Am I a racist? I don't think so...

We can not control who we fall in love with. Are you going to loose a daughter by taking this stance? Live & let live and let your daughter be happy. Not giving your blessing just because of nationality is racist. Think of it another way would you rather she married somone from the same nationality that beat her and made her life a nighmare?

who cares if u feel u r racist or not. why ask?..u're not marrying the guy, so it shouldnt be any of your concern unless he is abusive 2 your daughter. all that should matter 2 u is whether or not she's happy. isnt that what every parent wants. (God forbid your daughter had become a lesbian - i can only imagine - can u say disown?) what does your husband/daughter's father feel? (4give the question if he isnt living). i just have 1 question 4 u. how will u deal w/the grandchildren? r they gonna be outcasts just b/c u've chosen not 2 accept their father?

I have been in churches before where someone was asked to leave, strictly because of the color of their skin...would the congregation there be justified in such a thing because "we don't want to share our church with someone of a different race".. I mean many church congregations consider themselves a family and it's their choice..right? To deny your child your blessing in her marriage, based on his being a different race is racist any way you want to look at it and to me...arguing it with "yes but I have friends of all different nationalities, so see I'm not a racist" is tantamount to justifing slavery saying...well yes we owned slaves...but we were good owners and didnt beat our slaves and treated them well....still doesn't change the fact that it was slavery.

No to sound rude but i believe in a respect for peoples fealings. Even though you may not feal that is right you should not stand in the way of love. Your daughter can not help who she has fallen inlove with...You may not be racist exactly but you are defininantly selfish for not letting your daughter have your blessing for her happiness, just becuse the person that make her happy is a different nationality.

Agreeing with crofter9, true love has no color.

I can't say whether you are a racist or not, that's not my place. But what I will do is give you some insightful information. I myself am of mixed race. Where I grew up, almost everyone is mixed race, except for those who came directly from another country. What made where I live so beautiful and friendly is that all these different cultures got along, and everyone got along with each other. What I think you're afraid of is your daughter losing her sense of culture, or the way your grandchildren will be raised. Most children of mixed races are beautiful, and they can adapt to both cultures. It is what will make them who they are. I seriously think you need to rethink about your daughter getting married to a guy of another race because love is blind to color. Now if he wasn't a good person, then that's an acceptable excuse. And it doesn't matter if you have friends of different nationalities, because that's different, that's friendship, not accepting them into your family. And even if the Hispanic culture only accepts marrying another hispanic person, it needs to change. That's why America is the Melting Pot of the world, because all these cultures come together.

Give her your blessings. There are a lot worse choices she could make than that. If they loves each other and he is a good person in every other way what is wrong with that? How many nationalities are in your heritage?

Here is the definition of racism: 1. animosity toward other races: prejudice or animosity against people who belong to other races 2. belief in racial superiority: the belief that people of different races have different qualities and abilities, and that some races are inherently superior or inferior so you need to ask yourself why you dont think people should marry outside of their own race? and keep the definition in mind when you answer. i would say that you are being racist if you believe that they are inferior because they arent of the same race as you, but i do understand what you mean. i dont think there is anything wrong with trying to carry on your heritage. trying to preserve your family history by marrying someone of the same heritage isn't necessarily racist, but if you think its because they arent good enough, then you are being racist. personally, i would give my daughter my blessing. she is an adult and is going to make decisions in her life that you dont agree with, but its her life. you need to be secure enough in yourself to know that you did the best you could raising her to be a loving, responsible adult. and you certainly wouldnt want to lose her completely just because you dont approve of her choices.

Yes, I think you are racist for thinking like this. If you really believed people of al nationalites and races are equal, then you would have no problem with nationality of the person your daughter wants to marry. I’d understand if you didn’t give your blessing because you do not like the way he treats her, or because he has no respect for women, or even if he couldn’t afford to support her. Would you refuse to give her your blessing if he had green eyes instead of blue eyes? Of course not! But when you think of it, this isn’t much different. It’s just a difference of pigmentation, eyes, skin, hair, none if it changes the quality if the person within. And the person within is who your daughter loves and wants to marry. So, I repeat my answer. YES. In spite of what you’d like to think, YOU ARE RACIST. I’m glad your daughter didn’t pick up that trait from you, otherwise she may have missed out on the love of her life.

Sorry but I think that is a racist view. When someone says I have friends that are such and such race/nationality BUT I don't want my child marrying said race/nationality...that's a red flag.

I don't think you are racist. My parents went through the same thing with me. You see I am bosnian and my wife is mexican. When we told our parents we wanted to get married they were very mad. It is only INSECURITY WHAT YOU FEEL. We've been married for 2 and a half years and everything is going great. I think if you really love your daughter you will trust her to make this decision as an adult. Who knows maybe your new in-law will be the amazing!

Do I think your a racist, who knows, I don't know you personally, but that is pretty closed minded to say that to your daughter. I am white and married a Philipina. If my parents would have told me what you said to your daughter I would have told them to kiss my butt and left. You should be a little more open minded about such things. We are one race! Humans! Just because we are different colors does not make us different.

Its unfortunate that you feel this way because it only hurts your daughter....it doesn't necessarily make you a racist but it does prove that you are a very selfish man!I say this because you put what you want before the wants and needs of your child. BTW...my oldest daughter is white and married to a black man for about 14 yrs now and I am proud to call him my son-in-law!!!

People that hide behind the color barrier.....the life they miss, how boring would this planet be if it was all the same color.... Do you paint your house white...be kinda plain and boring if you did...not much to talk about now would it just a plain white house.... I HATE RACIST PEOPLE...I HATE EVEN MORE THE ONES THAT ARE SO IGNORANT THAT CAN'T EVEN SEE THEY ARE.

I don't think you are necessarily a racist but the color of one's skin should not matter, it is what is inside that truly counts. If you were blind and did not know the color of this person's skin and your daughter described him as loving, caring, faithful and compassionate wouldn't you want here to be with such a wonderful man? I think this is the problem with society today, focused on the superficial elements instead of the deeper ones. I believe one day we will all be one color, one beautiful color :)

Everyone has their own beliefs, personally i believe that love is nothing to do with race or nationality i think you should have given your blessing (i would say it hurt your daughter that you didn't) but that is my belief and each to their own, all races are beautiful and different and love is a common denominator.

Yes, you are being racist. And if you do not give her your blessing, she may just do it to spite you. Give her your blessing, cause if she has kids with him, you will have to change your mind to see them....and by then, it may be too late.

yup you are. from another rce? i hope she does not want to marry a monkey. because we are all the same race. people. and have you ever put yourself in her position? what would have you done if you were her and your parents didn't allow you to marry who you love? think about this

As quite a few people have said... True love knows no color; your daughter did not, persay, choose to fall in love with someone you would not like. I do find what you are doing racist and I hope you find it in your heart to give your blessings to the new couple - it may take you a while to get used to it, but do at least give them a chance =)

Yes, you are racist. You are seeing people for their race and not themselves. I am white. My best friend is black and my boyfriend is hispanic. Had I not associated with them because of their race I would have missed out on knowing some great people!