A very annoying gay person....
By Theresaaiza
@Theresaaiza (10487)
Australia
May 21, 2010 12:15am CST
...no relevance on the sexuality of the person, okay? So no, I am not gay bashing here.
This person was a self-centered, self-adoring, conceited, selfish and screaming for attention PIG!
Well okay, last weekend we went on a tour with my close friends when this person tagged himself along.
So we got on with our trip, happy to have someone around who was entertaining to keep us from sleeping in the van. When we got to our destination, I volunteered to be the photographer so that I'd feel useful.
Then this person started asking me to have his picture taken, one picture after another, like an ultimate photo maniac, like facebook could not survive without having thousands of his face uploaded each day!
What was really unfair was that when it was his turn to take our picture he would do it so quickly that the people wouldn't even have the time to pose properly. After that he would pose again and ask anyone with a cam to take his photo. Some obliged to keep from offending him.
Can you tolerate people who act like this? Well I can't, and I ignored him all the way back to the city. He wasn't that fun to be with at all!
What was really unfair was that when it was his turn to take our picture he would do it so quickly that the people wouldn't even have the time to pose properly. After that he would pose again and ask anyone with a cam to take his photo. Some obliged to keep from offending him.
Can you tolerate people who act like this? Well I can't, and I ignored him all the way back to the city. He wasn't that fun to be with at all!1 person likes this
8 responses
@sid556 (30960)
• United States
21 May 10
Hi Theresaaiza,
I know both gay and not gay people that are arrogant and self-centered like you describe. They seem to crave attention and make sure they get it....all of it. I'm not sure that telling them would do anything to help the situation. When critisized they get mad and are still obnoxious only in a different way. I usually avoid being in situations where I have to spend much time with these kinds of people.
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@Theresaaiza (10487)
• Australia
21 May 10
That's probably the exact reason why I held back. It would be to no avail anyway. I did wish I could make him realize that he was snatching the limelight to himself but I probably just never had the guts.
@Theresaaiza (10487)
• Australia
23 May 10
Maybe some people are too addicted to their face that they would summon all powers that be just to get the pictorial sessions they always wanted.
@LetranKnight25 (33121)
• Philippines
21 May 10
Probably i would avoid them if by chance they try to be attention seekers, i personally wouldn't want to ruin they're day. but of course, as long as they don't show and tell foul words on you. just let them be and talk to them so why they want so much in they're photos.
@frontvisions101 (16043)
• Philippines
21 May 10
You should've just ignored him all throughout. Lol. I hate attention freaks. If i were you i should've shoved the cam straight to his face. Lol. :) i'Ve met someone like this. The best solution is to just shut them out. Cut the attention you're giving them cuz. that's all they want
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@grecychunny26 (9483)
• Philippines
22 May 10
The more you ignore this kind of person the more they continue to ruined the day. I were there, I ruined his face. I am not really affected isn't i? 
. If I knew a person like this I will never give him a good treatment.
. If I knew a person like this I will never give him a good treatment.@Theresaaiza (10487)
• Australia
23 May 10
Hi to both of you, 
, I think my bad mood finally settled and I'm better now. Looking back, he wasn't exactly that bad. Yes, a little rude, and selfish, and all those things I mentioned but I guess he deserved a kind treatment from us.
Anyway, I did kind of ignored him on the way back home. There were times he called my name to again get his pic taken but I pretended to be busy with something else. He must have taken the hint and eventually got off my back.
, I think my bad mood finally settled and I'm better now. Looking back, he wasn't exactly that bad. Yes, a little rude, and selfish, and all those things I mentioned but I guess he deserved a kind treatment from us.
Anyway, I did kind of ignored him on the way back home. There were times he called my name to again get his pic taken but I pretended to be busy with something else. He must have taken the hint and eventually got off my back.@Theresaaiza (10487)
• Australia
21 May 10
I wish I did! But I didn't want to ruin the fun. He did make us laugh at some point but his annoying behavior outweighed his positive contribution!
Oh, dear, I've been rambling.
Oh, dear, I've been rambling.
@moonchild117 (1987)
• Philippines
21 May 10
When I'm in a situation when an annoying person is in my company and I really have no choice, I just ignore that person. It's kinda effective, that person does not bother me with ridiculous things or whatever. I guess next time, if you have a choice, stay away from him. Or if you can't control the situation, just ignore him. But if you can speak your mind to him, maybe you can tell him straight into his face that he's being annoying so that he gets the message immediately.
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@Theresaaiza (10487)
• Australia
21 May 10
After all, I volunteered to be the photographer. I just didn't know I was prone to abuse later that day!
@catdla1 (6005)
• United States
21 May 10
Some people really believe that their behavior is 'cute'. I have known people of all orientations who fit this bill. As a friend, you have to know that it will continue unless some one 'teaches' him otherwise.
When he snapped a few quickies of the group, not letting anyone pose, you (as the photographer) should have quietly told him, "I took some really nice shots of you. Unless you reciprocate and take nice shots of others, I will DELETE them ALL"! After he took better shots, you could have thanked him.
