If you were an Enron wife....

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Atlantic City, New Jersey
May 20, 2010 7:33am CST
Okay so we've all heard the story of the Enron execs. My question is how much do you think the wives were actually involved in? I have read that some have been brought up on charges themselves- but these were the wives that held roles such as secretarys, or even corporate board secretarys such as Jillings wife. I'm talking about the wives who just sat home and reaped the benefits. How much do you think they really knew about their husbands day to day business transactions? Are wives expected to be on alert and know everything of their husbands business? Are wives supposed to ask questions when there is such a substantial amount of income flowing in? Or, did they vow to trust their partners? I was thinking about this this morning and couldn't help but put myself in the shoes of one of these wives. If I trusted my husband enough to marry him I don't see myself saying at the breakfast table "Baby, where did that extra 300,000 in our account come from?" Now, I will say that I don't know first hand because I have never been married. But I would love for the married people here on mylot to give me their perspective of it- both men and woman. For men: Would you get offended if your wife asked you how you put the bread on the table? Or question how your doing business? For woman: Would you let yourself be put in a position of now knowing and just live and reap the benefits? or would you question everything and make sure you other half is doing the right thing? I tend to think I would question anything I found out of the ordinary- because we are married and whatever he does reflects on me and vice versa.
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• Canada
20 May 10
I wouldnt ask where the money is coming from. To be honest with you, if I had a husband bringing in so much money, Id be too busy having fun shopping and not working myself, Id keep busy painting or socializing, so I wouldnt have time to ask such trivial questions lol. My present husband is not making millions (too bad lol) but I still dont know how much he's making a year. He pays the bills, takes care of everything and I dont even know how much money we have in our account. Yes I know its stupid but I used to take care of everything and one day decided it was HIS turn to do it all. We've been together 30 yrs, I did my part the first 15 yrs and now he does. So Id be the wife who honestly doesnt know.
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• Atlantic City, New Jersey
20 May 10
See I tend to think I would be the same way. I'm glad to know that I didn't think that way just because I have never been married. 30 years of marriage is more than enough to trust your partner fully so if I were in your position I would ask any question either. That gets me to thinking- how many of the guilty Enron exces were married 20+ years? I'm sure that has to make a difference in whether they would have asked or been suspicious or not.
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• Singapore
24 May 10
warmweatherwoman, I am sure that you are aware that one of the aspect where couples will work on is financial compatibility where we learn about how the other party handle monies, financial goals, financial decisions and most of all manage the family's financial portfolio. Honestly, from young I learn and never doubt the capability and prudence of a woman and her finances. Hence, I would not have any hesitation or reservations to hand over everything to the woman I love - my wife. So, there will be nothing for me to hide at my end and everything is open to her. Being my wife, she is not only responsible supporting me but also my moral support and police. As such, I would never feel offended or be at odds when she comes forward with her doubts and reservations and as her husband, I have to be responsible for my actions, where my family will have to take priority and the last thing I would want to do is jeopardize the family, my wife and myself. I will never feel offended because her doubts and questions are her concerns, cares and most of all love.
• Atlantic City, New Jersey
24 May 10
Actually no, I'm not aware about that because I have never been, and may never be, married. So my understaning of a married relationship is nil to none...lol. If I were to ever be married I would hope that my husband does not get offended if I happen to ask how, when, why, or who questions. I would like to think that it takes two to make a marriage- so both should be included in the decisions in the home- even those including money.
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