how do you get out of a date that's going badly..?

Malaysia
May 7, 2010 10:27am CST
a close, single friend of mine asked me this question recently. i was so embarrassed because i didn't know how to answer him. it's been a while since i've been on dates, and the ones i've been on have always been good ;) so i pose the question in hopes of finding a good one that can help my friend out. how do you get out of a date that's going badly? should you be straight forward? lie about going to the loo and then disappear? pay someone else to come and interrupt? please share your secrets.. thanks & happy myLotting!
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16 responses
@saphrina (31552)
• South Africa
7 May 10
Tell your friend to always be honest and straightforward. To try and cheat his way out of a date can go wrong and then people get hurt. That is not nice at all. TATA.
• Malaysia
7 May 10
i know...there's a lot of people who really appreciate honesty. that's why i told him to use me as an example. an example of an honest, straight forward, fun & loving guy... :)
@saphrina (31552)
• South Africa
7 May 10
You better be straightforward and honest or i will personally come and kick your butt.
• Malaysia
7 May 10
and we don't want that to happen now do we...? :x
• Philippines
13 May 10
I never gone of a date but I gone to a group date before. I remember a friend share something on us about her date. She experienced having to date someone who was so boastful and she wants to get out of that date because she was bored. You know what she did, because she can't think of the possible reason she can produced. She said to her date she wants to go home and sleep because she was having a migrain because of his stupid stories .
• Malaysia
14 May 10
oh no, you really haven't been on a date yet? a sweet lady like you should have a line of men waiting to take you out..wait till i get over there and talk to the guys where you are. there must be something wrong with them to have overlooked you all this while
@nixxi76 (3191)
• Canada
8 May 10
This is something I have done before and usually always do but I haven't had to since I've been with my hubby for almost seven years now. My best friend would call me at a certain point in my date, and if I didn't answer the phone she knew I was liking the person, but if I answered the phone then that meant it was an emergency call that I had to tend to according to my bad date. It was always a swift idea and worked like a charm. Take care
• Malaysia
9 May 10
haha...! i've used that strategy quite a bit when i was still in the 'game'
• United States
7 May 10
I think being honest is the best in this situation. Most of the times both parties know when a date is going this badly and usually both wish to end it but are afraid of appearing rude. So a recommended response would go something like, "It was pleasure to take you out this evening, but obviously we are just too different from each other to continue this on." Lying about it only makes the other party angry and paying someone to interrupt means you will have already had to step away.
• Malaysia
7 May 10
yup..there's no point in making our dates angry. they'll just come back to haunt you when you least expect it..
• India
8 May 10
My friend if you have to loose wait you have to start eating less the same goes for girls to just tell het the truth in an unhurtfull manner EG:- i like you but i my i think i dont have time for you or not worth ur time so its better u find someone else ..........REMEMBE RIN LIFE THERE IS NOT SUCH THING AS RIGHT OR WRONG BOTH HAS ITS OWN +'S AND -'S
• Malaysia
14 May 10
yup, you're right cobrayogesh.. there is a positive and negative to everything in life. well, we should always be honest to our dates too. it's the only right thing to do thanks for your post & happy myLotting!
@cmjune76 (273)
• United States
7 May 10
I went on date with a guy who was attractive when I first met him, but when I met up with him at the resturant for our date a week later, he had completely shaved off his hair, except for a few sprigs and appeared very ancy. I do not like confrontation, so I sat down and tried to appear interested in what he was talking about. The conversation was normal at first (we talked about what we each did for a living, etc.) and then he started to tell me about the four women who have restraining orders on him! A little voice inside my head told me to get as far away from him as possible. After dinner was brought to us, I excused myself for a second, called my dad and asked him to drive over to the restaurant so when the date was over, he'd see that I could get into my car safely and get the heck away from this guy. My plan worked and I told the guy via an e-mail that the date was nice, but found someone else I liked more and was going to pursue that relationship. But, what I had wanted to do was excuse myself to the bathroom and leave!
@smacksman (6053)
8 May 10
That was really quite brave of you. I'm impressed!
@smacksman (6053)
8 May 10
Oh you girls can be so cruel!! Getting up to go to the loo and not returning - taxi! taxi! Leaving the guy to wonder if he should call the police - or the plumber!! How terrible! Girls:- If he is really creepy (why did you date him in the first place!) then play the unwell card; time of the month; etc. If he is just plain boring then grit your teeth and see the evening out even if it might finish early and be polite. Men:- You have no other honourable choice but to see the evening out and make it as enjoyable for her as reasonably possible. Running off and grabbing a taxi is not the way to behave!
• Philippines
8 May 10
if it's someone I wouldn't be seeing later,I will be honest and tell him that while I really appreciate his time, the date is going nowhere.even if we will not see each other later, acting maturely and telling him that there is no really hope for us will be better than thinking up of excuses.if it's someone I really know and would like to see sooner, that will be the time I would be making an excuse.maybe tonight's not really a good night,so we'll just see what happens at a later date.
@jugsjugs (12967)
7 May 10
Either tell them how you feel or do like i have done say that you have a problem in the family that has to be addressed and you are needed by your family.If i am ever out with anyone and i just want to escape from them i would go to the loo and text a friend to ring me as that way i can say i need to get home as one of my children needs me, that is a great one.
@zzyw87 (1254)
• Philippines
8 May 10
I had a date once that was not that good. I just said that I was not feeling well and I hoped to go home early. I don't like being straightforward because I may hurt his feelings. I also don't like suddenly disappearing because it is very rude. The guy would also feel like a total fool if I excused myself and did not come back.
@ebuscat (5935)
• Philippines
8 May 10
For me your self know how to control so that you find more interesting to your partner soon.
• Philippines
8 May 10
To tell you honestly I just pretend to be ok with my past date because I really don't want to hurt his feelings. i your friend really can't stay with their date better be straightforward.
• India
9 May 10
just say excuse me and go out with your mobile
• Indonesia
8 May 10
haha
@redhotpogo (4401)
• United States
7 May 10
i've never been on dates. dating is weird to me. nevermind my opinion though. If i were in that situation i would always have a backup plan. First you should have a signal for your friends. Set your cell phone to auto dial with one number. Say ok If my phone calls you, and I don't say anything, that means bail me out. And they're going to pretend there is an emergency. so lets say you're on a date, its not going good, you hit the number on your cell, your friends show up, and they go "Dude/dudette, you need to come with us, something has gone wrong your cousin is in the hospital, we have to go now" and then they would grab you and of course you put up a little struggle, and go "wait what about my date i can't just leave her alone." and they go no come on. and then you go outside, and you high five.
@caliya (1170)
• Philippines
7 May 10
I know that being honest and straightforward is always good but there are times that you just can't be all blunt as you also don't want to hurt other people's feelings. So what I do if it's still the first date, I ask a friend to call or come over and say that she has an emergency or something very important that I need to be with her.