Do you believe in the kindness of strangers?

@thyst07 (2079)
United States
April 30, 2010 5:10pm CST
Have you had a complete stranger do something helpful for you, or have you seen them help someone else? Recently, most of my experience with other people has been pretty lousy, and I'm feeling down about it. I really want to believe that most people are good and decent, but I just don't see that in the people around me. So I want to hear your stories about people who do good things for others.
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@Neicy30 (56)
• United States
30 Apr 10
I believe that there are good people out there, me being one of them =) I've had complete strangers do kind acts for me for no hidden agenda but only to be nice. When i first moved into my home, i had numerous neighbors come to my home to introduce themselves and welcome me to the neighborhood. I found that so weird for that has never happened to me before but i embraced the kindness from these strangers. I too work in customer service and have had plenty of strangers compliment me with either what i was wearing or how helpful i was or for just smiling and having a positive attitude. Don't get me wrong, I've come across some real dirt bags! But yes there are good people out there, unfortunately there are bad ones too. Cheer up =) Stay with a positive attitude and be kind to others even if they don't deserve it. You will attract those good ones!! =)
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@thyst07 (2079)
• United States
30 Apr 10
I think that going to meet the new neighbors thing is kind of regional. I grew up in a town where it was completely normal for people to say hi to the new neighbors, bring them a plate of cookies, and invite them to the neighborhood BBQ. Then I moved to a different state, and things are completely different here. It's like people go out of their way to NOT talk to their neighbors. The neighborhoods here are like ghost towns- you might see people on their way to or from their car, but there's no interaction at all!
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• United States
1 May 10
Where I grew up having neighbors go out of there way to say hi or introduce themselves just never happened. It wasn't common. So for me when I moved out of state and into my new home, when people did do that, for me that was straight out of a movie because things like that just never happened in my home town. People stuck to themselves and went about their business. It didn't make them rude, it was just how it was. So for me to see something like strangers coming up to me and introducing themselves, I embraced it. I'm a friendly person but very guarded because of where I am from. I can still have a conversation with a stranger but I'll be honest, I don't go out of my way to talk to a stranger.
@kedralynn (980)
• United States
30 Apr 10
I've had lousy days before and had a stranger just smile at me or stop to talk to me and it's really perked me up. One time I was sitting outside my work on a break, feeling pretty bad because I just had a customer yell at me for something I had no control over. Another customer was walking into the store and they saw me and stopped and smiled at me and asked if I was ok. I didn't want to spill my problems on her so I smiled and said "yeah I'm fine thank you." But it really made me feel better knowing some stranger wanted to know if I was alright. I work customer service so I come in contact with a lot of people daily. And I love doing everything I can to help them out. Sometimes they come into my store having bad days and they need something but don't even want to be there. I like to smile at them, get them talking, and give them a good experience at my store. Even if I can't fix their problems, I can give them a few good minutes. I also like to give my customers coupons to help them save money (even tho it's against our store rules) because it makes them happy :) I've also had strangers help me out online before. I needed money for my dog to have an operation. I asked my online friends for help in a journal and I got money from even strangers who had read my journal. My dog was able to get her surgery in days! Sometimes people can surprise you with their kindness. Yes they can also surprise you with how rude and stupid they can be. But you gotta remember, not everyone is cruel.
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@thyst07 (2079)
• United States
30 Apr 10
I've worked in customer service before, so I know what you mean there. I think there are usually more nice customers than mean ones, although it does depend on the type and location of the store to some degree.
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• United States
30 Apr 10
Yep it does. For me it also depends on the day. Weekends are our busiest days and we seem to get the most impatient rude customers on those days. I like early mornings when our store isn't busy. It's usually very calm and my customers seem always cheery then.
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@stealthy (8181)
• United States
30 Apr 10
I've had a few people do small kindnesses for me and I often do small things for strangers. Recently I've had people give me their stamps that a supermarket was giving out so that I would have enough to get a free item. I quite often do small things like get stuff off of shelves for people who can't reach them. So I do believe in the kindness of strangers to some extent. However, I have also encountered people who are rude, pushy and other things that are not kind.
@thyst07 (2079)
• United States
30 Apr 10
Yeah, there are definitely both types in the world. I just seem to be encountering the bad ones more often than the good ones recently. I do really make an effort to be decent and help people in small ways when I can, and it's just discouraging that the same kind of decency doesn't seem to come back to me when I need it.
