Are chores assigned to children in your family?

@p3ks626 (6548)
Philippines
April 22, 2010 6:02am CST
Do you think its a good training for kids to learn how to do do household chores while they are still young? I find it very helpful cause my nephews are already encouraged to help do the dishes and sometimes sweep the floor. When I was young, my mom hired somebody to do household chores but she never allowed to lazy around but she assigned us to do something like cooking the rice and doing the dishes too. It was very helpful for me when I got older and left home for college cause I was able to do things for myself and doesnt have to be dependent of other people do it for me. Did you have the same experience when you were still young? What did you do and how did it help you when you were older?
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• Canada
22 Apr 10
Yes, most definitely. I believed that teaching the children at young ages, to have some responsibility is a very good thing. Then, they won't expect everyone around them to do everything for them when they are an adult. It is our jobs as parents to try and raise responsible people into this world. It also teaches them a sense of accomplishment and pride when they do a job well and get praise for it.
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@p3ks626 (6548)
• Philippines
23 Apr 10
Being a parents I think its a lot of responsibilities. I am just glad that I learned the value of work from my parents. I could still remember before when I was younger when my father was working in the government and he was earning less so he tried to get a sideline and he sold fish to our neighborhood. I was not ashamed about it. My father actually taught me a lesson there that I should always be diligent.
@jdyrj777 (6547)
• United States
23 Apr 10
When we were kids our grandma (they adopted us) never had us do anything. My sister isnt that clean and i am. When my children were at home i assigned them chores. My son is not clean but my daughter is. So i think it is good to give them chores but i dont think it had everlasting effects on them.
@p3ks626 (6548)
• Philippines
24 Apr 10
Maybe it will give them good effects for a moment of time like when they are till young. Sometimes when they became teenagers they are gonna get lazy and doesnt want to help with the chores anymore. I think its part of being a teenager but I do believe when they are older, they will remember to do their chores. When they become parents themselves, they would also want their kids to know how to do some chores.
@jdyrj777 (6547)
• United States
24 Apr 10
I do believe its good to have them help around the house. My thought was always, you helped mess it up so now you will help clean it up. But as stated previously looking back upon 2 generations the results are not ever lasting. It depends upon how each person is.
• Boston, Massachusetts
23 Apr 10
Hi P3, i learned how to do house chores when i was still a kid. my parents exposed us--their children to participate in the house chores. we were given each a responsibility and area to attend to. dishes, bathroom, kitchen, living room, dining and the bed room. we started with simple activities and as we grow older, we are being exposed to bigger responsibilities. i appreciate what they did and i am also training my kids this early...an activity that is fun. they enjoy doing some mini chores!
@p3ks626 (6548)
• Philippines
24 Apr 10
Its better off starting with the easy ones first cause kids will know for themselves that things are easily done and when they are given bigger responsibilities, they will still be able to do it since they already know they can.
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• Boston, Massachusetts
24 Apr 10
always consider their capabilities...so anything appropriate to their capacity will be great for them to do.
@sender621 (14951)
• United States
22 Apr 10
I try to assign chores to where i know they will get done. My children are not always a true testament of this. They only like to do the things that are fun or quick to do. Othwerwise it seems like work and excuses are forthcoming. I find it easier to get chores done as a family instead of forcing certain details on any one member of the family.
@p3ks626 (6548)
• Philippines
23 Apr 10
You got a point there. I felt the same way when i was young when it was my turn to do the dishes and it was something that I didnt like doing. I always find an alibi not to do it but I always end up doing it but I am not happy I was doing it. I think its really good to assign chores that children will be capable of doing and not forced into it.
@sender621 (14951)
• United States
23 Apr 10
It all depends on how badly we want a chor done. Voluntary help is so much more pleasant than forced.
@mackiejp (376)
• Philippines
22 Apr 10
My children are all too young to do the household chores but I see a slight attitude they got from me...I am really meticulous when it comes to doing household chores...Perhaps, they've seen me that way and that they've thought that was right for them to do too. As early as their age now, my eldest is 5 yr old and the youngest is 2 yr old and they are all boys, I see them holding mop to wipe the floor, broom to sweep the dirt, brushes to remove the stains, and duster to clean the furniture.Funny isn't it? they are doing what I usually do every weekend. They would even offer me their help. And I realized whether I give them responsibility of doing chores or not in the future, I know and I am certain they would be as meticulous as me when they grow up because it is in that way I raised them to be. As the quote say: "YOUR CHILDREN WILL BECOME WHAT YOU ARE;SO BE WHAT YOU WANT THEM TO BE"
@p3ks626 (6548)
• Philippines
23 Apr 10
You are absolutely right about that! When my nephews were of the same age like your kids, their mom taught them very simple chores like keeping their toys. Now that they are older, they are more responsible and their mom need not tell them to keep their toys, they do it automatically.
