Broaden your horizons

@arystine (1275)
Philippines
May 20, 2010 10:09pm CST
How do you deal with narrow-minded people? I dislike individuals who are narrow-minded. It's hard to move when there are narrow-minded people around. They interpret actions on the worst possible way you can imagine. I have been a victim of a narrow-minded person. I was just minding my own business but I did not know that my actions were already misinterpreted on several ways. It's difficult to deal and trust again people like this. How do you cope with these kind of people?
11 responses
@bystander (2299)
• Philippines
21 May 10
at first sign, get away from them. i have no patience of myopic and narrow-minded people. they constrict the view and pull down the level of thinking. they should be fried with an oyster sauce or tied to a pole right in the middle of an ant mound.
@arystine (1275)
• Philippines
23 May 10
I like your last statement. Very well-said. Applause for you. :-)
@bystander (2299)
• Philippines
24 May 10
that's a gustatory play of words... thanks... are we friends yet?
@dloveli (4368)
• United States
21 May 10
I totally relate to what you're saying. I dont let them get to me. Narrow-minded people SUCK! They think that it's their way or no way. I have no patience for that type of bull cocky. I am an outspoken person. I let people know what's on my mind. If they dont like it. Then houston we have a problem.... If someone misinterprets your actions and they dont ask you, then Forget them. It's not up to you to spend the rest of your life making sure you are not misinterpreted. Its called OPENMINDEDNESS! You are not the perpetrator! You are the victim! You shouldnt make any changes to suit another. I would tell a narrow minded person off. I dont care what they think. Im going to be the best I can be. If they dont lIke it Tough Sh** for them. I really dont cope. I get so irritated that I feel like I want to beat the crap out of some of them. I know its not the right thing but its like I feel it would be the best thing. I never do it. Im not proud of the fact that I feel this way but some people push us to the limit. I watch court shows on the TV and some of them are about this very subject. I feel for the people who have gotten sued for hitting someone. But I bet you nine out of ten times they deserved it! Sorry to say. That's why I try to live and let live. My opinions are just that. MY OPINIONS. Bottomline: Dont sweat it. The more you worry about a person the more power you are giving them. If we ignore them we arent fueling their fires. Eventually their fires go out. We walk away feel victorious. Knowing that in NO WAY did we play into their game. That's the worst revenge of all. I promise. dl
@arystine (1275)
• Philippines
23 May 10
Way to go, dloveli! I like it when you say that narrow-minded people suck. 'Coz they totally do. And I'll try to spend the rest of my life avoiding people like them and their miserable life. LOL. Thanks for the response. :-)
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@dloveli (4368)
• United States
24 May 10
No problem! I try to stay true to myself. And that means saying what I feel. That is definitely something I am passionate about. We'll have to start a group called PON. People against narrowmindedness. I didnt want to put the m in so I made it one word.lol dl
@bounce58 (17450)
• Canada
27 May 10
I've actually learned that being 'narrow-minded' is a by-product of the culture that we're in. I used to deal with people like that in a previous life. To the point that you are limited in the things you can do. But ever since my move, I've realized that the 'limits' shouldn't affect me. That there is another world out there where this kind of thinking is not the norm and should be frowned upon. Don't let this person get you down. It's his/her problem, not yours. On another note, how are you?
@arystine (1275)
• Philippines
31 May 10
Hi bounce. I'm doing okay. How are you? Still doing a lot of traveling? Always take care. :-)
@mackiejp (376)
• Philippines
24 May 10
We are on the same boat Ms.Arystine...there are people I have known to be so narrow-minded...but I tend not to think & pay much attention on what they think about, because no matter how explanation we give to defend ourselves their minds are closed to understand what we mean. Don't be bothered by these bigots. They are who they are & we are who we are...Stand firm don't let them get in to you. They will laugh behind you if they see you affected & irritated of what they are doing to intimidate you.Always remember this "IF YOU CONQUERED YOUR ANGER, YOU DEFEATED AN ENEMY".Don't be caught up by your anger, you just give those people the chance to win...:)
@arystine (1275)
• Philippines
27 May 10
Thanks mackiejp. I really try to avoid narrow-minded people. Sometimes,however, they go overboard that it would be impossible not to be irritated. But I always try to tell myself that I should not let them get me. Thanks again for the response.
@veejay19 (3590)
• India
21 May 10
I usually avoid narrow minded people and i am successful in doing so.If some one persists in coming to me i tell them straight away that their attitude is wrong.
@arystine (1275)
• Philippines
23 May 10
Yes, avoidance is prevention. That's how I deal with narrow-minded people nowadays. LOL.
@picjim (3003)
• India
21 May 10
Ignore these people.Do not attempt to get close to them or even wonder why they think in their warped way.There is no point spoiling our mind thinking how these people will interpret our next move.Its best to concentrate on the task at hand rather than be diverted by their stupid ways.In our hearts we know why we took a certain decision if it is misinterpreted its not our fault as we had only good intentions in our mind.
@arystine (1275)
• Philippines
21 May 10
Yes, I will try to ignore them. But it's hard not be pissed off sometimes. I like your term, "warped". because that's really how they think... in their own twisted way. Thanks for the response.
@cher913 (25861)
• Canada
23 May 10
sadly, some people just dont want to change. they think everything that comes out of their mouth is the gospel truth. i spend as little time as possible with these types of people!
• Philippines
22 May 10
Narrow-minded people are everywhere, sad to say. when I meet one I ignore them unless I have proven how they critic me harshly at my back. During gradeschool i have met this kind of people already. When i was young I am afraid to have enemies, but sooner or later I wonder why do I have to be afraid because of assumption of other people about my action. That is only their judgement, the truth is inside me and I know that because I know myself. Since then I ignore this kind of people because it is a waste of time dealing with them. But don't let me hear what they are saying to me because I will not tolerate it. I get even and I enjoy it. But only to those narrow minded people for them to realize their mistake. That not all people will be agreeing on them. No, no no not me sorry. At first I will allow them to do their thing and later I will attack on them badly. Just ignore them first, if you hold the truth then the time will come and explode it. Everything has an end.
@qamarep (4448)
• Pakistan
21 May 10
i dont mix up witht hose kind of people i stay away from them.. none of my friends is like this now
@bren_yrra (354)
• Philippines
21 May 10
All of us have weaknesses.It's a really a big challenge to be in a situation wherein the person you are dealing with is a narrow- minded person.I admit that I really don't like a person who has a narrow-minded attitude and this is one thing i want to overcome.I should be good to everyone.I usually handle this situation by being patient as much as I can and avoid any argumentation.I should be proactive instead of being reactive. I experienced to be misinterpreted many times so it's really a big challenge how to deal with that person. I think it's a matter of having a good attitude and learn to be mature whenever a challenge comes.
• Philippines
21 May 10
If that person is not your boss then just ignore him. If they think like that to others then most probably they think like that to themselves. They're pessimistic. They constantly bring themselves down and they want you to fall down with them.