apr 10
for me i will never say sorry especially when i didn't do anything because if i do its like i accept that i really do it
@May2k8 (17978)
• Indonesia
21 Apr 10
if I do something wrong it is easy for me to say sorry, but whether everyone wants to receive an apology from me. Sometimes it is difficult to forgive than to say sorry.
• Philippines
21 Apr 10
but you know for me it is easy for me to forgive than to ask for forgiveness i really don't know how to say sorry because sometimes i'm so shy to say the word specially when there are many people around it really hard for me to say the word sorry
@KompitaPita (2051)
• Bulgaria
21 Apr 10
Hello, Jiraiyasanin. Yes, it is hard to say sorry, but when we hurt somebody, we should say it. I always make sure I said 'sorry' to those that I've hurt. We are only humans and everyone is making mistakes sometimes, so we need to say sorry, when we do anything wrong to someone.
• Philippines
21 Apr 10
yes if we really do anything wrong to someone then we really must say sorry but for me i prefer to say sorry to the one i hurt when only few people surrounds us because i'm so shy if there is many people around
• Philippines
21 Apr 10
At times, it's hard to say sorry for something that you have not done because there are times that you just want to say sorry to save from triggering an argument.. But if I am the one at fault, it's not hard for me to say sorry at that very instance because I don't feel comfortable hurting someone else.
• Philippines
21 Apr 10
but i think it is really not proper to ask for forgiveness or say sorry especially if you know that you didn't done anything wrong it is like you accept that it is really your fault, sometime we really need to defend ourselves although it may lead to some serious conflict but still i believe time will come that everybody will realize the mistake they've than to each other
• Philippines
21 Apr 10
It's us guys who tends to have a hard time saying the sorry word. And everytime we say it they, the girls, usually conveys it as unreal, not from the heart. Saying the word sorry forthrightly usually is not a sincere sorry.And when a person gets use to saying sorry all the time, it lessens the credibility of the word sorry. That's why i also on my part says sorry a little longer thus it is a sincere one.
• Philippines
21 Apr 10
i also experience the same as you do, i say sorry to someone that i hurt and she told me that i just say it just to fix everything and i am only force to do so thats why i became mad at her and it took time before we fix everything
• China
21 Apr 10
Yes,i always don't know how to say sorry to someone that I hurt ,so I have few quarries with my friends.
• Philippines
21 Apr 10
try to ask for opinion from your friend so that you can fix up everything specially when you are the one that really hurts the person or it is actually your fault