Hey! Get the cigars! It's a boy!!! (^^,)
@Aphroditei_5279 (2465)
Philippines
May 17, 2010 3:26pm CST
No no no, before any congratulations or other speculations. I must say I am a woman. I also have children. So I am a mom so to say. Now, you are thinking, what's with the title of this discussion?
Well, as a mom, a woman, we always rejoice in being pregnant. We beamed with expectations. We carry this little child into our womb for nine months. We take care of it until he/she can breathe on his own. And we have mixed emotions like happiness, sadness, excitement, fear...etc...tears, panic attack etc..
Now, I was wondering, how about the man population? THE MAN!..LOL.. I mean, with all the "I am the man", macho, strong, impeccable facade that doesn't faltered in any situations, and especially when it comes in showing their emotions.
What did you felt when you knew you were going to be a dad? Did you jumped up and down? Light the cigars like in old movies to celebrate?
Or felt like the world had come to an end and had to say goodbye to your bachelor life?
Are you really secretly whispering and praying that your first born would be a boy? Despite, the "Oh, yes honey, a girl would be so perfect"?..lol..
But yet melted at the sight of your own little princess?
Did all your facade, walls, fears, insecurities maybe fell down when you first held your child? when you first heard his/her heart beating? her/his first cry?
This discussion is opened to anyone, not only men, fathers, but also soon to be dads, hopefully will be a daddy someday, the women who can share what their husband felt and said.
Let down your hair, valiant knights of this decade..and let's talk about being a dad...
(^^,)
But yet melted at the sight of your own little princess?
Did all your facade, walls, fears, insecurities maybe fell down when you first held your child? when you first heard his/her heart beating? her/his first cry?
This discussion is opened to anyone, not only men, fathers, but also soon to be dads, hopefully will be a daddy someday, the women who can share what their husband felt and said.
Let down your hair, valiant knights of this decade..and let's talk about being a dad...
(^^,)2 people like this
10 responses
@basqui (3888)
• Philippines
18 May 10
I was nervous when my girlfriend informed me once. We are not yet ready to have one. Thank God it was just a joke and she said that we should settle now. I don't know if we will have to get married now. WE have jobs but I think it's not enough yet because we don't have own savings to get to married life yet, am I right that we are not really ready yet?
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@Aphroditei_5279 (2465)
• Philippines
18 May 10
Hi Basqui! I don't know, I can't really say you are not ready. You and your girlfriend are the only one who can answer that questions. I do sense your fear and worries about getting married, have children, the job, the expenses, etc...But, I think, that you will be able to get trough it.
At least, you have a good start, if you both really love each other. How long have you been together? If you feel deep inside you would want to wake up and spend each day of your life with her, the bads and the good hair days..LOL..then, you have one point if I may say. You have both jobs. That's good. Try to see if it can sustain you both. And what will you do if you have children. It's a long process if you want too. No one can hurry you to do it. Just be responsible and cautious of your actions. So you can plan ahead. So you won't be got off guard, especially if it is not a joke anymore.
Maybe you can write down your plans. It sometimes help to see it in black and white. Don't worry, I think being a parent comes naturally. But to be good parents, it's a team work. (^^,)
@Aphroditei_5279 (2465)
• Philippines
20 May 10
Yes, that's very well said. It's important that both of you be ready. And you have all the time ahead to plan it. Good luck Basqui! Have a great day! Keep us posted when the wedding bells are near! (^^,)
@basqui (3888)
• Philippines
18 May 10
Oh, this is something I should put in mind. We've been together for more than two years now. She's far younger than me but that does not matter anyway right? What's important is we love each other and we are ready when getting into married life eh?
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@hollowheart (1572)
• India
18 May 10
Hey Aphrodit. Its lovely to see ur post after many days. Or did i miss them in between. Which ever way, i am happy to write to u. Well i am neither a dad and no clue when that day would ever come. I am not even married, and even marriage period is unknown. But ya if i could imagine something like the situation u gave then i would be happy equally if it was a boy or a girl. Probably a little more happy if it was a girl. I agree a mother gets to know and feel a lot of the baby in herself, before the fatger even knows whats going on.
