Just want to feel pretty for once again

United States
May 7, 2010 2:18am CST
When I was growing up I was always a big girl.. by the time I was in the fifth grade I wieghed 160 and it was horrible.. I mean I always got along with people I just didn't feel good about myself.. So the summer between my 6-7th grade year I lost alot of wieght and started feeling a little better.. i still wasn't small but I wasn't the biggest anymore.. by the time I hit high school I was not small still but in shape and I felt good about myself.. Well my parents got divorced my senior year and I went through alot.. I did though meet my now husband and move in with him but I gained alot of wieght.. and there isn't a day that goes by that I don't wish that I could just be 30 pounds lighter but now I am pregnant with my 3rd child and losing wieght can't be done now.. but I just want some tips on gaining self esteem at least while I am pregnant.. I mean my husband is still very attracted to me but I want to be comfortable with myself what do I do?
11 responses
7 May 10
just follow your mind, if you feel pretty yoursefl, that mean you are pretty, the another peoples not matter what think
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@rhodalyn (251)
• Philippines
7 May 10
just keep in your mind that every women are beautiful in their own way..your beautiful in your own way..well,that's for certain..;)
@ongtina (1232)
• Singapore
7 May 10
yes, i agree that's for certain. why else would her husband pick her to marry? hahaha.
@ongtina (1232)
• Singapore
7 May 10
After coming back and seeing what I've written above, I suddenly realise that it might be taken in another view. I'd like to assure you that I have no other thoughts except that you definitely have your qualities and beauty that attract your husband and inspire him to marry, the same as when you pick your husband, you see his qualities.
• United States
7 May 10
I can really relate with how you are feeling. I find it a struggle to feel good about myself and losing wieght becomes just so obsessive for me. I have been trying a variety of different things over the last couple years that seem to help over come the self esteem issues. I have gotten to the point that i dont over eat. I think with all the super size menus and larger portions being encouraged it is easy to fall into the trap of not really knowing what is a normal amount of something. I read portion sizes on everything i eat. For tough foods to figure out i use the about the size of your palm as a comparision to guess at it, foods like casserols or speghetti. Another thing that helps alot is just basic low impact exercise like walking is wonderful if the weather is nice just to get out of the house and enjoy the day. Exercise helps burn calories and improves your over all emotional health all at the same time. Making sure I get three balanced meals per day is a must. If you are skipping meals or not spacing them right it lowers your metabolism and makes you actually gain weight over time and decreases energy making those feeling of poor self esteem come flooding in. I maintain a food journal and then review it at the end of the week. Sometimes just writing it helps to know how i was feeling at the time and if i had an off day I can plan how to handle it the next week. Meditation has helped me teramendously the art of conscious relaxation helps so many people with even chronic health issues and raises your self esteem , improved alartness and energy. Just the inner peace it gives you about yourself is priceless. Having good emotional health and good body image gained from meditation can greatly improve your journy to becoming over all healthy. Yes unhealthy types of dieting are dangerous during pregnancy but sitting down with your doctor and telling him you want to be gaining a weight thats healthy for your baby and just working toward a healthier lifestyle would be good for your pregnancy. I dont look at it as dieting anymore I look at weight loss as working toward a healthier lifestyle. These are just some of the things I use to lose weight.
@lmcueva (169)
• Philippines
7 May 10
You are blessed to have your husband still attracted to you especially now in this fast-paced world. Happy mother's day as well :)
• Philippines
7 May 10
start with pretty preggy dresses i think it works, i remember choosing nice looking comfortable dresses and i always hear nice compliments as well. it kinda boost my confidence, well at least it does, having a big tummy and okay so everything was big but can still be beautiful.
• Philippines
8 May 10
i would love to share a very inspiring video with you. :) i just watched it last night and i can say it was sooooo beautiful. i knew it would help you feel good about yourself, and about life in general. :) if you want i can share the link with you. i think you can also find it on youtube, the title is "the secret to you". i know you will love it.
@ongtina (1232)
• Singapore
7 May 10
I believe there's lots of other things that make a person attractive. The most attractive person is the one with a character that's really attractive. With humour, you can bring happiness to others around you. With a big loving heart, you bring care and concern to those around and so again happiness to them as they felt loved. then, there's gentleness and patience that makes living with you so pleasant and blissful. I think you can continue the list that shows attractions are not simply with the exterior. Think in this line and you will be comfortable with yourself. The thing about weight is actually health rather than looks. Looks is only the by-product. wink.
• United States
7 May 10
You may just have to rely on what you feel is positive about your body now, by keeping your focus on your favorite parts of yourself. And I know that when pregnant women take care of themselves during pregnancy by eating right and exercising, they often lost weight faster after giving birth. The exercising part just depends on what kind of pregnancy you are having right now.
@sky069 (10)
• China
7 May 10
i think you must do something,not "just didn't feel good"! as you say,your husband is still very attracted to you,that is so important! and you can do some thing to lose your weight!TRY AND BELIEVE!
• Australia
7 May 10
i do believe that god treat everyone equally, and every woman has her unique beauty. im not a pretty girl after all. im a little fat, big face... what is more, im lazy and im a shopoholic... but in my boyfriend's eyes, im the best girl he has ever met. he thinks im lovely and pure... im satisfied with what i have got, and i dont care others opinion, why should i change myself to accompany those people who dont like the real me? i really believe that a pretty girl is always happy with herself and with kind heart. the appearance is not that important after contacting for several times, personality is the most attractive part for others. you should be comfortable with yourself as this is what you really are. beautiful face cannot last longer than beautiful heart, which i believe you do have one.
@kheigh (215)
7 May 10
just think about your child.. and the way you're husband looks at you.. i heard that husbands usually make their wives feel beautiful by the way they look at them specially when they're pregnant.. they also say that pregnant women looks radiant.. think about that.. ^^