My baby daddy Threatened me?!
By Lxandra79
@Lxandra79 (1535)
United States
May 20, 2010 12:49am CST
My baby daddy wanted to 'talk' to me, I was like alright (and this is out of court that we had a few minutes) about my baby daddy abusing my kid.
Anyways...so when we got out of the court and we were in the lobby, he said that I should stop child support for $1000 and I was like 'What'?! Hell no!
Do you believe that?! for only $1000...he said this because he dont want to get his license taken away. I personally dont give a crap!
Another thing he said is that he has proof of a lie I said (which I dont!) and I dont know how he has proof, because I always do things LEGALLY.
I got my sons passport by showing them my sons birth certificate and when they asked me where is the dad, I told them the truth, I didnt know where that man is at (he moved alot) and he said that he has proof and that he can send to jail for that that that is illegal?
I was pretty much not wanting to hear that BS, so I was walking away..and he was like 'wait are you walking away..and I was like yea...im not gonna hear that crap!'
So at the end he screamed at me saying that he was going to take my son away from me by filing sole custody.
So pretty much he is going to spread lies about me and take my son away from me, If I dont take him off child support.
-So just so you know, that this man has not been in my sons life since he was born, he has only seen my son for about a month to put it together in his whole 10 years!
-He doesn't work, his wife or girlfriend supports him.
-He abused my son made his skin black and purple by whipping him with the belt.
-He stopped paying me child support since last June.
So please any lawyers or anyone out there if you please can read this and tell me can he take my baby away from me..let me know.
Also is what he said to me a 'Threat'??
TEll me what I can do!
File a statement and give it to the judge? or my sons Guardian Litem????
5 responses
@syankee525 (6249)
• United States
20 May 10
well first of all. hell male bushing time..
i hate so call men like this. who think he is all man, if he was man enough to lay down and make that poor baby, he needs stop being a worthless ^$$$^&*** @##$%^^&**^%$#$# &*%^%$$$$ take care of his son.
a real man first of all wouldnt abuse his own child, second of all even if he isnt with you, wouldnt have an issue of paying to take care of his own. i would love to punch him in the face.
no he just cant go to the judge and say you are doing this or that, he have to prove it first of all. he have to show you are an unfit mothers, but from reading what you wrote, you got an easier chance to prove he's unfit father.
they will look and see he dont have a job, and dont have a permit housing for your son. if you dont have a lawyer get one and talk to you.
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@frontvisions101 (16043)
• Philippines
20 May 10
I suggest you file for court because you that it's the right thing to do and you want to keep your child more than anything, right? I suggest to do it.
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@spalladino (17891)
• United States
20 May 10
I'm not a lawyer but I can tell you that most states will not give sole custody to the father unless the mother is proven to be unfit. The court will also not give sole custody to a father who has not had a longstanding, regular relationship with his child. Many times this threat is made in an effort to get the mother to drop a child support case but few follow up on the threat and even less win in court.
As far as the threat goes...threatening to file for sole custody is not a crime. My best advice to you is to be the best mother to your child that you can be. Make sure that you're taking good care of him, that you're living in a stable home and that he goes to school. People can make claims against you but, in a court of law, the evidence is what matters so make sure that this man has no evidence that he can use against you.
@Lxandra79 (1535)
• United States
20 May 10
About the passport, I didnt do anything wrong.
I just did what your supposed to do and give out my sons birth certificate.
He says he has proof of some lies? yea right...I know he is just trying to scare me.
About the threat, I asked around and that is a threat, and it is illegal.
I just wanted to find out what other pplz had to say about this.
Thanx for your answer!
Take care :)
@rosie230 (1700)
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20 May 10
Yes i would take it as a threat, and I was also file this, I also have to say that I am unaware of any father getting sole custody of the child unless there is a known or proven problem with the mother... The father could get access but if he is proven to be violent or abusive then this might not be allowed and if it was allowed i would say that the only access he would get would be like access that is monitored or watched by someone, he would not be allowed to be alone with the child... also I dont know whether this helps or even if your child has ever known the father, but i know some children can speak for themselves in a court of law about seeing their father etc... i am not a lawyer, but perhaps this is something that you may be able to look into.
@elvieb02 (694)
• Philippines
20 May 10
I suggest that you file the "Threat" to the police to have it record, then go to a family lawyer, the lawyer will assist you on what to do for legalities. It's your son's life at stake here and you know that he only wants to take your son away from you as a revenge or to hurt you. Good luck!
@Lxandra79 (1535)
• United States
20 May 10
I know he just wants to hurt me, he just wants to win pretty much, he doesnt even know my son like that, I dont think he really cares for him.
But I am, Im going to make a 'statement' and give it to my sons guardian litem and the jugdge.