I wouldnt cry but would be very happy. Maybe i will have to post in another comment only after I become a father, if i ever do and then try and express my true feelings, than just try to imagine.
I am really glad to hear that u r a mom. I first thought u r having a child, but i nevrr thought it ws just a topic of discussion.
I loved it. The expressions u gave were awesome.
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@Aphroditei_5279 (2465)
• Philippines
18 May 10
Hi Sourav! Nope it's not after many days, it's after many years actually. LOL..
But we did got in touch since last year I think. I added you on Facebook. But you didn't remember me as Aphroditei there..
Anyway, I am happy to be back. I am trying to catch up on Mylot. And I have just posted 3 discussions since I came back. I thought you were going get married to your bestfriend. If I am right, you did like her, but you mentionned that three years ago, I think. So what happened? Hopefully, you will get the joy to be a dad soon. And we will see if you really wouldn't cry as you said..LOL...
I know some of my friends you shed a lot of happy tears at the sight of their first born.
Thank you for your response Hollowheart! (^^,)
But we did got in touch since last year I think. I added you on Facebook. But you didn't remember me as Aphroditei there.. Anyway, I am happy to be back. I am trying to catch up on Mylot. And I have just posted 3 discussions since I came back. I thought you were going get married to your bestfriend. If I am right, you did like her, but you mentionned that three years ago, I think. So what happened? Hopefully, you will get the joy to be a dad soon. And we will see if you really wouldn't cry as you said..LOL... I know some of my friends you shed a lot of happy tears at the sight of their first born.
Thank you for your response Hollowheart! (^^,)@Aphroditei_5279 (2465)
• Philippines
20 May 10
Sometimes, when last year, last month on Facebook? And we spoke only about Farmville...LOL... Sorry to say Sourav, but I asked you there if you remembered me from Mylot as your friend Aphroditei. And you said "No" and you weren't much into Mylot. And you only know me on Facebook as one of your Farmville neighbor...So sorry if I am grumpy, but I don't like familiarity when someone, I thought was a friend, has already forgotten me.
But nevertheless, thank you Sourav for responding to my new discussion. Have a nice day ahead! Namaste!(^^,)
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@hollowheart (1572)
• India
19 May 10
Dearest Aphroditei. a i agree, bujt we were speaking sometimes on facebook. So thats the reason why i said in days. On the other end days makes years.
Well ya i had told u that. But it seems destiny has other plans. Our parents wont let that happen. So she also said that she will marry someone else. I still want to marry her, but she says "NO" though we love each othr a lot. Probabaly thats how life is meant to be sometimes. Ya sure if i am a dad i will be really happy, but i still doubt if i would cry at all.
Lets see what happens. Sometimes situations make things change...
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@neildc (17239)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
19 May 10
when i knew that my wife is pregnant for the first time, i really jumped for joy. we never got to have the baby for months and everybody in the family were so excited and happy to know that finally, we are having a baby. i wanted to have a boy as the first born, to make sure that the name of the family will bring more names in the future. but to think, our name is so popular in the country and it's very common.
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@Aphroditei_5279 (2465)
• Philippines
20 May 10
I think even though your family name might be common in the country. It's still different when it comes from your own child. would it be a great lost if you had only girls as children? I mean, would you be sad to see your name gone when they get married? (^^,)
@Aphroditei_5279 (2465)
• Philippines
23 May 10
Very well said Neildc! Thank you for your response. (^^,)
(^^,)
@paula27661 (15811)
• Australia
18 May 10
My husband was funny! I had to have a caesarean when I was having our daughter and I was very nervous. He was acting like the brave protector telling me it was going to be okay and that he would be with me to take care of me every step of the way. When we got to the operating theatre he sat down next to me and while they operated I chose to have an epidural so I could be awake which is just as well because my fears had turned into excitement by this stage and guess who was going pale and almost fainted? Yes my big strong protector; here I was holding HIS hand telling him it was going to be okay...(LOL)
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@Aphroditei_5279 (2465)
• Philippines
18 May 10
LOL That's so funny Paula! And yet, so sweet of your husband. He so wanted to be there and be your rock. But ended up, being pale and so nervous. But somehow, it just shows how much he was worried and cared about you. But I can't blame him, it was a C-section. He must have been so worried..Were you holding hands the whole operation? He must have stood there for long hours.
