Please give your advice

@zralte (4184)
India
April 29, 2010 10:26am CST
To get a clearer picture, let's start at the beginning. I live in India with my husband who is British. His whole family lives in England, so we go back and forth for a family visit quite often (not so often now that we have two children). My landlord has a son who is studying in England. When we went to England for Christmas of 2008 (we only had one baby at that time), my landlord said he would like to send some goodies to his son. So I tell him of course I would carry it for him as we never had to take much on our way there (Coming back from there, we are always loaded with gifts from the grandparents and other stuff that we couldn't get here). They have sent a duffel bag weighing 20 Kgs. When I said we never had much luggage, I didn't mean No Luggage at all. After all, we still have baby stuff like books and toys for the journey and change of clothes, etc. And with the airline restriction on the luggage weight becoming less and less, the flight that we took will only let us take 20 Kg per passenger and 10 Kg for the baby. NOW: We are planning to visit the grandparent soon, and the landlord again ask if we could send goodies to his son again. What do I tell him? I don't want to offend him; but I don't want to carry another 20 kgs. Especially now that we have two babies. NB: The house we rent from him is at a bargain price for what it is and where it is.
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@nisheeth (506)
• India
30 Apr 10
i would say that u should learn to say no some times.its necessary..and u can say that this much luggage is not allowed in the airport..
• Australia
30 Apr 10
worry about what you need to take for yourself, the baby, an your partner before hand, if each of you come your 20kg limit each for the adults, an 10kg for the baby, pool it together, an tell him you can only take up to this figure in weight (will have to split it again to make it work, so each of you is only taking the amount of weight your allowed to take)
@zralte (4184)
• India
9 Jun 10
@nisheeth, I might just say no this time. It is going to be a bit of a hassle with my two babies who will be clinging to me the whole time. @channah, I am usually a light traveller. I don't need much for myself. The babies' clothes and toys for the journey, books to keep them occupied, etc. are going to be the bulk of our luggage. And this time, my husband is not travelling with me. I am travelling with some relatives, but my children will still be clinging to me as they haven't seen much of the relatives.
@williamjisir (22884)
• China
9 Jun 10
After reading through your discussion, I could see that you were at a dilemma as to what to do with this situation, especially when you have two babies to take care of on the way to UK as well as the weight limit. Why not let your landlord know clearly about the hardships you will have to take during the trip, I mean, with two children to take care of? If he is let known about it, I think that he will buy as many goodies as he used to for you to take to his son in UK. Anyway, I wish you to be lucky enough to handle it smoothly and properly. Take care.
@zralte (4184)
• India
9 Jun 10
Thank you, williamjisir. I am in between saying 'No' or not telling him when I'm going, or just be honest with him and let him know exactly how much I can carry for him. Don't forget I will have to mail it to his son after getting to England.
@emdyey09 (264)
• Philippines
6 May 10
I think you should just casually tell your landlord that you can only carry about 1 or 2kg package. And tell him, you can't carry much now that you have two kids with you. I think he'll understand that. You just have to tell him in a nice manner.
@zralte (4184)
• India
6 May 10
Thanks for your advice. I will have to see what I can do.
• Philippines
30 Apr 10
carry what you need to carry and leave what you needs...if you think carrying these things is worth it...then do it...you might regret it and then buy the same thing there which you wil spent same amount and bring it there
@zralte (4184)
• India
9 Jun 10
It is not for me. I travel as light as possible. What we are discussing here is how to deal with my landlord who is planning to send goodies to his son, through me.
• India
30 Apr 10
oh it is a little problem and my advice is to sit in a place and a peace place and then think ...there will be a solution in all the place and u have to go in the correct path and that is the thing we have to do..and another thing is that we will have to do some hard work for some days so that we can be with fun in the last part of the life and we will miss things if we did not we will get it and there will be a pain in the thing but we will got a great solution..have fun..
@zralte (4184)
• India
9 Jun 10
Thank you for your advice, vishnumuthu. I thought long and hard and I am still thinking about it, especially now that the date of journey is set (mid-July). They haven't called me up yet, so I still got more time to think about it.
