adoption, how do you fell about.....

I don't know. Its very hard to say anything on this topic.

Well this would have to be on a cse by case basis. If the parrents who are wanting to adopt, and the child is ok with this. I would then say they have to make an attemt to contact the actual father in this case, or at least serv him notice of this. and this could be done with a notice in a news paper.

It is hard to know. I knew someone that adopted his three step children but several years later he and the children's mother divorced. He tried to see the children afterward but she wouldn't let him saying they weren't his biological children. This was really hard on the children. In essence, they had lost two fathers out of their lives.

I don't even like it at all

I think, this is a situation that would have to be handled on a case to case basis. How is the equation between the foster parents and the child, do they gel together. How attached does the child feel towards the parents to be. Would the child WANT to live a life being adopted by them. The greater consideration for me is the sentiment of the child. The parents are adults, have seen the world and have been hardened by times. If they can't take a situation, then it's just too bad. I would not want an innocent child put through emotional turmoil under the circumstances.

Well if they have all talked about it. And everyone is fine with it. Then it sounds okay to me.

as I read the comments the only thing I can see being a problem is the father. Ya hes been out of your boys life for 5 years but do you think he will be will to let go? Some times they hang on for a mocho thing. But I think it's a great idea when one of the parents bows out of a childs life. If the boy is willing then go for it.

Hey nice to see somebody come up with a serious topic which is worth replying to... Great job But the question is tricky, as I don't wanna make unqualified comments, I'll kepp my mouth shut... Good!