How do you deal with people who never stop talking about themselves? Do you...?
By phoenix8606
@phoenix8606 (4942)
May 11, 2010 12:17pm CST
Hell0 my MyLot friends. I am really curious to know how do you actaully deal with this kind of selfish people, who never stop talking about themselves? Do you know people like that? Fortunatelly I don't have any friends like that, but have met mayn like it!
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@phoenix8606 (4942)
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11 May 10
Guess that you have steped them on the right place and they realized that there are also some other people around them! good work!
@nangisha (3496)
• Indonesia
15 May 10
Hello phoenix!.
Luckily I have a friend like this who keep complaining about every thing and think she is the best, the most holy person who have the right to judge others. Its really annoying to hear her irritate her family ( I will never talk about my family that way even if I had problem with them )and she think all people including her sibling as competitor. Its really make me tired to hear her talk bad about other .
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@phoenix8606 (4942)
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16 May 10
well, I guess that you have to put luckily in quotes yeah, people like that can always drive us crazy and are always annoying because I guess that there is no one who will like to listen to the same complaining of someone all day long or at least that must be a person with a very very strong nerves or someone with a removed nerve system
@dawnald (85146)
• Shingle Springs, California
14 May 10
I do sometimes have to ignore people who get on chat when I'm trying to work.
@dennisjade (91)
• Philippines
12 May 10
easy ....talk about something they dont like so they will go away with you or let them eat where upper and lower teeth get stuck
@dennisjade (91)
• Philippines
12 May 10
might be that they are Chinese! heheheheh
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@phoenix8606 (4942)
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12 May 10
yeah, maybe you are right, but as I already have told, by those people it si really hard to "take" the word because they just never stop talking and if you start to talk about something else they just interrupt you and continue talking about themselves again. it can be really annoying sometimes, at least for me
@cerebellum (3863)
• United States
12 May 10
I can't think of anyone I have met that is like that. I have one friend that just talks about her daughter. How much money they have and how nice their house is etc. I guess in a way that is just talking about herself, she is talking about her family. It does get to be annoying, but I just let her go on and on and on.
@cerebellum (3863)
• United States
13 May 10
It seems that the people who say how wonderfull their life is have the worst problems.
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@phoenix8606 (4942)
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12 May 10
yeah, this woman is maybe not so selfish because she is actually talking about her family, but even that what you told me can makes you go nuts, because people like that who always pretend to have some realy good family or life, people who always say how much money they or they kids have, how beautiful their house is, how niec and expensive car they have, can really drive me crazy and make mw choke them
I am really so glad that I don't have any friends like that, because I wonder what could I do then!
@phoenix8606 (4942)
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13 May 10
yeah, I guess so. maybe it is something like an instinct of self-preservation, because they fell the need to tel all these things abotu themselves just to show people that they really exist and that they also have their own life. maybe we should reallly be more nice with people like that, but they should also be more scrupolous I guess!
@slovenc1 (2089)
• Slovenia
11 May 10
I know exactly what you're talking about because i have a sister that was just in the kitchen minutes ago and talked with my mom and when she talks she is so loud and fast i can't stand her. She doesn't let anyone speak and you have to force those three words you want to tell. Than people used to say i don't talk much and what is wrong and why am i not laughing much. I just can't do anything when my sister is around. I'm so happy she moved out a few weeks ago but she still comes to visit too often. Don't get me wrong i do care about her but it's sooo annoying! How i deal with her? I don't start conversation and i just wait for her initial enthusiasm to stop when she sees i'm not happy with her talking.
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@slovenc1 (2089)
• Slovenia
11 May 10
I have shown her it's not appropriate many times and my mother did too but she's also a very bad listener. I just remembered that when she was in primary school a teacher told my mom my sister is great and has good grades and everything...but she talks to much! Ten years later and nothing changed. Thanks for the tip but there's nothing i can do
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@phoenix8606 (4942)
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12 May 10
well, theni can only sorry for you my friend I will only hope that when she comes to visit you, you wonn't be there!