Thank you for your response Paula..(^^,)
That's so funny Paula! And yet, so sweet of your husband. He so wanted to be there and be your rock. But ended up, being pale and so nervous. But somehow, it just shows how much he was worried and cared about you. But I can't blame him, it was a C-section. He must have been so worried..Were you holding hands the whole operation? He must have stood there for long hours.
Thank you for your response Paula..(^^,)1 person likes this
@Aphroditei_5279 (2465)
• Philippines
20 May 10
Maybe if it was in another situation, you would have ended up laughing a lot because he was so nervous. But being under sedation, and in that situation, it would be almost impossible to laugh. But that's very sweet and cute when you think about it. Do you tease him about it sometimes, that he almost passed out?..1 person likes this
@paula27661 (15811)
• Australia
19 May 10
He got to sit next to me and yes we were holding hands which was nice until he almost passed out!
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@Saranggola (956)
• Philippines
19 May 10
I remember my youngest brother (and the only boy of my parents' three children), they were both hardly wishing that it would be a boy. And my father jumped with too much joy when we found out that the baby was a boy.
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@Aphroditei_5279 (2465)
• Philippines
20 May 10
Is he the youngest of you three siblings? I can imagine if he is the very youngest, how your dad must have prayed so hard for him. And the immense joy he had when he finally got a boy. Parents always want a balance in the family. It's always a joy when you get to have a daughter and a son. I have a friend too where in his family, he has three boys. He really wants to have a daughter next time. Maybe he will jump up to the ceiling when that moment will happened. Thank you for responding Saranggola! (^^,)
Thank you for responding Saranggola! (^^,)@Saranggola (956)
• Philippines
22 May 10
Yep he's the youngest and is my father's favorite. XD
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@mcabiles (44)
• Philippines
5 Jul 10
I remember when my first baby came out. I cant really explain the feeling. It's like I'm on a different world. Being a dad makes you become more mature. Stuff that you do when your single or doesn't have a baby yet, you don't do them anymore. Instead of buying something for yourself, you save it for your kid. I must say, being a dad is a wonderful feeling. I know, I have 4 boys :)
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@Aphroditei_5279 (2465)
• Philippines
2 Aug 10
Hi Mcabiles thank you for your response and sorry if I haven't replied sooner. I must say..it is very great to hear from a dad...and to feel so proud about our children is a common feeling shared by parents, moms or dads...that's is so great really...I just heard a while ago..."All of us can or are children of someone or somebody...but not all of us can or are parents.."...Yes, indeed, we are blessed to be parents...I am sure your four boys are a handful...but the simple hugs smiles and kisses that they share....are priceless...(^^,)
@kun2349 (23381)
• Singapore
18 May 10
Be it man or woman, when one is really happy, they will definitely be showing their emotions in the right way.. Some man will be so happy being a father, that they started jumping around like a big boy!! And hugging anyone they see around them as well!! haha =D
A man is more likely to share their joy around, as compared to woman.. hehe ^_^ Be it a son or daughter, i guess it does not matter that much, because gender of the baby is not something we can control.. THough both man and woman might be disappointed with unexpected gender, but the disappointment will be gone after a while.. hehe
After all, it's our own baby, our own child ^_^
@Aphroditei_5279 (2465)
• Philippines
18 May 10
Hi Kun! I am not so sure a man is more likely to share that kind of joy. I have seen some of my friends, who just wanted to run in front of a bus, after they knew their girlfriend got pregnant or even their wife. Somehow, having a child, brings a lot of responsibility and expectations on men. Some would be so proud, but some will even go to the extent of clamoring for DNA testing just to prove their paternity.
I think, women are more likely to embrace and share that joy, at once I mean, than men. But, thank you for your positive outlook, indeed, some men take it very positively. And I give them thumbs up in assuming that role in life for their child.
