The lesson of relationship

@roldango (231)
Philippines
May 7, 2010 12:00pm CST
What do you do when you wake up one morning only to find out your partner is gone? some of us take relationships for granted. after someone we love is gone, we look back at our lioves and see everything so differently.We realize we never know, until after certain events, which is the last evening out, the last Christams together. Relationshops offer us the biggest chances for learning lessons in life, for discovering who we are, what we fear, where our power comes from, and the meaning of true love.. the idea that relationships are great opportunities for learning may seem odd at first, because we know they can be frustrating, challenging, even heartbreaking experiences. But they can also be, and often are, our greatest opportunities to learn, grow, love and be loved. there is no such thing as an insignificant or accidental relationships. every meeting, encounter, or exchange with everyone from a spouse to an anonymous telephone operator, no matter how brief or profound, how positive or neutral, or painful is meaningful. Do you value the relationships you have now? how?
8 responses
@qamarep (4448)
• Pakistan
9 May 10
it is very difficult to say about time.. i am in the time zone where time is going very hard and i dont like this situation
@roldango (231)
• Philippines
10 May 10
what? are you sure you are responding to the discussion i started? i cant figure any connection.......
@caliya (1175)
• Philippines
7 May 10
This already happened to me. I just woke up one day and the one that I love is no longer with me. It was very painful to bear but I just moved on with my life. I always value my partner whenever I am in a relationship but people's feelings change and we can never tell them what to feel. We just have to face reality.
@roldango (231)
• Philippines
7 May 10
We certainly can not tell them to feel the same as we do . Valuing Relationship carries along with it the virtue of letting go when it's time to let go. Thank you for your response!
@khalida (1130)
• India
9 May 10
i really do value the relationship i am in right now. sometimes i think people tend to take their relationships for granted. i try my best not to that! in fact i love it when most of the time the days pass like the earlier days of my relationship! i think with time, the bonding gets stronger and sometimes the value of the person reduces as all the lovey-dovey season is gone but i am making sure that doesn't happen in my case! :)
@qamarep (4448)
• Pakistan
9 May 10
ha ha that is too dangerous to even think about man dont ask this again
@longgee (137)
• Philippines
8 May 10
I do value it. I make sure that we see a lot when your time permits us.But there are just sometimes that your demands a lot of things that you can't handle. it sometimes makes me choke. So what to do about that?
• Philippines
8 May 10
infinitely. i believe that life is at its weakest when there is more than doubt than trust.but life is at its strongest when you learn to trust despite of all doubts.
• Philippines
8 May 10
Like what Whitney Houston' song say, "... you can look back and know, you were loved. So remember to tell that special one... you were loved." What-ifs are the hardest to deal with. Once it's done, it's done. We cannot turn back the hands of time. So whatever it is that we do today, would greatly determine how our tomorrow's going to be -- if we are to go live our lives wondering, "She only wanted to be held close.. but I had no time. I was busy. And now, there really is no chance. No more time." So it is imperative that we do what we feel now before we see ourselves in the future with all the feelings in our hands without no one ... nobody to share it with.
• United States
7 May 10
I would have to agree with your post. One thing I would add before giving my response to it however is that many times the hardships of a relationship are why that relationship is such a great teacher. Now for my response. I have learned long time ago from many personal and viewed failed relationships that the way to make one work is constant communication. This does not mean you always have to have "The talk". It means doing little things to let them know how you feel about them. Things like leaving notes that say "I love you" and "You are very smart". Or just doing things to make their life easier like doing the dishes every now and again, cooking supper some nights. To more personal things like brushing their hair, washing their back, giving them a message. These things are help your significant other to see how much you care and help remind them of why they are with you in the first place. However this being said some times the relationship is not the ever lasting one and you and your partner just grow apart. In those cases just look at what they did and what you did to see how each as changed and what if any thing you need to fix about yourself.