Was I right in complaining?

May 7, 2010 5:38pm CST
I have this cousin sister who's very bratty and spoilt. She has a special needs brother and so her parents have spoilt her. She does not respect anyone and is not really scared of anyone in the entire family. She is exceptionally rude to my grandmother and anyone who doesn't fall in line with her plans. The other weekend when I was at their place, she took my phone from under my pillow, put in the access code which she got by looking over my shoulder (I should have hidden it better) and started reading all my emails and messages. She also logged into a few of my accounts and snooped around and added her self onto each of my friend lists. I found out once I reached home and wanted to discuss this with her. She told me to get lost as she didn't think she had done anything wrong or bad. So I called up her dad and I told him this. He then scolded her a lot and my aunt thinks I over reacted to something very very small and caused her daughter distress. I feel bad she got yelled at. But I do not like someone snooping through my personal stuff. I just wanted her to realize she made a mistake as her friends complain about it too. But I still feel really bad she got yelled at. Was I right in letting her parents know? I really love them and we are very close as families. My uncle and aunt have always treated me like their own and corrected me when I was wrong and helped me out always.
2 responses
• United States
8 May 10
Let me first congradulate your patience cause ummm...me not so much... You were very right by calling her dad.. and she deserved to get yelled at and in my opinion that wasn't enough she should have gotten grounded or a good old fashion butt whooping like I would have gotten.. ultimatley it is her parents lack of discipline for the way she is.. but no hun don't feel bad for standing up for yourself.. and something tells me if it was you doing it to her her parents would have no problem at scolding you
8 May 10
I totally think she does need some disciplining. But they have issues in their family because of their son who is a special needs child. And they treat her more special because she's normal. I do hope she realizes what she's doing before something really bad happens and hurts all of them. She is really spoilt. Way more than I think any of us were at that age
• United States
7 May 10
I don't think you did anything wrong here--she was snooping when she shouldn't have been. If I were in your shoes, I'm pretty certain I would have taken the same steps in telling her father about what happened, and why I was bothered by it. Sounds like she needs to learn to respect other peoples privacy.
7 May 10
I do hope that my aunt can see that. She feels that I am creating problems for her family and I really don't want to make their life harder than it is. It is very reassuring that there is someone who feels I did the right thing. Thanks so much!