@mackiejp (376)
• Philippines
23 Apr 10
Some ways are like that they trained their kids at an early age, but when I was like my children's age now or even when I became teenager my mom didn't train me to do the chores at home, we had nanny then to fix everything for us, but even if there was someone my parents' hired to do household chores I chose to clean and fix my own room. Ever since I was already meticulous about my things that should be in its proper place and when I got married though I hired someone to help at home I still do the things I love to do and that is to clean the house. My children see me that way, and they seem to realize that is how things going to be. Now, my kids are responsible already that after playing their toys they keep them in the place where it should be, perhaps they feel awful when things mess up around.
@cerebellum (3870)
• United States
23 Apr 10
When I was young my parents got divorced and we stayed with my father. I was the only girl, and a lot of the housekeeping stuff fell to me. We had a "maid", but she only came once a week. I did most of the cooking and laundry etc. It helped that I knew how to do things when I was on my own. I think children should learn how to do chores, like laundry at least. I feel the same about some husbands or wives that depend so heavily on their spouse they can't do anything for themselves.
@p3ks626 (6548)
• Philippines
24 Apr 10
Our maid was allowed to go home every month. When she is not around, my mom always assigned me to cook and clean the house. My sister helped me most of the time but my other sister and brother seldom did. But I am still thankful I was able to do all those things when I was young cause I gained some skills that helped me now that I am married.
@Thoroughrob (11750)
• United States
23 Apr 10
Around my house, all my kids have chores. They need to learn responsibility, along with the experience of learning how to do things. My parents always gave us chores, and it helped us get prepared to be out on our own.
@p3ks626 (6548)
• Philippines
24 Apr 10
My parents also did the same thing even though we had somebody to do it for us before. They never allowed us to lazy around. I also learned how to wash clothes and I never asked someone to wash my personal things for me. Thanks to my parents.
@xasasa (323)
• United States
23 Apr 10
My children are 2 and 4. As of right now they do not have any assigned chores. I am working on a reward system that will reward them for both good behavior and helping around the house. Probably at their ages I'm going to teach them to clean up after themselves.
@p3ks626 (6548)
• Philippines
24 Apr 10
Reward is a good motivation. I havent thought about that to do with my nephews if we are going to ask them to do something. Anyway, thanks for the idea. I think I am going to apply that as well as when I would have my own kids already.
• United States
23 Apr 10
Yes, i believe it is very good to train children while they are young. There is way to many teenagers in this generation that are very lazy. I believe it shows them responsibility and shows them to respect, if you teach them young.
@p3ks626 (6548)
• Philippines
24 Apr 10
I think so too. I know a lot of teenagers who are lazy and who doesnt even help their parents with some chores and its because they were not use to doing it. Parents should train their kids to know how to do chores when they are still young.
@marmar75 (168)
• Australia
23 Apr 10
Yes it is good training. When they get used to it as they grow up, they won't feel that it is drudgery. It helps the child to be more responsible and matured about life, not happy-go-lucky. I think the reason why I'm lazy with house chores is because my dad spoiled me and allowed me to sit down and watch the TV while people in the house are moving around doing chores.
@p3ks626 (6548)
• Philippines
23 Apr 10
Its good that kids already have that sense of responsibility while they are still young. Maybe in the future, you can always encourage your kids to help rather than lazy around and watch movies while the others are working. lol
@ipoemea (52)
• Philippines
23 Apr 10
yes. when I was a kid, my mom assigned me to clean the windows every morning. So when its my turn to become a mom, i assigned each of my two kids a house chore they will do every day. Simple chores first...then i add a chore or two as time went by. I think teaching a child some house chores will do them good. They will learn to be responsible and will not be a burden if they have to live in another place someday.
@p3ks626 (6548)
• Philippines
23 Apr 10
Good thing your mom taught you that now you are also teaching the same things to your kids. I am also going to do the same thing when I become a mother. Thanks to our parents they taught us well.
• Philippines
23 Apr 10
yes p3ks626. children must be trained early to have responsibilities, so that later in life they will not have difficulty coping up.
@p3ks626 (6548)
• Philippines
23 Apr 10
It would be very difficult for them to cope with life demands when they would have to do it when they are already old. Its always better to train up a child cause when he is old, it is still going to be for his or her own advantage.
@youless (98404)
• Guangzhou, China
23 Apr 10
Yes, I like to give some housework for my child. I think it is important for the children to help to do some housework at home. So when they grow up, they know the responsibility and they know how to take care of themselves and others. My child is happy to clean the floor and mop it. When he grows up a little bit, then I will ask him to clean the dishes. I love China
@p3ks626 (6548)
• Philippines
23 Apr 10
I have the same things in my mind. its always important to let kids know that helping with household chores is important. Its a good training on your child's part to do those chores. When he gets older, he will do those things without being asked cause he is already used to it.
@clocks123 (1227)
• United States
22 Apr 10
yes, it is good for the very young to do chores. it teaches them responsibility. as you get older, you will be thankful you learned all you could as a child to be able to be as independent as you can.
@p3ks626 (6548)
• Philippines
23 Apr 10
That's how I feel for my parents. I am really grateful that they taught me these things before and didnt allow me to lazy around. I think its a blessing to have known this and appreciate self-reliance.