This person sounds like he has a lot of insecurities. It is possible to slowly alter the behavior within your group, and keep him as a friend. The ideal thing would be to have whoever the 'best' friend was, sit and have a talk with him.
Good luck.
@catdla1 (6005)
• United States
23 May 10
I used to have a problem with assertiveness. Then as I got older I found that my age gave me a slight advantage. I discovered this by accident one day. At a shopping mall, shoppers were being annoyed by young children who were running around playing tag - and in the process knocking into shoppers and being disruptive in general. I stared at the 'leader' and said STOP. And they did...lol.
There's a golden age where you are old enough not to be intimidated, but not so old that others view you as 'doddering'. I guess I've gotten to that age 
@Theresaaiza (10487)
• Australia
24 May 10
I get what you mean. When I was old enough to go shopping with my mother, I couldn't unerstand why and how she could successfully persuade the sellers to lower down the prices of their goods, or how she manages to argue with public vehicle drivers, because I just couldn' seem to do that.
I wish she stayed long enough for me to learn that art. Now I guess I am on my own.
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@Theresaaiza (10487)
• Australia
23 May 10
I can try that maneuver on the next person with the same attitude, or probably on him if ever we get to see each other again. He came from somewhere else so it was just a one-time thing.
And yes, I should try to develop the attitude of assertiveness. You see, I just tend to keep quiet about how I feel. Like what I did, ranting it over myLot instead.
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@LetranKnight25 (33121)
• Philippines
21 May 10
Hello Theresaaiza,
If there is one thing that I learned from arguing with the Hyper active Homosexuals with a bit of insecure concerns, You DON't Piss them off. i wouldn't mind tolerating that kind of behavior but there won't be a second time since they're just bunch of attention seekers, but totally different from guys, i can tell that's his hobby.
I had some debates with people who supported Noynoy and there was this Gay instructor who is so offended even thought i am already telling the truth about the country's situation. he called me basher but he just didn't understand it because he felt insulted but why get insulted if it's the truth, but i stop since there's no point in continuing. @grecychunny26 (9483)
• Philippines
22 May 10
You sound like a basher to him because he can't defend his side, true and clear 
. But not all gays are annoying, really. Some are smart and respectable.
. But not all gays are annoying, really. Some are smart and respectable.@Theresaaiza (10487)
• Australia
23 May 10
Hi richnai, LK (up there), is a very politically-involved citizen, and well, sometimes I get the feeling that he is anti NOYNOY AQUINO!
I hate to say this over at myLot, but let's face it, some gays are just....just....I don't know, they are SUPERLATIVE DEGREE! for lack of the right words to say.
I have decent gay friends and they are happy but they don't have to behave so $lutty or pushy or know-it-all or so attention hungry!
But okay, that is trailing off on the essence of this discussion. Just saying...
Anyway, thanks to LK, grecy, and richnai for posting!
I hate to say this over at myLot, but let's face it, some gays are just....just....I don't know, they are SUPERLATIVE DEGREE! for lack of the right words to say.
I have decent gay friends and they are happy but they don't have to behave so $lutty or pushy or know-it-all or so attention hungry!
But okay, that is trailing off on the essence of this discussion. Just saying...
Anyway, thanks to LK, grecy, and richnai for posting!
@ichipink (541)
• Philippines
21 May 10
I think I know how you feel. I know someone like him, but the only difference is she's a girl. The problem is none of us has the guts to tell her about it. *sigh*
I think you should try to do the same with this guy. Let someone with guts to talk about his attitude. Tell it to him nicely and maybe he would realize his mistake.
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@Theresaaiza (10487)
• Australia
21 May 10
Well nobody was blunt enough to call him off because well it was supposed to be a fun trip and maybe no one wanted to ruin the fun that we were already having.
I guess in life we will always bump into a person who has the capacity to stimulate our nerves.
@grecychunny26 (9483)
• Philippines
22 May 10
"a person who has the capacity to stimulate our nerves" great term, I will used this one to people that annoys me. I am asking your permission Theresaaiza!
@Theresaaiza (10487)
• Australia
23 May 10
Hi grecy....last time I remembered, I didn't file for a copyright for that phrase so go ahead, use it and be an inspiration to many people as I have inspired you!
@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
22 May 10
hi theresaaiza Nope its hard to be around someone like that and I have met a few women like that. they butt in where they are not expected, and try to take over every conversation, talk over other people's voices and are just generally obnoxious all around. They brag about themselves and talk non stop, and always think theirs is the only wayto do something. I got so I just ducked out when I saw this one obnoxious woman headed my way. I did not stick around and be driven nuts by her.
@Theresaaiza (10487)
• Australia
23 May 10
I know how that feels!
I'm glad I won't be seeing that person too in a long while.
@Harita91 (22)
• New Delhi, India
24 Feb 16
When he asks for a pic huddle everyone else around the camera make him pose and take innumerable selfie s with your group . the more confusing and deranged your expression looks to him the harder he will try for the perfect pose and u my friend will have the last laugh. Cheers !
