Do your parents always embarress you..

@HADDOWZ (1481)
May 17, 2010 4:06pm CST
Why o why do parents insist on trying their hardest to embarress you when you take a friend home that they have never met before. It confonds me, is it part of parenthood ? I am sure you all know what I mean. You take a friend home for whatever reason (to get changed before going out, a quick snack, watch a film, anything like that) and your parents just automatically kick into embarressment mode. And it's twice as bad if your friend is of the oposite gender. The never ending questions and comments your parents say is amazing. Does it just come natural or is there a school you go to for parents to learn the most embarressing of comments ever thought of. I mean all of this in a humorous way obviously, but I bet we have all experienced this. Anyone care to share their story
11 responses
@speakeasy (4215)
• United States
17 May 10
But, that is the problem - your parents aren't trying to embarass you. They are trying to share their memories of you with your new friend. To help them like you and understand you better. Until they get to know your new friend better YOU are the only thing they have in common to discuss. So, if you know your new friend has an interest in common that they can discuss with your parents (sport team, hobby, music, etc) and you bring that topic up to get things going before they can start discussing you; you will be discussed and it will probably be embarassiing. It took me a while to figure this out myself and to realize that everyone's parents have a tendancy to do this.
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@HADDOWZ (1481)
17 May 10
Well, having pondered on your response I can only say one important thing. Your right. I never really thought of this subject like that, but I guess it's right. If they have never met my friend then how do they know what to say or react. But they still dont need to ask if I put on clean socks in the morning . Yes they are only making polite conversation, but, somethings are best unsaid. It's all about having fun and enjoyment.
• United States
17 May 10
My mother used to embarrassed me all the time. Until I pulled her to the side and told her I felt she stopped. Thanks god!
@med889 (5954)
18 May 10
Once I brought a friend home and she came in my room to chat and then only my mother had to open the door without knocking to tell me that I did not introduce her to her and starts talking to her as if my mother has invited her herself. So this was both embarrassing for my friend, me and hopefully to my mother too who later accepted.
@mentalward (14695)
• United States
18 May 10
For me, it's payback, pure and simple. My kids (especially my youngest son, who is now 26) used to embarass me so badly when they were little that it just came naturally to me to embarass them when I got the chance. I love it when they bring a new girlfriend over to meet me. Yep, I'll pull out the embarassing photographs of them when they were young, like the one of my oldest son who fell asleep while sitting on his potty or my youngest who was walking around in his father's shoes, completely naked otherwise. Yep, payback. It DOES feel good!
@mentalward (14695)
• United States
18 May 10
Oops, sorry, it's 'embarrass'. I used to be a proofreader and was an English major. You'd think I could spell it right, huh?
@HADDOWZ (1481)
18 May 10
I like your style, 'payback' a very good view on the subject. That's something I will need to remember. But a word of warning whilst enjoying your 'payback' , revenge is sweet
@mentalward (14695)
• United States
18 May 10
Yeah, I know. My youngest son STILL embarrasses me whenever he can. He's a hoot.
@rizzu87 (860)
• Malaysia
17 May 10
My parents does not embarrass me in front of my friends but they usually inquire alot about them after they leave. I just hate it. I think we are good enough to decide who should and who shouldnt be our friend. And our parents should understand that. Embarrassing us or enquiring about them wont make any difference
@HADDOWZ (1481)
18 May 10
I think it must be a part of our parents job to ask about our friends. How did you meet, where do they work, what do their parents do, etc etc. I would probably be the same, they only want whats best for you. No harm in that...
@apples99 (6562)
• United States
17 May 10
I think most parents unintentionally embarrass there kids even there adult ones, when I was a kid through to my teens sometimes I got a little embarrassed by my parents now and then, lol but I never complained about it because there my parents and I was pretty sure that they weren't trying to embarrass me they were just being my parents and most parents forget that there is some things that there kids find embarrassing, so I never held it against them.
@HADDOWZ (1481)
17 May 10
I know they dont do it intentionally (well not always). Maybe it's just an age difference. Older mothers and fathers still pretending to be hip and trendy really does not work But I know it is not meant to harm or upset. If it wasnt for them we would not be here.
@1anurag1 (3580)
• India
18 May 10
I am really not a good guy, what the expectation my parents ever had to me, i have still not fulfilled any. But they do not try to embarrass me ever and i think most of the time they try to support me in my bad time. But there is also a bad luck with me that i am not able to do any thing noticeable by them for them.
@dawnald (84069)
• Shingle Springs, California
18 May 10
Other than the time my dad whipped my friend Bill's butt at chess?
• Philippines
18 May 10
I never bring a friend in my house. My house is so small and seeing my house embarass me already. Well I experienced being introduced by a friend's parent and they done the same. They tell history of their child and all the naughty and funny things their child too. One thing made me happy is they are sharing a yesterday of their child and they are very proud of him. I like parents like that. Don't mind the embarassment, we all have embarrassment done in our life, nothing escape from that. what is important is our parents accept our friends and talk about us, not different people.
• Philippines
18 May 10
I haven't experienced this. My parents were always on my side and knew whenever they have to downplay their parenting so they won't embarrass me.
@spalladino (17921)
• United States
17 May 10
Coming from the parent side of the coin, I can tell you that you're going through a stage where anything and everything that your parents do embarasses you. It's normal and doesn't necessarily mean that your parents are goobers or are doing anything on purpose. I raised 4 children to adulthood so I went from "Mom knows everything" to "Mom has no clue" to "Mom isn't so bad afterall and I'm glad I can talk to her about things". Now, I will admit that there were times when I had a bit of fun with the "embarassment stage" at my children's expense. My favorite was if we were stopped at a red light and someone they knew pulled up next to us or behind us. That's when I turned that Oldies radio station waaay up and started singing and head banging. If my daughters had been physically able to melt through the seats, they would have!
• United States
17 May 10
I didn't have anyone over to our apt but when friends would call on the phone my Mom would be sure to fill whomever in on who I had a crush on at the time *sigh* Usually if they were calling the house they were a friend and already knew who I liked anyways.