• Malaysia
30 Apr 10
sounds like you're in a bit of a spot. i'm sure that if you have a calm and honest discussion with him, there would be a way top compromise for the benefit of everyone who is involved, especially you..
@zralte (4184)
• India
9 Jun 10
A tight spot, more like it. I don't want to offend him, neither do I want to be inconvenienced with the goodies he wants to send to his son. With any luck, by the time we travel, the son might have his summer break and come home....I can only hope.....
@gabs8513 (48708)
• United Kingdom
29 Apr 10
Tell him you don't mind but there is a restriction on the Baggage weight so could he please ensure that the goodies will not be to much in weight Explain to him if you go over the weight it means you have to pay what you are over He should understand that Have a lovely time when you get here to the UK
@zralte (4184)
• India
9 Jun 10
I am travelling in mid-July, set now. I know it is a long time away yet, but with two children and a business here, it is not easy to get away. I have to plan and plan and replan. As for my landlord, I might end up telling him that I can't carry anything this time. If my husband is travelling with me, it would be alright. Without him, the kids got only me to cling to, and I certainly don't need the headache of worrying about the luggage.
@tolted (191)
29 Apr 10
You have to make him aware that with two babies now your luggage is a lot more than it used to be. Weigh your luggage or estimate how much it will be and tell him how much load you can afford to take without having excess luggage. if he is not aware of the kg limits make him aware. Or another option is tell him you can take it if he is willing to pay for excess luggage. Frankly it is because he is your landlord that you are doing him a favor but it should not be at the detriment of you and your children. I wish you all the best and a safe trip.
@zralte (4184)
• India
9 Jun 10
Like I said in the previous comment, he would never give me money. I told him the last time what the airlines restriction for luggage weight, he still sent me 20 kgs - a limit one person can carry. He probably thinks that since I told him we don't have much luggage, it is alright to send me that much. Thank you for your advice.
@maximax8 (31192)
• United Kingdom
29 Apr 10
I remember going on a flight from London to Riga with my son when he was a baby. We were allowed one piece of luggage up to 15kg. That was very hard to do even though I am used to traveling light. Now my son will be 3 years old when I take him on the flight from London to Vancouver. We will be traveling with daughter when she reaches 1 year old. I suggest you tell the landlord that you are having difficulty packing now you have two children. You could ask the landlord to give you less to carry for his son, like 7kg for example. Good luck.
@zralte (4184)
• India
9 Jun 10
Airlines are becoming costlier and costlier with the luggage you can take becoming lighter and lighter. I normally like to travel light, but with babies, I find it hard to travel as light as I would like to.
@cream97 (29151)
• United States
29 Apr 10
Hi, zralte. You will have to kindly and honestly tell your landlord, that you are unable to send anymore items to his son. Tell him that you are already carrying enough of things when you go to travel. And anymore items would put a big strain on you. Let him know this. I hope that he does not get offended by you being hones with him.
@zralte (4184)
• India
9 Jun 10
That is my main concern, offending him, I mean. When I am travelling with a baby or babies in this case, it is not just the weight that I am concerned about. I will have to worry about the babies as well as the luggage. I am going to travel with someone, but the children are at a stage when they are very clingy to me especially in public places. And the people I am travelling with relies on me for arranging and taking care of pretty much everything as they don't speak English.
@Torunn (7118)
• Norway
29 Apr 10
What about saying yes but that you need to weigh your own luggage before you know how much you can take. Tell him a kilo or two less than what you maximum can take. Then maybe he comes with something with a more reasonable size.
@zralte (4184)
• India
9 Jun 10
Thank you for your advice. I am just about ready to travel now, it takes time for me to plan and travel. As it is, we will be going in a month's time.
@emdyey09 (264)
• Philippines
6 May 10
I think you should just casually tell your landlord that you can only carry about 1 or 2kg package. And tell him, you can't carry much now that you have two kids with you. I think he'll understand that. You just have to tell him in a nice manner.