@rajaiv0810 (1013)
• Philippines
22 Apr 10
It is good to train your children to do some household chores. It is like training them to become independent someday. I learned how to cook quite late already but I learned other chores like washing dishes and clothes at an early age. I had it useful when I got older. At this time, I asked my children to do simple stuff like preparing the table. And I also take this opportunity to bond with my children. I praise them when they did correctly and teach them when they performed differently.
@p3ks626 (6548)
• Philippines
23 Apr 10
Praises are also important for kids. They feel like they are really good at what they are doing and by feeling so, they are really gonna do a good job. When I was 8, my mom always asked me to set the table but I didnt do it well. I didnt put the forks and knives properly so she wont have to ask me to doit again. But I was scolded so I did a better job the next time. However, it would be good to give praises not because they did in a wrong way, but maybe praises for doing it then the child would have the initiative to do better next time.
@lelin1123 (15636)
• Puerto Rico
22 Apr 10
There were five of us growing up and we all had chores and they would change every week. The chores were washing the dishes, setting the table, cleaning the hallway stairs, vacuuming and dusting, our laundry, cleaning the bathroom and of course making sure our bedrooms were clean at all times. On Saturday mornings we could not watch TV or go out and play till all the chores were done. I do believe its good training for when we became adults. All of us know how to keep the house clean. However I think one of my sisters can't stand to clean because its her way of being rebellious from her childhood days. So her house is not in tip top shape at all. So it can backfire in some cases. I believe for me I do have a bit of OCD when it comes to making sure the house is clean at all times, but I wouldn't have it any other way.
@p3ks626 (6548)
• Philippines
23 Apr 10
My siblings and I also get to do all house chores and like your case I also have one sister who doesnt like doing chores not because she was rebellious but because she rather read books than clean the house. My parents allowed her to do that since she is the brightest among us. My sister also helps in cleaning the house and she is the only one among the four of us who doesnt know how to cook. It was a good idea that you and your siblings do chores and everybody gets to do all of it.
• United States
22 Apr 10
I have been slacking on my chores but I usually get in a cleaning mood and starting every thing but it only happens once a while like when friends are coming over.
@p3ks626 (6548)
• Philippines
23 Apr 10
Maybe your mom wishes your fiends would always come over. lol My mother told me the same thing before. She said she likes it when I visited their house before when my husband and I werent married yet cause my ex-boyfriend who is my husband now always cleaned their house whenever I pay a visit. lol
@p_vadla (1687)
• India
22 Apr 10
In our families we assign household chores to girls while outdoor activity is given to boys.
@p3ks626 (6548)
• Philippines
23 Apr 10
My dad always told mu younger brother to help wash the dishes cause he said washing the dishes is not for boys, they are only for girls. My dad is a very good example of doing chores all around cause he grew up without a maid and so he was trained to do chores. Though my brother seldom helps in washing the dishes, I think its still good that he knows how to value work.
• Philippines
22 Apr 10
Our family don't give house hold chores to the children, They give business chores. We are required to work at a young age. We learn how it is in our business. That is pretty much how we are
@p3ks626 (6548)
• Philippines
23 Apr 10
Business chores that means you were already taught by your parents how to do business at a young age? I guess you are a family of businessmen. Speaking about business, my brother and I also had the same experience in selling some candies to our classmates at school. It was fun and my mother always encourage us to save something from our profit.
@annavi23 (6298)
• Philippines
22 Apr 10
plates - wash dishes
yes,our parents teach me and my siblings at very young age on household chores.even if we have all around maid back then,our mother still teach us to be of help.it's really nice when you learned household chores while your still young.for you to be independent.when we get older,me and my siblings have schedule of tasks for washing dishes,doing laundry,cleaning the house.sometimes every weekends we have general cleaning all of us are cleaning.it's fun and its like bonding times. sometimes i hate doing household chores,but i have no choice,i'm always in the house and there's no one to help me.well,i remembered a friend of mine who doesn't know how to do laundry.to think,he was 24 that time i guess.he came over to our place and helped me do chores.i'm surprised he didn't know how to do laundry.he's had used to her mother doing all chores at their house,so he never learned.even his own underwear he don't know how to wash.so embarrassing right?to think,he was courting me that time.well,in a way,he learned because of me. it's a funny feeling i taught him how to wash clothes.gladly to help.it made him help other friends who didn't know how to,like him back then. it's hard when you grow up knowing nothing about household chores.as if u're paralyzed,so embarrassing to others.so now,we have our niece,we teach her to be helpful in household chores.it's nice she's loving it!
@p3ks626 (6548)
• Philippines
23 Apr 10
I know what you mean when you said embarrassing. Some kids think its cool they dont know how to do anything cause they think that it will make other people think that they already have other people to do it for them. Last year, when I was a school teacher all of my students didnt know how to do anything and it was not so good. As teachers, it was the only time they we had to teach them how to do chores. Too bad they have to learn it at school, it should have been better they learned it at home.