Thank you for your response Kun! (^^,)
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@3SnuggleBunnies (16374)
• United States
17 May 10
My husband cried when the kids were born. He was super excited when he found out I was pregnant with our first he couldn't even wait til the first Dr appt to tell everyone. He's proud as a peacock about his kids!
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@Aphroditei_5279 (2465)
• Philippines
18 May 10
That's so sweet Snugglebunnies! It's nice to hear how excited he was about your children. My dad was like that too, my mom said. But he didn't say much when we were kids. But, dads have unique ways to show how proud they are of being dads. I think only that can break their composure, and turned them into instant peacocks... Thank you Snugglebunnies. Have a great day!(^^,)
Thank you Snugglebunnies. Have a great day!(^^,)
@cicisnana (772)
• United States
1 Jun 10
Hahaha, my grandson was a rather, well, unexpected, and his father didn't take to well of it...in fact he tried to persuade my daughter into an abortion...she wouldn't and he came to accept the fact that he was going to be a father. I accompanied them to the ultrasound where the technician told them they were having a boy, instead of beaming, my future son in law seemed to be mad. On the way home he tells my daughter "All our friends wanted boys and they got girls, I wanted a girl and I get a boy." The day of delivery came and I was in the waiting room as well as was my still future son in laws parents were. It didn't take long to push that little almost 9 lb bundle out, we were all sitting there talking when Derek rounded the corner to the waiting room,squalling probably harder than the baby was, it scared me! I thought something was wrong with my daughter or the baby, but he pulled his camera out and started showing us pictures of his newborn son. For someone who wanted the pregnancy ended he sure has taken to his fatherly duties. But he still is my "future" son in law :) They all live together, just haven't taken the full plunge yet...
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@Aphroditei_5279 (2465)
• Philippines
2 Jun 10
Wow that's one very memorable moment Cicisnana!!! Thank you for sharing it!!! To think that he was not happy with the baby and plus he wanted a girl. And yet, at the end, seeing your own child, is still something so moving, no one can deny it or even hide it. I think I would have felt the same way, when your future son in law was screaming, scared and anguish. And when I realized it was of excitement, I would have laughed a lot or maybe just quietly inside with a motherly "I told you".. I hope He will be your son in law soon. But they live all together already, maybe there are not yet ready. The important is they are happy. Thank you again for sharing Cicisnana! Hugs to your grandson and your cute granddaughter on your picture. She is so cute. (^^,)
I think I would have felt the same way, when your future son in law was screaming, scared and anguish. And when I realized it was of excitement, I would have laughed a lot or maybe just quietly inside with a motherly "I told you".. I hope He will be your son in law soon. But they live all together already, maybe there are not yet ready. The important is they are happy. Thank you again for sharing Cicisnana! Hugs to your grandson and your cute granddaughter on your picture. She is so cute. (^^,)
@elfbwillow (307)
•
2 Jun 10
My husband already had a daughter from a previous relationship though he said he had always felt as though he missed out on so much both while his ex was pregnant and after due to circumstances beyond his control so when we finally fell pregnant after many years of trying he was overjoyed. He came to all the appointments and scans with me and went very teary eyed when we found out we were having a daughter. I did wonder whether he would have wanted a boy this time around what with having his first daughter and the 'boy makes a man' title though he was just happy our baby was healthy and said secretly he wanted a girl anyway!
When our daughter entered the world he really cried - happy tears of course. He didnt care that my mum and the midwives were in the room - he was just so happy and I loved seeing his emotional side.
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@Aphroditei_5279 (2465)
• Philippines
2 Jun 10
Hi Elfwillow! That's so sweet! I think any men would love to have a boy, but deep inside whether it's a boy or girl; they always melt one way or another. But I have also noticed that once they have their daughters too, their little princess. Fathers act very differently, more protectively than mothers. They can deny that a smile from their daughters, melts their hearts. Thank you for your response Elfbwillow! And for sharing your story, it is so nice! Happy Mylotting! (^^,)
Happy Mylotting! (^^,)