@phoenix8606 (4942)
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11 May 10
hell0 Slovenc! well, I am really sorry for you my friend I am really glad that my sis isn't that loud as yours is, because maybe I just can't handle with her and we must just have a lot of quarrels. well, i really understand you and know that you love your sis, but you just can't stay too much time around her :) have you ever triedto tell her that she becomes annoying very often and must try to speak less? if not then do it, and if that doesn't help then just shout to her sometimes when she is talking to you or someone else and show her some anger. I am sure that that must really help you
@Opal26 (17679)
• United States
12 May 10
Hey phoenix! I sure do know someone like that! If she isn't talking
or complaining about herself she is bringing up something about
someone in her family who owned something, or knew someone or
you get my drift! Everything is about "her"! She is my oldest
and longest know friend and most of the time I want to choke her!
She is always knowing everything (and is wrong) and knowing
someone important (who cares) and arguing with me! In fact, last
night she pushed me to my limit once again! I can't get it through
to her how she sounds! I swore that I was going to get a "recorder"
and let her hear how stupid she sounds! But, as of today I am
not speaking to her once again! And it feels so good! She stresses
me too much!
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@phoenix8606 (4942)
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12 May 10
wooww, I guess that you are in serious trouble my friend :) I just don't want to dream about a friend like yours, because if you can stay a bit calmer and not choke her, then I wouldn't and if she talks with me that way and so much I will definitely do it People like that who always talk that much and always pretend to know everything(even when it is wrong in the most of the time) just get on my nerves and that makes me go nuts.
I can only offer you to take the recorder next time and record her. let her know that she is not a "knowledgeable" person at all and maybe she will understand how you exactly feel when you are with her. what is your suffering from
can only wish you luck from now on and hope that you will find some strong tipe to put onto her mouth!
@lelin1123 (15595)
• Puerto Rico
11 May 10
I too don't have friends like that but have met people who are all about themselves. They are the most egoistical people who think only about themselves and never about another person. When I come across someone like this I usually walk away. They also love to attract attention to themselves and they just make me sick. I think I can't stand it more so because I'm so the opposite of an egomanic.
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@phoenix8606 (4942)
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12 May 10
hell0 there, LElin!
yeah, I have also met many people like that and I even have given a nice example to some one here about something that happened mayn years ago and how a guy started talking about himself, while he was waiting for my parents. Then I was still a child and just fell asleep, but nowadays I also prefer to stay away from people like that, because they can really break the camel's back and then it would be to hard for me to stay calm :)
I have never understood people like that, who always talk about themselves and always think that they are the best and the others are nothing or that others are something like their listeners. it is really weird to me, how can some people behave like that, but I think that I start realizing it. maybe it is because as children they was rejected by others and now, as they are already adults they think that it is time for payback or maybe that they want to feel a little bit better. well, it is only a suggestion and I am reallynot sure about the real reason, but I truly believe that people like that really need some help from a therapeutist or some other specialist, so taht they can learn that there are many other people around them who want to say something too, and there are many more interesting things than themselves or their life!
@anday0108 (628)
• Philippines
13 May 10
I too have a close friend who talks nothing but about herself. Every time we have a conversation, the topic would always be about her, her problems, her husband, more of her problems, her family. I know every detail of her life because that what she all talks about...always "me,I,my problems". I have told her so many times that if she wants our friendship to go on, she needs also to listen to me and be interested in what I have to say because friendship is not a one way street. Every time I have a story to tell she would suddenly feel tire or she would suddenly say she has to go, but if it she talks about herself she can go on till 4 in the morning.
It is draining and I am tired. I want to be friends with her still because she is a nice lady other than being so self centered and she is a close friend. I tried to stay away from her but she wouldn't let me. And whenever I tell her that I need back off a bit because I am tired of her self-centeredness, she would tell me Im childish. If I stick out with her, i get tired listening to her.On the other hand if I distance myself..she would say i am at fault. Its difficult to deal with self-centered people..you got to have patience...and I am running out of patience.:(
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@phoenix8606 (4942)
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13 May 10
well, I know what are you talking about. as I have already seen there are many people here who have friends like that, and I feel like one of the little people on this world who don't have so selfish friends
yeah, people like that are really hard to communicate with, because if we try to start talking about something in our life or something that has happened to us, they will suddenly interrupt us and start talking again about themselves and their daily round or will just reject us and try to go away, just maybe because they feel that there is no chance for them from now on to be the "number one" if i can of course sa it so, because people like that, always try to be the "number one", to be the best talkers among their friends, but they actaully lose them that way, ebcause no one wants to be friend with someone like that, who never stops talking about itsself no matter of the time or the circumstances.
yeah, sometimes it is really hard to take it, when we lose some good friend, jsut because of that, he/she is selfish. maybe she doesn't let you go, because she knows that you are a good listener and she thinks that she will never find someone like you :) well, patience is really needed in cases like that, but as you tell, someday we just run out of it and there is no other way back!
