How can I tell my friend that the man will never love her back?
By divineathena
@divineathena (1746)
United States
May 2, 2010 2:51am CST
My friend was approached on aim by a guy who is very good looking, social and confident. He told her that he likes her, but he is not looking to be in a relationship because he has his ex in his head who cheated on him several times. That relationship of his ended two years ago and the guy has fear of being hurt again, but at the same time he is seeing my friend who is falling head over hills for him. She feels she can help him get out of the pain. Today she asked him to give it a try. The guy replied that he would think about it. I just don't feel this guy is right at all because he hasn't told her exactly what he wants from her. Secondly, if he met my friend online then it means that he approaches many other women like that. And even after two years he is finding it tough to get over her? Come on, then it means he is not manly at all. I am trying my best to make her understand that she should not waste her time on him. But it is driving me crazy to digest that he is here only for friends with benefits. I know this will never have any happy ending. How can I explain this to my friend better?
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@divineathena (1746)
• United States
2 May 10
That's exactly how I feel about this guy. He also mentioned to her that in real life he has several female friends. All in all, his character gives me the impression that he is a player.
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@mensab (4200)
• Philippines
2 May 10
you will never know what will happen. unless you have been in the future. there are stories which started like that; online meeting, friends, lovers, and then couples. i understand what you are doing though for your friend. you are just concerned of her feelings. and you don't want her to be hurt. it is also important to make her experience that so that she will learn and be matured enough to pick the right guy for her. i wish your friend the best.
@divineathena (1746)
• United States
2 May 10
You are right about the thing that she needs to learn and become matured about who she should pick. But what really bothered me was their starting point. What good is a guy if he says I like you but I don't want a relationship with you? I see it as a disgrace. But I just don't think this thing will go anywhere. Instead my friend will end up getting hurt.
@katie0 (5203)
• Japan
11 Feb 11
it's really risky cause your friend could be upset but if is really your friend the person will come back
now try to be sensitive and sincere, if you feel really horrible about taking direct action maybe writting a letter or something, but the truth is friends should be able to talk about everything
