NJ Principal Asks Parents To Ban Social Networking

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http://wcbstv.com/technology/facebook.social.networking.2.1662565.html RIDGEWOOD, N.J. (CBS) ? [Click to zoom.] Click to enlarge 1 of 1 Anthony Orsini, the principal at Benjamin Franklin Middle School in Ridgewood, sent out an e-mail Wednesday morning asking parents to help him get all of his students off social networks and keep careful track of their text messages. (File) Dan Kitwood/Getty Images Close numSlides of totalImages Related Slideshows Celebs Who Lean To The Right Celebrities On Twitter 2010 Celebrity Deaths Shocking Celebrity Suicides Celebrity Real Names...Revealed! Best Picture Blunders Celebrity Cougars & 'Manthers' Megan Fox -- Then & Now Jessica Simpson: Then & Now World's Most Useless Facts Related Stories * NY Senator Seeks Privacy Guidelines For Websites (4/26/2010) * Facebook Revamps User Profiles To Play Up Pages (4/19/2010) * Couple Robbed, Blame Facebook Status Update (3/25/2010) * Tampa's Mystery Monkey Has Its Own Facebook Page (3/24/2010) * NJ H.S. Players Benched After FB Postings (3/4/2010) A controversial proposal has students horrified at a Bergen County middle school on Wednesday. The principal is asking parents to join a voluntary ban on social networking. Eighth grader Ali Feinberg told CBS 2 she uses her iPhone to check her Facebook account "a lot" and some of her friends said the same. Now all have to talk to their parents about getting off the popular social network. It won't be easy. "I am very addicted to Facebook," Feinberg's classmate Elizabeth Dolan told CBS 2. Anthony Orsini, the principal at Benjamin Franklin Middle School in Ridgewood, sent out an e-mail Wednesday morning asking parents to help him get all of his students off social networks and keep careful track of their text messages. "Please do the following: sit down with your child (and they are just children still) and tell them that they are not allowed to be a member of any social networking site. Today! "Let them know that you will at some point every week be checking their text messages online! You have the ability to do this through your cell phone provider. "Let them know that you will be installing Parental Control Software so you can tell every place they have visited online, and everything they have instant messaged or written to a friend. Don't install it behind their back, but install it!" Although Orsini's e-mail is just a request, not an order, it's language is blunt: "It is time for every single member of the BF Community to take a stand! There is absolutely no reason for any middle school student to be a part of a social networking site! "Let me repeat that - there is absolutely, positively no reason for any middle school student to be a part of a social networking site! None." He said the sites have become a tool for children to do psychological harm to each other, often anonymously – a trend known as "cyber-bullying." "Rumors used to be some mean girl says something in the hall, but now it's out there for the whole world to look at," he told CBS 2. Middle schools have always had drama and emotion, but the social networks amplify them to such an extent that guidance counselors there said it's become a menace to their students. Meredith Wearly, the school's guidance counselor, said about 75 percent of her day is spent dealing with social networking issues with students. Since the e-mail has gone out, the principal said the reaction has been generally positive. But the truth will come when individual negotiations take place between parent and child to get them off Facebook. Feinberg said she plans to argue the issue with her parents. "I'm not going to do anything bad, so why should I get rid of it?" she said. There are 700 students at Benjamin Franklin Middle. Parents of more than 20 have already responded to the e-mail, and Orsini said he's heard no adult opposition to the idea. Below is a copy of Orsini's entire e-mail: Dear BF Community, In 2002 when I arrived in Ridgewood Facebook did not exist, Youtube did not exist, and MySpace was barely in existence. Formspring (one of the newest internet scourges, a site meant simply to post cruel things about people anonymously) wasn't even in someone's mind. In 2010 social networking sites have now become commonplace, and technology use by students is beyond prevalent. It is time for every single member of the BF Community to take a stand! There is absolutely no reason for any middle school student to be a part of a social networking site! Let me repeat that - there is absolutely, positively no reason for any middle school student to be a part of a social networking site! None. 5 of the last 8 parents who we have informed that their child was posting inappropriate things on Facebook said their child did not have an account. Every single one of the students had an account. 3 Students yesterday told a guidance counselor that their parents told them to close their accounts when the parents learned they had an account. All three students told their parents it was closed. All three students still had an account after telling their parents it was closed. Most students are part of more than one social networking site. Please do the following: sit down with your child (and they are just children still) and tell them that they are not allowed to be a member of any social networking site. Today! Let them know that you will at some point every week be checking their text messages online! You have the ability to do this through your cell phone provider. Let them know that you will be installing Parental Control Software so you can tell every place they have visited online, and everything they have instant messaged or written to a friend. Don't install it behind their back, but install it! Over 90% of all homework does not require the internet, or even a computer. Do not allow them to have a computer in their room, there is no need. Know that they can text others even if their phone doesn't have texting capability, either through the computer or through their Ipod touch. Have a central "docking station" preferably in your bedroom, where all electronics in the home get charged each night, especially anything with a cell or wifi capability (Remember when you were in high school and you would sneak the phone into your bedroom at midnight to talk to you girlfriend or boyfriend all night - now imagine what they can do with the technology in their rooms). If your son or daughter is attacked through one of these sites or through texting - immediately go to the police! Insist that they investigate every situation. Also, contact the site and report the attack to the site - they have an obligation to suspend accounts or they are liable for what is written. We as a school can offer guidance and try to build up any student who has been injured by the social networking scourge, but please insist the authorities get involved. For online gaming, do not allow them to have the interactive communication devices. If they want to play Call of Duty online with someone from Seattle, fine, they don't need to talk to the person. The threat to your son or daughter from online adult predators is insignificant compared to the damage that children at this age constantly and repeatedly do to one another through social networking sites or through text and picture messaging. It is not hyperbole for me to write that the pain caused by social networking sites is beyond significant - it is psychologically detrimental and we will find out it will have significant long term effects, as well as all the horrible social effects it already creates. I will be more than happy to take the blame off you as a parent if it is too difficult to have the students close their accounts, but it is time they all get closed and the texts always get checked. I want to be clear, this email is not anti-technology, and we will continue to teach responsible technology practices to students. They are simply not psychologically ready for the damage that one mean person online can cause, and I don't want any of our students to go through the unnecessary pain that too many of them have already experienced. Some people advocate that the parents and the school should teach responsible social networking to students because these sites are part of the world in which we live. I disagree, it is not worth the risk to your child to allow them the independence at this age to manage these sites on their own, not because they are not good kids or responsible, but because you cannot control the poor actions of anonymous others. Learn as a family about cybersafety together at wiredsafety.org for your own knowledge. It is a great site. But then do everything I asked in this email - because there really is no reason a child needs to have one of these accounts. Please take action in your on home today. Sincerely, Anthony Orsini Principal, BFMS I found this very interesting and well put. He is not banning social networking but asking parents to reach out to their kids. What do you think of this? If you were a parent with a child in this school, would you talk to you child about canceling accounts?