@phoenix8606 (4942)
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12 May 10
yeah, maybe it is also an option, but that can bring you very often some quarrel with that person, because saying "shut up" is not nice at all and I prefer just to walk away and ignore those people. just pretend that I am not seeing them or that I have something more important then that!
@Steinway (307)
• United States
12 May 10
I have a co-worker like that, except she more into telling of her wild parties or how she is trying to lose weight. In a way, she makes me laugh, because I guess she thinks everybody is interested in everything she does. I just ignore her the best I can at work.
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@phoenix8606 (4942)
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12 May 10
yeah, i guess that ignoring those kind of people is really the best way to get rid of them, because quarrels and fighting is maybe not a good option. by the way you are really right- people like that who always like to talk about themselves can really be fuuny(akes us laugh) when they talking about the "bullshi*s" of their life. About them(bullshi*)selves
@phoenix8606 (4942)
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12 May 10
yeah, pretending that you are listening to them is a good way, but sometimes we just waste our time that way. maybe ignoring and rejectig them is abetter one or as you told telling them the truth which can be painful to them sometimes :(
@phoenix8606 (4942)
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14 May 10
yeah, I have also have some schoolmates like that and they were really annoying every day talking about their problems making my head "SO" big :)
@jamiecornelius (71)
• United States
12 May 10
i simply just cant deal with those people && i always eventually distance myself away from them.
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@phoenix8606 (4942)
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12 May 10
yeah, I can't also communicate with people like that, actaully no one can, just because they don't let us say something and they never stop talking, and that's why the most of the people prefer to ignore them adn sta away just to feel better.
I also try to stay away from this kind of people!
@cream97 (29087)
• United States
11 May 10
Hi, phoenix8606. I have a best friend that does this when she talks about school a lot. She will talk about her classes in college and all. It gets very depressing because that is all that she talks about when we are on the telephone. I love her dearly, but it annoys me when we are talking about her education all of the time. I know that my mother-in-law used to go on about how she wants her permit so that she can learn how to drive. She would talk about it so much until I told her to stop mentioning it when she was around me. I really did not want to say anything to her, but she got so aggravating until I could no longer hold my tongue. Of course, I said it in a very nice way. But she still took it as a negative comment. I think that people who constantly talk about themselves and not others can be seen as being conceited. It is also an way of them wanting to be appreciated. They may also want to just impress someone.
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@phoenix8606 (4942)
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11 May 10
Hell0 cream! well, I can really understand you, because I have seen people like that many times, but fortunately have never have friends like that :)
well, I guess that it is really better to stop her and tell the truth and namely that she becomes annyoing and I think that you should even do it earlier and not waiting the last moment, because as we all know the more we wait for something annyoing to stop, the more nervous we become, so let the steam of, before it kicks up the row :)
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@mario_stevens (6971)
• Malaysia
11 May 10
if someone was in a conversation with me, and all of a sudden has a 'personal' conversation with themselves, i'll just start talking to myself too.
the last time this happened, i was talking to myself about 'how rude it is for some people to talk to themselves in front of other people'. i actually had a conversation with myself. well then, the person who started this whole thing with me just stared at me...then she realized that i was talking about her.
after that, she wasn't talking to herself in front of me no more
like fighting fire with fire, sometimes i like to fight crazy with crazy hehe..
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@phoenix8606 (4942)
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11 May 10
well, I raelly like your method to handle with that situation. It is a bit weird but it helps and it would be nice if other people try it too when they are in the same situation. So thank you for the nice and interesting story and hope that many people will try it and I am sure that it will work just like to you!