Overprotective? or do i love my girl so much?

Philippines
May 18, 2010 6:30am CST
I have a girlfriend and i love her very much. She like going online and i dont mind what she does. A few days ago i see someone talking to her and i felt very uncomfortable with him always acting cool around my girlfriend. I hate this feeling so much and i wish i could keep it to myself but i just cant. Am i being so overprotective?
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@saphrina (31552)
• South Africa
18 May 10
The only thing you can do is talk to her about how it makes you feel. Both of you need to understand each other, so things and feelings like this will not happen. I cannot say you are overprotective, neither can i say you love her too much. Just sort this out now, before it becomes a serious problem. TATA.
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• Philippines
18 May 10
I told my gf about this and i think she understands how i feel. I'm avoiding the guy just to avoid having tension.
• Philippines
18 May 10
I a way yes. Actually it a social site and i'm just irritated and i hate the feeling.
@saphrina (31552)
• South Africa
18 May 10
May i ask if this is a friend of hers?
@basqui (3888)
• Philippines
18 May 10
Well, all people who went though having relationships really experienced what you've stated. Well, it's normal because you don't want to loose your girl of course. I've lost some in my life. Well, just control yourself not to accuse her but instead show her more than the guy can give her. If he could make her smile then make her laugh! If he gives her flowers then give her bouquets! If he makes her cry then make her not. lol. I don't know if it has sense for you but I hope this helps! Keep in mind that too much jealousy is poison. Good luck!
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• Philippines
19 May 10
That a good point n_n Too much jealousy = poison in a relationship. Ill try to be more understanding next time :D
@basqui (3888)
• Philippines
19 May 10
Of course it is, Hope you'll love your girl more not only by having jealousy.
• Philippines
19 May 10
No your not being overprotective, in the first place you did not say, "hey you princess stop talking to guys, you make me feel uncomfy". But as I had read she already know that's nice. If you are feeling uncomfortable over her and with some other guys she have the right to know about it, so that she can solved it right away. Good thing she knows it now. Just always be open to her and hopefully she is open to you too.
• Philippines
19 May 10
I'll never be bossy with my girl, cause i know she wouldn't like it and i think its a very inappropriate way of talking to women. I'm always open with the people i love n_n.
@myramae19 (667)
• Philippines
20 May 10
That is what you call INSECURITIES... you're not over protective, you are being insecure, that's normal in a relationship..remain as what you are to your gf,or if you can still improve,impress her that would be cool..and always be confident
• Philippines
20 May 10
Yup i think i should impress her more thats why i'm on a diet :D i'm trying to prove that i can keep my word :D
• India
19 May 10
I think you are overprotective. I was watching a movie few days back and the guy used to beat her girlfriend if she talk to any boy other than him and finaly they broke up. I would suggest you to give her space and trust her. If you interfare in every matter of her, may be she will not like and a doubt may be taking place in the relation.
• Philippines
19 May 10
Hmmm thats really scary :( but am i just protecting my relationship? what wrong with that?
• Philippines
19 May 10
Ok i understand that i shouldn't eat up her space n_n. All i can do now is trust her n_n.
• India
19 May 10
Nothing wrong protecting your relation but this does not seem a good way to me. You should respect her privacy. She is a human being and will talk to others but may not be the way she talks to you.
@kooltiger (848)
• Pakistan
19 May 10
i think your feeling is very natural at this time.. here in this situation ur girl friend need to understand your feeling that you a are not comfortable on what she does.. so she she should get rid of those habits which you dont like.. if she really loves and cares about you..
• Philippines
19 May 10
Well sir i'm trying to avoid tension in the relationship and i don't like forcing her into doing stuff. I think she understands that i'm very uncomfortable in that situation. n_n
@syankee525 (6261)
• United States
18 May 10
humm. it might be more being jealous. but also overprotective. with us guys i think we often dont worry about our women but worry more about other guys, because we know how some guys can be and we worry about them hitting on our wife or g/f. but you need to have trust in her, if not then it will make issues for you and her. but i also think if us guys have female friends we need to let her wife or g/f meet them, same for women if they have guys friends then husband or g/f should meet them
@junrapmian (2169)
• Philippines
19 May 10
You're just jealous! Why can't you trust her? If you know that she loves you and she has faith in you, better give her your trust. I know you love her so but you must remember that in a relationship, trust is one of the factors to get it going. Don't get jealous, she's just being friendly. You can't be so over possessive of her cause she might not feel good about it and you might be left alone crying.
• Philippines
19 May 10
OK thanks for clearing up things for me n_n. I think i was just being so possessive and i over looked the fact that shes just friendly n_n. Thanks for the advice :D
• Philippines
19 May 10
Hey cmon, you're not being overprotective. Maybe you just love your girl so much that you're uncomfortable with such guys. Well I'm happy to know that you're such a great lover to your girl. Well just trust your girl so that you'll be comfortable with what she and other people are doing. :P
• Philippines
19 May 10
I trust her and i love her thats just it. :p