What if we fall in love?

Philippines
May 10, 2010 6:17am CST
I have a guy friend whom i have known for almost a decade already. He's been a good friend, adviser and a big brother to me. I always turn to him whenever I have problems regarding my personal life. We've lost communication for a year due to his work, he moved to another city and I've changed my number. Just last year when we started to communicate through facebook. We exchange numbers and email each other whenever possible. During the last two months my relationship with my boyfriend of two years seems not okay. He would always get jealous of little things even with my work and my co-workers. I always text my friend and ask him for some advices. Not knowing that we text and check on each other more often than my boyfriend. He told me that way back before he wanted to court me but then he was hesitant to do so. Since, he knew that I have a boyfriend already. but things never change between us even if he told me about it. We became more closer each day and i really don't know why he wants to call me honey. I was confused this past few days, I really don't want to ruin our friendship, but each passing day i'm falling for him. Any advice you can share with me guys?
6 responses
@ongtina (1232)
• Singapore
27 May 10
When your boyfriend shows jealousy, it's still love (in an unpleasant way). The thing is perhaps it's you that cause the need for this unpleasant show of love. Are you straying away in your love? This love can still be heaven like what it was since it's not your boyfriend that is distancing. As for your decade friend, changing it to a love affair might just end every friendship when love sours ( of course it can also become your life-long affair ). Actually, nothing is for sure in this world but it's always sweeter when it's the other that's loving you (you lead) rather than you loving the other(he leads).
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• Philippines
27 May 10
Thanks for your reply yes being jealous for no reason at all is really disgusting and it is not really healthy for a relationship if you get jealous all the time.
@ongtina (1232)
• Singapore
29 May 10
Try to resolve what's causing the jealousy. When it's sorted out, love will be pleasant again. I know sometimes it's difficult to find out what's the cause. But it's only to your benefit to give it a try.(Maybe many tries.heeheehee)
@besthope44 (12141)
• India
29 Aug 10
Love is a great feeling which has to be expressed. If you find it true, never fail to convey, thats a tribute to the love in real.Yes am in true love and its a feeling of happiness life long.
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• Philippines
4 Sep 10
thanks for your reply. And Love is a great feeling that should be shared with someone you really love most and it is a life long commitment.
@rhodalyn (251)
• Philippines
17 May 10
just let the love flow..you can't prevent it from growing.. there's nothing wrong in falling for him..since you've said that he once wanted to court you then there's no doubt for the feelings of the two of you..
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• Philippines
21 May 10
thanks for the advice. I'm still thinking of a nice way to talk to my boyfriend. And i do hope that he can accept it.
• Philippines
26 Jun 10
the fact that you still feel that way to your friend and that it grows stronger than the boyfriend is already an indication that you love your friend more than your boyfriend. so there's no reason why you should not call it off with your boyfriend otherwise he might think you are fooling him. and there is nothing wrong with falling in love with your friend who's been like an older brother to you my husband used to be that too. :)
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@rizzu87 (860)
• Malaysia
18 May 10
I think you should find ways to make yourself happy, if you are not happy with your boyfriend and you think he gets jealous of you on little thing, then you should definitely leave your boyfriend and tell your frind that you are falling in love with him. I am telling you, to live this life you have to be selfish to some extent. SO its simple if its not working between you and your boyfriend then just leave him and go to the guy who you really love.
@zhangxia (87)
• China
13 May 10
no advice .it's all up to you