does my roommate suffering from anxiety???
By Kumar1232009
@Kumar1232009 (1215)
Spain
8 responses
@EvrWonder (3571)
• Canada
23 Apr 10
Hi Kumar; Although this may cause some tension for you and your environment that you share with your roommate, it may be a good idea to just leave him alone. Let him be, allowing him as much space as he needs, without trying to talk with him. Let him come to you, to talk when he wants to. Until them just let him alone. He will come around when he feels better. I suspect that he just needs space to work out whatever it is that he is going through. Don't question him, don't ask him to do anything, just let him do his own thing in whatever length of time it takes for him to do so.
As for "rules" that you both agreed upon, what could those rules be?
As long as he is paying his portion of the rent and utilities, what more must he be doing?
If he isn't eating then there can't be dishes that are possibly being let unwashed so what more could there be expected of your roommate but to pay his portion of the bills?
@EvrWonder (3571)
• Canada
23 Apr 10
PS: It seems to me that your roommate is suffering from a form of depression rather than anxiety.
If he were experiencing anxiety as the main problem he may not be able to sleep. Since he is choosing to sleep a lot and not eat, nor talk with anyone, it sounds to me like he is depressed.
@Kumar1232009 (1215)
• Spain
24 Apr 10
I tried talking to him this morning before I left but in vain. I told him foods are placed on top of the table and if he want to eat just preheat it. But He did not even move.
You know he is not following curfew hours, smoking inside the room, never inclined to do room stuffs that needs to be cleaned and sorted up, he's also like a noisy dog where he never care about the volume of his stuffs when he uses, as in everything is favorable to him and he never cares of someone who got distracted. He used to off the AC and do his exercises inside the room instead of going to the gym. He use to do this thing when he notice that I'm working on the internet or some thing. Closed AC will drive you to hell fire due to extreme heat temperature outside.
As for me I know my limitations and I want to teach him brotherly to the best possible way I can.
Thanks.
@EvrWonder (3571)
• Canada
25 Apr 10
Hi Kumar, Thank you for commenting. You sound not only a true and great friend but a caring one as well.
I am so sorry that you are in this situation.
What are you going to do?
It sounds as though your roommate is rather disrespectful.
Not thinking about how you may feel, not considering that others are residing in the same quarters.
Again, he maybe depressed rather than have anxiety but he sure is being disrespectful to those living around him.
Nice of you to leave food out for him as well.
I wish I had a roommate as nice as you.
Perhaps talk with your superiors again. maybe you could get switched into a different room so to share with someone else, who is respectful, social and as kind and caring as yourself!
@bystander (2292)
• Philippines
29 Apr 10
maybe, kumar. but more likely, the kind of angst your roommate may have is depression. there must be something really serious bugging his mind, sending him in a state of depression. if your roommate trusts you enough, talking to him about his problem will certainly help. but if not, it may only aggravate the situation. sometimes, trust plays a critical role in a situation involving someone with depression...
@Kumar1232009 (1215)
• Spain
29 Apr 10
Thanks Sir for responding. That's really the focal point, trust. I think he is not trusting me that much but God knows all I really wanted is to have a good communication with him, strenghten our friendship and as much as possible I am trying to protect both parties with issues that may arise due to not following those rules. Thanks.
@bystander (2292)
• Philippines
1 May 10
indeed, but apparently, your roommate does not realize that rules are there to put order to things. just keep on trying... never give up....
@spalladino (17891)
• United States
23 Apr 10
I agree with dawn. Sleeping a lot, not communicating with others, loss of appetite and interest in anything are all signs of depression. If it is at all possible, you should try to get some help for your roommate. Depression can be more than just feeling low and it's not always possible to "snap out of it" alone.
@Kumar1232009 (1215)
• Spain
23 Apr 10
he will be left alone tomorrow as it is saturday, week begin here. i already informed the camp boss to our villa about his situation. thanks.
@Kumar1232009 (1215)
• Spain
23 Apr 10
I offered some but i never got his respond yet. I am just afraid that maybe he took the confrontations seriously. I just don't like that issues may arise of not following the rules by himself which we both agreed from the start.
@Kumar1232009 (1215)
• Spain
4 May 10
thank you so much my dear bai. i think he is getting okay now. i wish we will be fine.
@besthope44 (12123)
• India
6 Oct 10
Anxiety is overloading the mind with multiple thoughts or pressures, that the mind or brain cannot able to withstand..so we burst out in anxiety and tension.
@Kumar1232009 (1215)
• Spain
7 Oct 10
although mind presures at times are part of our life, we really need to tackle them. we just have to deal properly and effectively. we are the master of our actions and therefore, mistakes that drove our minds into pressure, we need to learn from it and avoid having them back again...
thanks best.
@dawnald (85135)
• Shingle Springs, California
23 Apr 10
It sounds a lot more like depression than anxiety...
@Beautyfactor (1512)
•
23 Apr 10
Could be anxiety, but he needs to work out what he is anxious about to find a solution. Have you also considered that he couold just have a mild depression or be going through a difficult patch right now. The best thing you can do is to be there for him when he is ready to speak to someone, so let him know you are there when he needs you.
@Kumar1232009 (1215)
• Spain
23 Apr 10
thanks for your response senhorita..
as far as i know he does not have any problems before i confronted him.