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• Philippines
30 Apr 10
I don't believe this. There has to be some hidden motives to that. Someone had done a nice thing for me but i just don't see it as clean.
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@thyst07 (2079)
• United States
30 Apr 10
I guess there are those who believe that others only do nice things to get something for themselves.
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@mjcookie (2271)
• Philippines
1 May 10
I believe in the kindness of strangers. I for one try my best to help those who need it, because there have been a couple of times when I was being helped out as well. One night, I was still in school because I had to do Powerpoint slides in the library (I had no laptop, and the library offered freshmen students free computer usage). It was already late in the evening (10 PM) and I ran out of jeepneys to ride (the university I was going to was so distant from home that I had to take three rides [a bus, the metro rail, and a jeep])! I asked the security guard where I could take a ride but unfortunately because it was already late I had to wait for what's left. The guard and the library custodian came with me and waited for me to have a ride, and then they gave me money. I told them that I already had money but they insisted on giving it to me since I would be taking rides which were not what I normally would take. I was very thankful because I realized that if they hadn't given me the money, I would have slept on the streets, LOL, for what I originally had was sooo not sufficient. There was also one time when I was going home from school, I sat beside a woman. The bus conductor told me to pay the regular transpo fee (with no student discount) since I had no ID (it was still being processed). The woman then pleaded the conductor to consider me because of it, but the conductor was really strict. After that, I had a pretty good convo with that woman, and I found out that she went to the same school I was going to. When I was about to get off, she gave me money as well. LOL. She was pretty insistent too. I didn't expect these kinds of things from strangers. There was even one time when I sat beside someone who kinda preached the Bible to me.
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@thyst07 (2079)
• United States
1 May 10
Sounds like you've been really fortunate.
• Philippines
1 May 10
Wow what an experience you had there.Giving a person you not know personally is kinda weird and lucky for me.The guard and library custodian was really helpful to you.I think youre a good person for you have an amazing experience of kindess from strangers.
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• Philippines
1 May 10
Sometimes I do. But oftentimes, considering most kinds of people we have in this age, it's hard to place trust on people we don't know. For me, I don't entirely put my trust to anybody - stranger or not - simply because I don't want to be disappointed, or something like that. It's a lot better to be on-guard with the people around you before regretting for trusting too much.
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@thyst07 (2079)
• United States
1 May 10
It's a sad world, that's for sure.
• Philippines
1 May 10
Exactly. It's better to be safe and sure than sorry.
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@bird123 (10632)
• United States
1 May 10
It doesn't matter what everyone else does. It's what you do that counts!!! Maybe all those other people just have not been taught yet. Teach with your example. If you do this unconditionally, the day it returns will be a great day and a wonderful surprise.
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@thyst07 (2079)
• United States
1 May 10
I don't really know what else I could do to be a good example. It's not like people pay a lot of attention to me or watch what I do. I always make an effort to be a decent and honest person, so I don't think there's much more I can do.
• India
1 May 10
Sometimes when we are in difficulty and need someone with us at that time and if no loved one is around us than even a smile from a stranger is very encouraging to us.It depends on the situation how we look at a stranger.we often feel if we talk to a stranger than we may cause some problem but not all stranger are bad.I believe it's only our instinct how we look at the STRANGER!
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@thyst07 (2079)
• United States
1 May 10
So what you're saying is that how people will treat us partly depends on our perception of them? Interesting.
@Yula015 (71)
• Philippines
1 May 10
I do believe on the kindness of strangers.Its like being a good samaritan.But sometimes I feel suspicious when they look VERY suspicious but then again I also remember the saying dont judge the book by its cover.Be smart in believing on the kindness of others because you might be deceived.Sometimes I do little good things for other people so I think what they are thinking of the help that I offered them.
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1 May 10
I had been helped by so many strangers .Its strange but amazing fact about me that I am helped by strangers not by my friends.I mostly believe on strangers instead of believing in my friends.I am not saying that my friends did not help me but I am saying that they leave me at that moment at which I want them most. I also helped so many strangers as I was helped by strangers.It doesn't matter that whoom I am helping.I just help them who are in need.
@thyst07 (2079)
• United States
1 May 10
Sounds like you've been fortunate to have a lot of good experiences with other people. I hope it continues.
