Deciding to expand your family

I decided forsure because of : finances, a small house w/ no hope of upgrading to something larger in our sites, my age, WE GOT OUR BOY!, and the c-section was very tramatic on me (PPD).

I have always wanted at least two children though I found out when trying for our daughter than due to medical reasons (including endometriosis) I only had a 1% chance of ever concieving naturally. We were going for our first round of tests/help when I actually found out I had managed to fall pregnant which was a miracle! We had been trying for our daughter for 3 and a half years and since having her have been trying for another for 2 and a half years so far with no luck. I have another operation due to try to help us though I have decided with my husband that this is the last op I will have. Weve decided to not pay money for IVF as it would take money from our daughter so really the situation has decided for us that we are only giving it one last try for another baby.

I think you made the right decision, and it is good to hear that you don't have any regrets because of your tubal ligation. I myself, decided at a very young age (13) that I would not have children. I just don't think that I am the type. I like my nephews, nieces, and even all of my friends kids. So, don't get me wrong and don't think that I don't enjoy children. They are great! I've just always known that I didn't want to be a mother. A lot of my friends have kids, and all of my sisters and my brother. I think they are great at it too! And I'm not saying that I would be horrible at it, but I guess when you know, you know. Just like you knew if you had a boy, that your family would be complete. Great discussion. Hope you have a wonderful day!

Hi, dorannmwin. Right now, I am settled with the three that I have. I have two full heads of hair to fix, plus my very own. I want to make sure that my two year old daughter is potty trained and is about 5 years old when I will have another child. Maybe in about 3 more years, I would like to have another one. I want to get caught up with my kids being able to grow and learn. It is tough on me just trying to raise what I have. I will wait until I am able to have more kids. It is a big job whether a woman stays home or is working outside of the home.

Great discussion to start. When my husband and I got married, we had discussed kids and decided that if we were to have one boy and one girl, we would be finished. Well, our first was a boy, so of course we figured we would try again, well, got another son, so we figured okay one more try wouldn't hurt, we had another son, well, during the delivery of my 3rd, the doctors advised that I shouldn't try to have any more, it would be to hard on my body. Which is fine, I am thankful for my 3 wonderful sons. I have nieces that I can spoil now and give back to mommy and daddy should I ever need a girl fix, the oldest of all the girls just turned 22. So you might say I have a huge selection. 22 on down to 10 months to choose from. :)

As far as I am concerned, I think if my family is ready to have another baby,which may be to have a girl . For me, I think the girl can be easier to raise up in nowadays life. If you want to have a boy, I think it can be so deep a burden to me that I should try my best to bring him up,then to get him to school. When he grow up, in my area, will usually try the parents' best to find him a good job or a house. So I am happy to have a girl.

hi dorannmwin I was 30 with my first and all things were fine, thiry one with my second child in just 11 months and all things were not fine, she had a very slow heart beat, and although the maternity nurse begged the doctor to take her by caeasarin he refused to do it, and she stopped breathing as she was born. I saw her at once she was the dreaded black baby meaning her skin was black due to lack of oxygen and it took them thirty minutes too long to m,ake her breathe, long enough that she was brain damaged.She was so sweet and loving, and loveable, apretty little girl who would four years old allher life if she had lived. we had eight precious years with her before God took her home. I was so badly damaged internally from that very difficult delivery that I had to have an emergency hysterectomy so my family was already limited to two then one. I would loved to have had another child but it was not meant to be' so I accepted what I had to accept.

We never made that decision.. a higher power made the decision for us each and every time. My first was born the day after my 17th birthday.. obviously that wasn't planned. When hubby and I moved in together I felt that was a good time to have another child. I had a good, steady guy who I knew would be around for the long run even though we weren't married yet.. he was a hard worker so I knew our finances would be okay, and we both had a large support system which would come in handy. Plus my son was already over 4 and I didn't want my kids spread out too far in age. Of course I didn't plan for that pregnancy to result in twins! After the twins I wanted to be done.. but due to health insurance problems I couldn't get the tubal. I tried to be careful but about 3 years after the twins were born was when I found out Aydan was on his way. Once I heard the news that I was going to have 4 kids, I convinced hubby to go get fixed.. he did so while I was pregnant to avoid any sort of wait time after the baby was born. Then about 10 months after Aydan was born I found out I was pregnant again.. which should have been impossible because hubby was supposedly fixed! So, after Mathieu was born I got an IUD which would work for 10 years... I couldn't get the tubal because I had a more pressing gall bladder issue and hubby couldn't take time off work for 2 surgeries. Anyways.. this past August I went to the ER with terrible abdominal pains.. turns out I was pregnant again, even though the IUD was still in place properly. ARG!! However this was an ectopic pregnancy, which needed immediate surgery.. in the process the doctor had to remove both of my tubes.. so I shouldn't be capable of getting pregnant again.. not that I'd want to anyways. However even my doctor will say that with my luck I'm probably still not 100% guaranteed that I won't get pregnant again... so I'm just waiting for menopause now!!

I always wanted a large family but had 3 late miscarriages before I had my first son. I have four living children but would have had nine if all would have lived. Having said that - I think that we would have stopped after the first four children. It did not matter to me if they were boys or girls. However after the three boys it was delightful to have a daughter

dear dora, i have a daughter and she is now a mother of a girl 9 years old now. she's my one and only although after i had her, i had one miscarriage. never had another because i had my blood pressure shoot up after my daughter was born. i stayed a week in the hospital while my mother took care of my baby daughter at home. the second one was not planned and i didnt know i had him/her until i lost him/her. no plans of adding now. am a happy grandmother, though it feels like i am a mother of two ann