He Wants Her Back!
By candyfairy21
@candyfairy21 (2039)
Philippines
May 3, 2010 10:48am CST
My second degree cousin had this big break up with her boyfriend of 8 years. They went separate ways and this really hurt him. Now she met this guy a sweet talker and a playboy who got her pregnant. They were together for awhile but before she could give birth he went abroad to work. For the first few months he was supporting the child and after he was gone. He met someone out there and that's the reason for with holding the child support. My cousin was almost begging him because she did not have a job at the time. She had to quit to take care of the baby but he never sent a penny.
Fast forward 3 years later she met someone who accepted her for who she is and what she has been through. This guy loves her and her child and married her and just recently took her with him as he was a foreigner. @ months before my cousin was scheduled to leave the guy reappeared and wants them back... he was doing all sorts of stuff to prevent my cousin and their child to go. But she never gave in.
Now the guy is still trying to communicate with her asking for a 2nd chance! I mean what's wrong with him my cousin has married someone decent. Why is he trying to cause chaos? I mean he was very irresponsible he could live his life now as a bachelor and don't need to think of supporting his child... what on earth is wrong with him!
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10 responses
@zandi458 (28102)
• Malaysia
3 May 10
Serve him right, he deserved to be eliminated from her life and that of her baby. He was such an irresponsible man and if I am in your cousin's shoes, I would have done the same thing. Once beaten, there is no looking back. She has met a nice guy that could take care of her and the baby, so there is no point of patching up the broken ties. It is too late.
@candyfairy21 (2039)
• Philippines
4 May 10
hi Zandi,
you are right there is no patching up what has been broken. I mean she would be stupid to let go of this great guy who love and respect her and accepts her and her baby just as they are. I mean no more looking back at the good for nothing guy.
@3SnuggleBunnies (16374)
• United States
3 May 10
Sounds like someone who wanted his cake and ate it too! It probably took those few years to grow up! Sadly he's missed out on plenty and if he was any kind of father he should of sent child support even if he found someone else & tried to be a part of the childs life. Too bad too sad for him! I hope she's happy w/ her hubby!
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@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
3 May 10
i could just answer this by saying most men are like that. stupid where emotions are concerned. but that wouldnt be good to just give a short answer. notice i said "most" please. so dont all men jump on me here. out of the many many men ive had relationships with and thats a lot at my age.
only 1 was ever a decent man, except my grandpa and one uncle, but they were relatives. 
im talking intimate relations like over months years, etc. most men want what they cant have and thats a total fact of life!!One time my male cousin called me for advice. he'd split with a woman because of things he couldnt handle about her. he got a new gf that was crazy about him and would do anything for him. the ex got a new bf finally. he told me he wanted her back and what was wrong with him...lol. i told him he always wanted what he couldnt have like most men! he called me a knuckle head!! LOL! fondly tho. he did get her back and marry her. now after 5 yrs, hes not happy with her again...uuuhhggg. I say now whos the knuckle head??!!
only 1 was ever a decent man, except my grandpa and one uncle, but they were relatives. im talking intimate relations like over months years, etc. most men want what they cant have and thats a total fact of life!!One time my male cousin called me for advice. he'd split with a woman because of things he couldnt handle about her. he got a new gf that was crazy about him and would do anything for him. the ex got a new bf finally. he told me he wanted her back and what was wrong with him...lol. i told him he always wanted what he couldnt have like most men! he called me a knuckle head!! LOL! fondly tho. he did get her back and marry her. now after 5 yrs, hes not happy with her again...uuuhhggg. I say now whos the knuckle head??!!@candyfairy21 (2039)
• Philippines
4 May 10
hi bunnybon,
lol yes it seems pretty obvious whose the knuckle head! lol.... well men are hunter by nature they like to get what they don't have or if it's hard to get! Sadly most men are immature at a certain age even sometimes till late adulthood. Wish there were more decent men around.
@syankee525 (6261)
• United States
4 May 10
well as a man, and you know how i love these. if he was a real man to begin with he would have taken care of the baby. make sure that baby had everything it needed to live. and if his sorry but was a wuss and left for whatever reason and still didnt support he is worthless as a man.
and i hope she dont go back to him, because the new man sound great. because there isnt too many men would step up and excpet her with a baby, and take care of the baby even if its not his.. so my hat is off to him.
screw the ex.. worthless
@candyfairy21 (2039)
• Philippines
4 May 10
Right on Syankee! If he made her cry and beg before he could do it over and over again. It was just obvious that when the other woman dumped her he came back for my cousin. Yup screw him! What did he ever thought about my cousin? Somepne to fill in the gap? lol.... don't understand men like that.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
7 May 10
The deal is that this guy is an idiot. He realizes now that he made a huge mistake several years ago and he thinks that he deserves to have a second chance. Of course, it seems that your cousin is right about her situation though. Because of the fact that she is now married, there is no reason that I would ever give the father of her child another chance. I hope that she holds her ground and doesn't get mixed up in a situation that she will regret later.
@ericpapasit (1274)
• Philippines
4 May 10
how sad.. but I think the guy feared the responsibility and have no love to the child even to your cousin.... There is no love that's wrong with him.
@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
3 May 10
hi candyfairy good for her, she has learned not to take anymore crap from an idiot like that.I am so glad she found a really decent man who loved her and her child, and she has gone ahead to a good new life. She c an jolly well not pay any attention to this idiot who once left her and
their child. I think he is missing a few screws in his makeup as any sane man would not go harrassing someone who is married and moved on.
He has no legal right to a child that he legally abandoned if that is what he is after. I would if I were them seek a restraining order against this clown.
@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
4 May 10
I guess it's just a case of some people don't know how good they have it until it's gone. He wants your cousin back, but I don't think he's really thinking straightheaded. It might be that he doesn't want her married to her husband and not so much that he wants her back. If he doesn't have to worry about child support anymore he is kind of stupid, but heck If I were her I'd still want child support as he is still the father.
@mercedlegurpa (955)
• Philippines
3 May 10
Hi candyfairy21, I'm not prejudging the guy your cousin's ex; maybe at the time that your cousin got pregnant, he wasn't ready yet to tackle his responsibility. There's nothing wrong with him; his ego's hurt. He could not imagine that there's still some guy out there to take responsibility to his child. I mean most of Asian men has an attitude like your cousin's ex. Have you observe? He is trying to mess up everything maybe because he realized he loves your cousin now. Or maybe he could not accept the idea that your cousin's life is now secured when marrying a right guy than him an irresponsible man. Your cousin's decision is right; marrying the man who loves her more than ever.
@alexxismonique (23)
• Philippines
3 May 10
Well, it's all too late for that guy. You never really know what you got till it's gone. I hope he stops bothering your cousin now.
I am happy that she finally found a wonderful husband who loves her and accepts her for who she is. :)
