Verbal bullies

Ummmmmm...I really think taht you should go and speak to those boys because bullying is really bad and even if it isn't physically, it may turn to be physical. and even if those boys aren't bullying your son physically, whatever they say may hurt your son. So, you should really go and make those boys understand what they are doing is completely wrong and out of behaviour. And still if they don't listen to you, then you should go and speak to their parents before it is too late.

Hi there, my friend. I'm so sorry you've been caught in this situation. It's a sad thing when children take to bullying others. I find that it's mostly because they feel insecure about themselves. I don't have kids, but I had been bullied on a much smaller scale was I was in school several, several years ago. It's not fun to go through, of course! I think every kid has to deal with these situations at one point or another. I think you're decision to support your child and not to speak with the children who are doing to bullying just yet is a great choice for starters. I hope that I can provide a really great resource to you. I just got done reading the book, [/i]The Power of Respect[i] by Deborah Norville. She has a section in the book about respect in school, and it might help you. Here is a link to the book itself, but perhaps you will be able to find it at your local library or read portions of it online. http://www.amazon.com/Power-Respect-Benefit-Forgotten-Element/dp/0785227601 In this book, it states that the main reason for bullying is a lack of respect, whether it's towards the school, the teachers, or the child that is being bullied. Whatever the cause, it's a tough situation to be in. I truly hope you find a solution to the problem. Please do keep us posted!

It is a menace that our children are supposed to grow with. This should be handles very delicately. Talking to the older boys will definitely help as it will instill in their minds that they are being watched and cannot cross the limits. At the same time they always feel that their ego is challenged and try to be more aggressive foolishly. I would confront the boys with soft words and will try to invite them to my house for a tea and game. That will definitely change their attitude. That may make the friends of your son.

If you speak to the boys, then you are making him a "mommy's boy" but if you tell their parents that if they continue the bulling, that you will be talking to the police, that might get some results...

hi sviswan I would talk to the parents as they are responsible for their bratty bullying children and should be setting a much better example instead of letting their children tease him as words can really hurt and wound you much deeper than any physical wound could do. they can haunt you clear up into adulthood. the word bashful used against me by my parents made me feel somehow that I was not as good as other children now if they had just said she is a little shy I would not have felt so bad about myself.

I think the best thing you guys can do is to talk to him and comfort him.

talk to other kids and thier parents. When I was a kid I fought the bullies they stopped it then!

That is a hard thing. I'm glad the "bullying' is not physical. When I was growing up parents told their children to say "Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me." The streets and classrooms were far less violent than than today, however. Sounds like a situation for a book I have often recommended by Suzette Elgin called "The Gentle Art of Verbal Self-Defense." That book explains why people say mean things and gives scripts for what to say back to neutralize the situation. If your son develops the skills to react in such a manner that the ridicule that is dished out bounces back and hits the tormentor then the teasing will stop. For example, if your son's response is gracious, witty, or funny, those listening will not laugh at your son, but instead they will laugh at the bully. Bullies hate the be laughed at, so they will learn not to do that any more. For example, if the bully says "You are just a dumb little kid" then your son could say something like "Thank you for feeling you had to share that."

I suggest you speak to the older boy to be the one to escort your son against those bullies. My sister in the high school was also bullied by a boy in their class who's even his seatmate but when my father, Who somehow looked really scary look at him in the eye. They were like worms that was so afraid of my father that's why they refrain from bullying my sister. Hope this could help