@calfbull (14)
1 May 10
I believe in the kindness of strangers.If a stranger shows his or her kindness to you without any bad motive,you should believe it.
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@thyst07 (2079)
• United States
1 May 10
I would believe it, if it actually happened to me.
@jap468 (106)
• United States
1 May 10
I don't like to believe everybody I can't even trust people I know so I kind of make it a habit not to trust people. Well I think it would help to profile people even though it is not good, but I am usually right about it.
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@thyst07 (2079)
• United States
1 May 10
I really try not to profile people. I generally assume that someone is OK until they do something to prove that they're not. That doesn't mean that I leave myself open for them to do something bad to me- I'm careful and take precautions. But sometimes there's nothing you can do to prevent someone doing something awful to you.
• United States
1 May 10
I do not believe in the kindness of strangers. I think everyone is capable of anything, but I also believe that their are kind people out there. It all depends on the situation you are in or past situations you have been through. For example, most people in smaller areas like where I come from would stop and ask someone on the side of the road if they needed any help, whether it is day or night. I used to be one of these people and still am to some extent, but now with a lot greater caution to stop then I ever used to have. I had a bad experience once when I stopped to help the person in front of me that I watched blow out a tire. Long story made short their was something going on that was not right in that vehicle. The fact that when this happened I called 911 due to the circumstances of the situation, which was not from the tire blowing out, I also left the scene to get away from the guy driving. When I read the paper that next week and the story in the paper was completely differant than what I had witnessed I had to call the police, go in and give a formal statement as to what had happened. It was messed up and a lot of investigating occured because of this so I am very skeptical about anyone at anytime.
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@thyst07 (2079)
• United States
1 May 10
I'm also from a smaller community, and I feel like it was safer there to some degree. My neighbors in my hometown would call the police if they thought my house was being broken into. Here, my neighbors would probably be the ones breaking in.
• Australia
1 May 10
i really believe in the kindness of stranger. i saw many times people trying to help strangers or trying to comfort strangers. some example of mine: my printer was broken, so i carried it to the nearest electric shop to fix it. the printer is not the small one as home or private use. it is a big laser jet (not as big as the multifuction laserjet). i dont have a car and my boyfriend is not at home, so i carried it and walked to she shop, which is 500 meters away. i think it is not so far but actually, i felt like dying on the way. there were 2 persons asked to help me on the way. though i did not accept their help, i know their word shows that they cared and wanted to offer some help. the result is not important. i am very independent and never accept others help. but im really moved if someone trying to provide help, though i know they are not able to help me. it makes me happy if they have that idea to give a hand. once, when i cross the road, a motorbike turned left while the light is red and its speed is very high. i was shoched and stopped in the middle of the road. the motor went next to me, only 10cm away. after he drove away, i woke up and run across the road with fear about what happen just now. then i heard a woman asked me on the other side of the road if i was ok. and i answer her with thanks. she still worried if i was hurt or scared that she came across to make sure i am fine. i felt very thankful and moved. there are so many good guys. we cant say some one is not kind because he did not help us or because he did not do what we want. we should have a thankful heart and see more good activities people do.
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@thyst07 (2079)
• United States
1 May 10
I agree, little things like someone asking if you're ok can be really encouraging. I don't usually assume that someone isn't a nice person if they just walk by and don't do anything- they're just minding their own business. The people who go out of the way to do something mean are a different story entirely, and those are the kinds of people I've been encountering lately.
• Philippines
1 May 10
of course some are really generous soul and so kind that they are very helpful while some strangers do not need to be trusted as sometimes some are bad so their is a need to watch for those signs since it is hard to let other people take advantage of you when they have other hidden motives. So it's nice to be clever most of the times to avoid being the victim of bad elements.
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@bagputza (504)
• Belgium
1 May 10
Well i used to be one of those completely strange guy , that liked to help people , even now i have that intention , but i stopped doing so ever since i got my back stabbed by a complete 'friend" , the thing is that when you are too kind with other people , here where i live , they intend to take you for a stupid person and start to take advantage of your kindness , so i decided to stop been stupid and focuse only on people who have recognized my intentions and that stick to me when i need it theire help. Have a nice day , and i hope that one day you will find kindness down your road.
@thyst07 (2079)
• United States
1 May 10
It is frustrating when you make an effort to be kind and good, and people still treat you poorly anyway.