An interesting saying

Canada
May 4, 2010 4:44pm CST
So, I was talking to my boyfriend about stripclubs. I really don't care if he goes to them or not because I've been to them before and, at least in Canada, there's not much to be threatened by. Sure they can do crazy things while pole dancing, but...really? Not worried, at all. But anyways, my boyfriend mentions this saying, "Doesn't matter where they have their appetizer, as long as they come home for dinner", aka- doesn't matter where he might initially get aroused, as long as the deed is only done "at home" if you will. I never heard this saying, and had mixed feelings about it. Sure, the last part is cool, and I agree with it, but...still made me feel a bit...uneasy? Just not right. Let's have a discussion! What do you think? Would this make you jealous? Is it fully dependent on where you are in your relationship? Is this a load of crap? Or do you completely agree?
2 responses
• Malaysia
5 May 10
i guess it really depends on how truly transparent & trusting your relationship is. my fiancée and i went through some teething problems when we first got together, but after much sharing & 'heated' discussions, we've come to a point of acceptance. i still have a day job as a marketer which requires me to be friendly and meet new people on a daily basis. sometimes i've got to entertain clients, sometimes business partners would want to entertain me. the culture of where i'm from is such that i can't totally outright reject invitations for dinner, or even a night out. and my lady being involved in retails merchandising, she's got to be active in her social circles to encourage more participation in her clients promotions. we've got what i would call an almost solid agreement when it comes to matters similar to what you've mentioned. and if i come back one day and take her to bed only to let her get out of bed the day after tomorrow, she'll know that i did come across someone who turned me on, but i was 'good' enough to come back home and vent my pent-up passionate frustrations on her :) so it will really entirely depend on how transparent & trusting both of you are...that is really true in my case :)
• Canada
25 May 10
:) I guess. I suppose part of me is still being young and idealistic, but truthfully, there will always be someone hotter than you and I would rather he come home to me. I suppose the fear is that it takes away from your attraction or even feelings towards your partner. So in your case, I'd just ask you, does it?
• Malaysia
25 May 10
someone hotter than me? no way baby i'm too hot that i make hell look like the north pole haha..just kidding it's all about trust dear.. and how much that you are willing to take, and how much you are willing to share. isn't that what love, relationships & partnerships are about? find the limits of your trusts between you two, and try not to go beyond too often. i'm sure it'll be possible to live happily ever after..
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• United States
4 May 10
When i was younger i would definitely agree but now that i know better it's a load of crap, NOW DONT LET THE YOUNG MAN GET INTO TROUBLE OVER MY ANSWER, if you let him go to strip clubs, thats on you honey. i myself could never see spending or packing dollars in a g-string if ya cant take em home with you so why bother, but that me.
• Canada
4 May 10
:) Noted. It seems like it's more of a thing that the guys at his work are into. Thanks though. It's good to hear from a guy's perspective. And no don't worry, he won't get into trouble over it. He's very trustworthy.