What should I do?I fall in love with a girl who has a boyfriend and be .....?

China
April 23, 2010 8:45am CST
We are friends before,but I don't know she has a boyfriend.One day,when I was walking with her,she told me she is always with her boyfriend at the weekend.I was very sad.I wanted to cry that night. The problem is that I never told her I love her.But I really love her.Another problem is that she will leave China soon.It seems that we have no choice. Is life just like this?It's really unfair.Is that true that we must give up something we want in our life?What should do?
6 responses
@Genericbe (1376)
• Philippines
25 Apr 10
hi polly, I think life is fair, it may be considered unfair if after you have tried almost everything and the people around you treated you badly the way you never expected. It is just that at this time you are deeply in love with her, does not favor your wishes or wants. She may be committed with other guy but still life is fair with you, because you are able to spend good memories with her even for small period of time and with some restrictions you do not want at all. When you love a person by heart, it is very hard to give up the person that fast because of unwanted conditions. This is the time the test of friendship do counts. The level of love given may be different, but the level of bonding as good friends will remain as long both of you work things out in maintaining such relationship until you are given that chance to be moved to another level of love that is considered as couple relationship. Where all those unexpressed thoughts and feeling you have will be delivered in no restrictions at all. Though you have never told her your true feelings.. Maintain a good relationship with her and in simple thoughts and deeds you do for her, it will be delivered and she will also able to realize what you have done for her. Let her realize things freely in a way you have a good communication with her. Sometimes, people have to experience unwanted things in life so that next time you go over the same path, you already know what road you will going to take.. there may be people along those roads, but what matters is that you know the road if you move on or if you will stay in that road..It is better to go with many roads in life for this will inspire you with many other people you can possibly be with ... then you will know.. if life is fair or unfair with you.. happy mylotting..
• China
25 Apr 10
Thank you so much. Now I think life is fair.Thank you for your advice.
@darkdeivu (257)
• Philippines
24 Apr 10
Just move on to your feeling to her and try to be her best friend and a best man to her that she can lean on. Getting in love with someone is a big trouble and much pain will you have if she will not choose you.
• China
25 Apr 10
Maybe I think there is no love I can take it for grated.Maybe I need to wast more if I love her.Do you think that is right?
• Singapore
23 Apr 10
Just give up man. you never get anything out from a gal which had a boyfriend. Unless she really loves him very much, trust me let it go unless you fall hard and you might never get back on your feet soon.
• China
25 Apr 10
Thank you for reply.Maybe sometimes we need to give up something in our life.But it seems to be not very fair... It's so hard to give up something you wanted.
@piya84 (2581)
• India
24 Apr 10
Ohh god Polly I know its very easy to say move on but it is very difficult to do it in real.But there is no option right now.There is no point in waiting for something which is not going come back.She is living your country as well so even if she breaks ups with her boyfriend after some years she will be somewhere else.So it better you try to forget her.
@Ritchelle (3790)
• Philippines
25 Apr 10
life teaches you pain so that when the right person comes you would all the more be deserving of her. this just shows you that not because you want something you'd get it. fate always plays a part. finding a loved one is truly a blessing and should be treated as such. there is someone out there only for you.
@advokatku (4033)
• Indonesia
25 Apr 10
life and love it sometimes has the same section, namely the existence of choice and sacrifice but if you can see behind it all, surely there will be opportunities that will achieve the happiness for you .... so, you must specify the manner in this case, choose it or not, select your own happiness or select the happiness in your friends ... if you appreciate the meaning of friendship, you should throw away and forget about the girl ...