how to guess a true love?

Pakistan
April 22, 2010 10:23am CST
i have a girlfriend... but i think that she doesn't love me... because she never understand me and i also dont... i have said to her several times that leave me.. but she doesn't... always foces me to change my decision.. i always fight with her because we always argue with each other.. but still she dont want to leave me... but the problem i know that she will never communicate with her parents about me.. even she wants to remain silent while her parents fixing her marriage with some one else.. and again she doesn't want to cut off from me.. she says we will remain in contact through mails.. but i dont want to.. so what do u think? i dont think its love..
7 responses
• India
23 Apr 10
No, its not love. I think you should get rid of the girl as soon as you can. She is quite attached to you. She doesn't love you at all. But she is sort of addicted. She has just grown a habit of having you close by. She is afraid to be alone, so she is just using you as a smooth transition between two lives, single and married. You are just being mercilessly used by that girl. Please realize that and take stern decision before its too late. Thanks
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• India
30 Apr 10
Late? Well if things go on like this, there will soon be a time when you will be quite attached to her. She will definitely desert you at one of your weakest moments. She will not give you any ground to rest your feet on. This is inevitable, no matter how strong you think you are. This happens to all human beings, so it will happen to you as well. Whatever you do, you should have a strong belief that you are doing the right thing. Doing the right thing is always important, even if it hurts somebody. One man can't please everybody around him. Its simply an impossible concept. So please don't be afraid of hurting someone. Someone must die in a rightful and just battle. If you are strong enough to survive this battle there will be a time when you will thank yourself for being stern in taking this decision. Everything is gonna be fine. I know you can do it. God will show you the right way.
• Pakistan
23 Apr 10
thanx for ur opinion.. i really think like u.. i m trying to get rid of her.. but she always weep in front of me.. it just bound my words.. i feel embarrassed in front of myself.. that what i have done.. i m breaking someone's heart.. it always stop me.. but i didn't understand about how can it get too late..? what can be late?
• India
3 May 10
Wow! Thanks for the BR
@kedralynn (980)
• United States
23 Apr 10
It doesn't sound like true love. It sounds like a toxic relationship. And I should know. I was in one for 3 years. I believed I loved him and that he loved me. And in some weird messed up maybe we were in love. But it wasn't true. It was always a battle. We argued and broke up all the time. He never accepted me for who I was and wanted to change me. True love is acceptance and a want to be better for each other. To struggle hand in hand if the need be. To always be there for one another. To try your best to understand each other. I'm in a relationship now where we communicate. We understand. We accept. We'd do anything for the happiness of the other person. We both work hard for a better future for the both of us. It's the best relationship I've ever been in.
• Pakistan
24 Apr 10
yes you are absolutely rite.. the best and the clear response i yet had.. but the problem with me that i want to leave her.. but it is really hard for me to leave her.. i dont want to hurt her.. but i think our nature doesn't match.. that is the problem..
@scja16 (322)
• Philippines
23 Apr 10
if there is doubt then maybe it somewhat a stage where you need to see within you if you still love the person not asking the person if she loves you or not. Think of what will happen next because every actions has its effect, it may be bad or it may be good. Love and Life are both the same it is unpredictable though i strongle believe that all things happen depending on how we react on a certain situation. We do not guess for love it will eventually come into our life...
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• Philippines
22 Apr 10
True love is not guessing it. True love is accepting the other person. Making each other a better person.
• Pakistan
22 Apr 10
i didn't mean guessing... what i trying to ask is written above... dont just concentrate on guessing...
• Philippines
22 Apr 10
If you love her you should accept her and that should also be how she is to you. :)
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@Andyvil (793)
• Philippines
22 Apr 10
I totally agree with you arreolabryan. The best explanation for me about true love is on Corinthians 13. There are different types of love. Eros, Agape, Philia, Storge, Xenia. Each one of this have different stages of love. For me the only true love is Agape.
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@ejs0316 (28)
• Philippines
22 Apr 10
I think your girl doest realy love you. First, you have to ask her why doesn't she introduced you to her parents considering that her parents is already looking for someone for her. Then why do you always argue? The fact that she can't accept decisions you make and always try to change it means she always wants it her way. If she really loves you then maybe she can let you decide things for you relationship too, love is a two way road remember. Maybe she has an agenda that she still doesn't cut you off.If you really want to know if she love you or not, try to break up with her and then maybe she will realized how much she really loves you when your gone.
• Pakistan
23 Apr 10
thanx for the worthy response... friend.. i have tried to do so.. but she never let me do so.. i m a really sensitive person and i cant see any one weeping in front of me specially for me... my heart never believes that she loves me.. but watching her situation.. that she cant live without me.. my brain thinks that she loves me... but by heart it never accepts that.. because she never fulfill my expectations..
• India
23 Apr 10
This is not the love between a couple. This love is known as friendship. She doesn't want to leave you cause she will miss you. She thinks that you can be either a very good friend or a very good lover. But she can't place u as her life partner. From my experience I saw that now-a-days most of the girls and their parents look for a secure future in the man who will be a part of their family. I think the girl doesn't not think that you can give her a secure future life. That is the reason she is showing less interest to introduce you in her family. I would like to give you a suggestion what I have learned from my past relations. Forget the girl, forget her feelings for you. You find your own way, cause this is your life. You have duty for you and your family. No one in this world is above your parents. Follow this rule you will be happy in life. Remember you have connection with your parents for whatever your age is + 9 months. And how many years you are having the relation with that girl, for whom you are wasting your valuable time? Think it and regain yourself. Good Luck.
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• Pakistan
23 Apr 10
i like ur opinion.. it is really valuable for me.. the problem she faces is that she knows her father will not agree... because her father is a rich person.. even though i m not poor.. but i have not yet secured my future... because i m a student.. and she is also a student.. but she is 2 years senior than me.. but not in age..she dont have the courage of sharing this with her father... even i cant marry her too if her parents will agree... because she is fat and my parents will not accept her.. and they dont want me to marry someone who is 6 months elder than me... the things with i m concerned at this time is love.. does she really loves me? so that we ca spend the rest of the time easily and happily... another thing is that my parents will not let me marry at this time... because im just 21.. and gonna 22 in september..
• China
23 Apr 10
maybe she just gets used to u r on her side.or she want to own more.