Hey, do you feel envy when other people receive more responses?

@keval32 (1096)
India
May 12, 2010 6:55am CST
I feel sometimes when others receive 40-50 responses to the discussions even though not having any interesting topic. What yours? Do you feel the way I?
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@tav_8164 (151)
• United States
12 May 10
I don't think that I'm sure about the significance as to who gets more posts or not. I'm sure it has something to do with how much is earned for that discussion starter. But you don't have to go off what others are doing. All you can really do is YOUR best. After time and with some patience and practice you too can be up there with the best! Of course you are entitled to feel, act, and think however you please, I just wanted to remind you that you don't have too.
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@keval32 (1096)
• India
12 May 10
Yeah, you're right that I must not.....What to do it's my weakness, I feel it not only in myLot but at other aspects too.
@tav_8164 (151)
• United States
18 May 10
It is not bad to want better for yourself, only when you start to look down on people(or hold envy/jealousy), for having what you want. Instead, it is a good practice to be instantly happy for a person and their achievments. By instantly feeling and showing joy for that person, maybe you will think how good it'll feel when you get what you want. Perhaps that added reward will encourage you to work harder to reach your goal. Perhaps it is frustrating here because it is so hard to know what type of discussion is going to be successful? I know that is my opinion/advice.
• United States
12 May 10
No envy here. Just think that those people often have alot of active friends here on mylot. I think it is great for them to be able to have such a conncetion with others here that they are willing to send responses even if the topics do not seem that interesting to me. The other way of looking at it is that even though the topic may not be of interest to you, some may find it very interesting. Differences in cultures and people are what make myLots so interesting.
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@mysdianait (66009)
• Italy
12 May 10
I do not feel envy or jealousy in any situation online or off. Both are negative and serve no purpose whatsoever. When I was a younger Lotter I saw other users receiving many responses and I watched and tried to understand what they were doing and I learnt from their example. They are the users who start interesting and original topics but, most important of all, they get back and comment to those who respond. After all, whether we receive 10 responses or 100, we do not earn anything for them. Those who post them earn for them. We only earn for what we type so they give us an opportunity to earn but unless we use them, our own earnings will not increase at all. Of course, once we starts receiving more that is a lot of work to keep up with them all and then we start fewer discussions but we become much happier Lotters
@keval32 (1096)
• India
12 May 10
That's nice that you don't feel envy, I know this is bad but it's my weakness as I said above. Hope, as I get old I'll get rid of it. Thanks.
@mysdianait (66009)
• Italy
12 May 10
Put it into constructive use like I explained and you will soon see that it works for you too. What would you feel like if you had 200 responses that all needed your attention?
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• India
13 May 10
I agree I am happy with genuine responses that are less 5-6 in number.If we get 30-40 responses and all coming at a time,we can not comment them.also the person will be disappointed,even there will be repeated responses for sure.
@sender621 (14894)
• United States
12 May 10
I don't believe i have envy or jealousy when someone else gets a lot of responses for discussions. Sometimes I do wish I had thouught of the discussion topic,
@keval32 (1096)
• India
12 May 10
That's good that you don't feel envy. I do feel it's my weakness.
@verptc (246)
• Philippines
12 May 10
Sometimes feeling of jealousy for those who have so many responses but I try to study and read those responses with good topics. Then share them also what is in my mind that is related to the topic. Compose and be practical to answer whatever discussions which will suit your taste.
@keval32 (1096)
• India
12 May 10
Oh thank god, after all I got someone who feels the way I feel. You know it is natural behavior of humans.
@cip116 (1011)
• Romania
12 May 10
I am new to this site and I am happy for a single response Means that someone was interested in my topic:)
@keval32 (1096)
• India
12 May 10
Hmmm Great.
@sid556 (30960)
• United States
19 May 10
No, Keval I don't. Not at all and neither should you. If they got that many responses and their conversation is not at all interesting then it is more than likely that they are not being active in the conversation. In order to earn off from your discussions you have to respond in detail to those that respond to you. That in itself should liven up the conversation. If you start a good discussion and only get 5 or 6 responses you probably earn more than they do.
• India
13 May 10
i too used to envy at the beginning but came to know it is useless how many responses we receive. and non-interesting topics getting more responses means that there will be so many repeated responses in that for sure. One way to improve the number of responses is to increase your friends.