do you encounter opppositions in your relationship?

@jenny08 (136)
Philippines
April 29, 2010 11:42pm CST
please give me some advise...i love my boyfriend so much and i know He loves me too..but my problem is, Hes family don't like me at all...i always cry when it comes to that problem...i don't know what should i do...
7 responses
• Philippines
2 May 10
Oh no. You're caught in a very difficult situation. That already happened to my cousin. I'm not telling you to do this but she and her boyfriend decided to have a baby just to keep their relationship. In your case, fight for him if you truly love him. Know what his parents don't like about you and perhaps work on it.
@jenny08 (136)
• Philippines
3 May 10
lol...we are not allowed to have a baby first because we want to marry in the temple were in our future family will be together for eternity...thank you for the comment dear...
• India
30 Apr 10
sorry for the situation you are facing but I believe you should discuss this problem with your BF.If he really loves you,he will understand you and will do the appropriate things for you..ie..moving away from family or making his family members to agree upon his discussion..hope every thing will be fine for you in near future
@jenny08 (136)
• Philippines
1 May 10
i do hope so...thanks for the advise my friend....God bless....
• China
30 Apr 10
Hello jenny, I'm sorry for this situation, it always happened here in my country. Maybe there's still something you are not doing quite well, Just do the right thing, one day his family will understand. If it doesen't work, just move out with your boyfriend. If he really loves you, he will not make you cry anymore.
@jenny08 (136)
• Philippines
1 May 10
yes...it's because of the dicission of my boyfriend...his family think that i am teaching my boyfriend to dis respect his parents which is not true...hopefully someday they will understand and accept me...thanks for the advise my friend...God bless...
@chabawel (329)
• Philippines
1 May 10
I happened to be in the same situation as you. I used to have a relationship with this guy and unfortunately, he doesn't love me that much to fight for me. In your case, I really have no idea how your boyfriend gives you assurance that he'll make things happen to make your relationship work even if his side of his family is not PRO about you two having a relationship. As long as you know, in your part, you're giving unconditional love and he does the same to you, don't stress yourself too much. Family matters of course but in a relationship, its the two of you whose going to make it work not other people. This is a test how deep your love for each other, so girl, KEEP THE POWER HIGH. Don't lose faith. Always pray for the best.
• Philippines
30 Apr 10
the family of your BF don't like you maybe because they found something negatively about you., first thing you do, you have to talk first to your BF regarding this situation. then find it what those thing they don't like you. serve this as a challenge for you., make all those negative to become positive one. prove to them that they got mistaken for neglecting you., if you really love your BF then fight for it!
@jenny08 (136)
• Philippines
1 May 10
yup, we talked already about that..,and i found out that they don't like me because of my family background...yeah we are fighting for it...yes i am doing the best i can to prove to them that they judge me wrong...hope someday they will accept me...
@krischine (269)
• Philippines
1 May 10
Hi Jenny, I know what you are feeling right now, the best thing you do is to have a usual visit at his house and try to mingle and talk with his family. Be a help hand to his family, and most important is respect his parents. Be a good friend to them and don't just hang with your bf all the time once you are in his house, they might misinterpret your actions. If you visit your bf at his house try to bring something for his mom, why? well the mother usually dislike his son's gf, it is because she is jealous that you are having his son's attention not her and that's what she's afraid of. Don't go to conclusion of living together with your bf away from his family because it may lead to a bigger problem. You can't live peacefully if you are not in good terms with his family, you two can be an outcast. If both of you wanted to settle down and get married, well you must tell his parent about your plan. Even they disagree, they don't have a choice but to let their son be happy. Jenny, you and your BF will cooperate. Tell him what you wanted and what you dislike. When topic goes to family matters, tell him how you feel about his family and ask him for help. I know your bf can help you be closer to his family because he is the one who knows them. Hope this could brighten your mind.
• Philippines
1 May 10
Hi. How long have you been together? It is but natural that the immediate family of your boyfriend dislikes you during your early lives together. It is because they prejudged you. I think what you have to is spend some time in your boyfriends residence and prove to his family that its prejudgment on you is wrong. Better much, talk to personally to his parents, I guess it's the mother who dislikes you so much. There, you need to impress them. I beg to disagree on your plan of living together away from your family. By doing that, the more they would dislike you. I also experienced your situation and I understand your feeling. But in my case, it is not the whole family who dislikes me. It was my girlfriend's auntie (a single old lady, never been into relationship) and her eldest sister. But you know what, I did every mean and way to get their smile and acceptance. I spent quality time with them. And just after half a year, we are good with each other. What you want now could never happen in an instant. You have to work for it. Struggle for it. I assure you, when you consider my advices, you'll be in good term with them.