what should i do to be with her?
By rizzu87
@rizzu87 (860)
Malaysia
May 14, 2010 7:50pm CST
There is a girl i know who was in my class in my high school, i use to talk to her during school days and then she suddenly disappeared. About after 3 years she came on facebook, and we started talking again on msn. She use to talk to me each and every single day, and slowly i started liking her. She is really a very nice girl and i love her from the core of my heart. I was really scared to tell her that i love her because i always thought that i might lose her.
I am studying aborad now and when i went to my hometown this semester break i decided that i have to tell her what i feel about her. And so i told her even though i am not so good at it and i never told a girl anuthing like that. First she dint say anything much and still she came and met me one day. we went out and had some good time together. I thought that she likes me as well. But she never said anything to me.
when i was going back to the country where i study, i smsed her and told her that i really love her. She gave a general reply. And later when i came here she told me that she cant be in a realationship now and i am her best friend who never make her sad for anything and all that. and slowly she has almost stopped talking to me. Now we chat maybe once in a week or even two. I dont know what to do, and i dont want to force her to love me. But i really love her. I am moslty soo sad and depressed thinking about all this, and wish i could be with her someday. What do you guys think i should now?
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11 responses
@lovelyn_medrano (3070)
• Philippines
15 May 10
Are you sure she is not committed? No Boy friend?
May be she is not ready yet, may be she is just afraid to commit herself to someone especially to you because you are so close and she doesn't want to complicate things.
Give her time and space to think about her true feelings for you. At least she knows how you really felt for her. Just be there always ready to chat with her. The fact thatshe is enjoying your comapny and chatting with you means that you have chemistry and you are somehow important to her too. Maybe she needs more time to weight her true feelings for you. Maybe there is something in her past that caused her to be afraid and reluctant in loving again...
Don't lose hope. Good luck!
@rizzu87 (860)
• Malaysia
18 May 10
She is not committed, she tell me everything,, what ever is going on in her life. She had a boyfriend long back but there was some problem between them and they left each other. Well you might be right that she might need some more time to get her true feelings for me. The only thing that frightens me is that what IF her feeling for me would never come. What will i do then? I dont have any hope now. maaaaaaaaaaa what should i do
@lovelyn_medrano (3070)
• Philippines
18 May 10
Well then, if she is not committed definitely you still have a chance... Maybe theres something happened in her past relation that made her a little frighten to open up her heart again... Just give her time. I think she is not ready yet for a commitment... The fact that she did not anwered you asap makes me think that she was confuse of her feelings... Aslong as she know your true feelings for her that is enough... Don't try to be pushy for that might irritate her... Just stay as the way you are to her before...
Goodluck!
@avinandy1980 (52)
• India
15 May 10
RIzzu, forget the girl as your lover, accept her as friend. You will get someday a very good life partner may be better than her, but you will not get a friend like her. Maintain friendship, may be she is already committed to some other. So dont force her, cause you will not get love from her as your partner. Be friend and you will feel well. Good luck.
@rizzu87 (860)
• Malaysia
17 May 10
hi, no she is not committed and i know this. She tells me everything. And whats the use staying friends as we cant meet each other so often. Actually the country and the society we belong to does not allow to meet each other like that easily. The thing is that i love her from my heart and i just cant think my life with anyone else. I just dont want to :(. I wont force her but i will wait for her till very end
@reckon21 (3479)
• Philippines
15 May 10
Reading upon your post makes me really feel for you. I can relate to you because I have felt the same way to a girl before. I like her very much yet she does not feel the same way towards me. But she consider me as her best friend but I want more. I want her to be my girlfriend but I can't force her to love me. Until she meet someone she truly likes and whom she fall in love with.
It takes me a long time to accept the hard truth that my feelings for her have no happy ending and I must forget her or else I will go crazy. In the end I already overcome my deep love for her and now I love somebody else. I just hope this woman can learn to love you so that you will be happy.
@ivychan (15)
• China
15 May 10
I am a girl.SO,I can understand the girl you love.
Once my best good friend who was a boy and we were always taking and kidding each other said he loved me.Acturally I didn't want to lose my good friend ,but I can't lie to him ,so I told him my true feeling that I just did not love him....but I still want to share my daily storis and interesting things with him...
@rizzu87 (860)
• Malaysia
16 May 10
aaahhhhh!!! why does this happen. If she can be my friend and if she wanted to share every little story that she went through, why cant she love me? or why cant she be with me all my life telling her stories for a lifetime. I think what you did was wrong. you should have tried to think over about a relationship with your friend.
@maxyl12 (236)
• Philippines
15 May 10
I think she thinks of you a friend and not more than that. Maybe she already like someone else. But it depends. I you really love her you must do actions. Because actions speaks louder than words. You can do it and I know you can. If you decide it then I say to better go to her.
@frontvisions101 (16043)
• Philippines
15 May 10
Sometimes, telling her straight up is the right thing to do. Just tell her what you feel. You'll never know if it'll change everything or anything at all. Just brave up and do it.
@juggerogre (1653)
• Philippines
15 May 10
Why can't she be in a relationship? Did her last relationship ended in a bad way? If you love her all you got to do is wait. There's nothing much you can do. And yep don't force her. That will be the worst move you will ever do. Just keep talking to her. Send her a message even though she's offline. Everything will work out in the end. Good luck. :D
@rizzu87 (860)
• Malaysia
15 May 10
Yeah her last relationship ended in a bad way. She now thinks that in a relationship nothing goes well. She told me that being in a relationship will only create problems between us. I think you are right i should wait for her till the last time. Hope everythings goes well. thank you soo much for replying.
@hmm609 (36)
• China
15 May 10
There is an old saying:there is plenty of fish in the sea,you will find your soul mate,our perfect match.
@wotsawonder (21)
• Saudi Arabia
15 May 10
hi hmmm u should give her time and i hope ur relation become better in the coming days ..:)
